How to improve ourselves? (III)

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"To be of good quality, you have to excuse yourself from the presence of shallow and callow minded individuals".

Michael Bassey Johnson

I left my hometown for another state yesterday and it was a stressful journey for me. I wasn't able to visit articles, only a few. I will try my best today God willingly.

For two days now, I have started a series on how to improve ourselves and I am so grateful for all your comments. It is because of you guys, I am getting better and trying to work on my writing too because I wouldn't want to give out a meaningless article but something we all would learn from.

If you missed the first two parts of the series, you can just click the links. I promise, they are worth reading and you will enjoy them.

How to improve ourselves?

How to improve ourselves? (II)


So for today's segment, it would be;

Make yourself your best friend and stay away from negative people.

What makes you happy and inspired? Is it not the positive thoughts you fill your mind with? Is it not the beautiful things and compliments you keep hearing every day? Positive words lift your soul while negative ones bring you down. There wouldn't be inspiration when all you have occupied your mind with is negative words and being around shallow minded people.

You are a writer and you need someone to check what you write and the only thing you hear is that "you write woefully" how would you feel? Even though you know you made your research well and did your best. Just like the story I gave yesterday, the painter could have just listened to his heart which I would call "his best friend" rather than listening to the opinions of people who went about spoiling his creativity and couldn't help. These are, of course, negative people standing in your way.

Your heart should be your best friend because it will not disappoint you only if you do not want it to. Your heart may be saying something but because you are doubting your ability, you went ahead to seek people's validation and being the negative ones, they pull you down with bad words and make you see yourself as nothing.

Two hours spent with a toxic or negative individual might be worse than thirty minutes listening to your favourite programs. Why is this so? You will gain and learn a lot from the program than wasting your precious two hours listening to the irrelevant talk.

Mind you, negative people find their ways sugarcoating words to you and making you feel like you are enjoying it but they are trying to weigh you down and see you as someone who isn't time conscious on important things.

You are your own best friend. No one would be willing to help you or speak positive words to you except for those who truly care just like I said yesterday.

Negative people are toxic ones who do not have any other business but to utter words of doubt, and pain and make you hurt yourself.

I know there are negative people around me but many times, I go to them just to hear them. This will in a way help me know the true ones who want the best for me. I believe many of us do this sometimes. You already know within you that you did the best work but you just want to hear from other people to see where you'd class or rank them.

To try something, write number six and show it to someone upside down, you know it is six you have written but you just want to play along to know if they aren't trying to stop you. They will insist it is not six and try finding ways to justify their claims and in the end, would make you want to change your mind to believe it is not what you wrote.

You see, people are ready to justify their claims with negativity thereby making you feel bad and unsure about yourself.

In this case, the only person you should listen to is your heart - your best friend.

Even the person you call your best friend would try to say otherwise leaving you to be confused if what you are trying to do is right or wrong. This is in no way ignoring the fact that you should seek advice because we all need it but when your heart is making you see it as if it's the right thing which they are making wrong for you, ignore them and follow your heart.


How do you stay away from negative people?

Remember they are also toxic people and if you aren't quick to disengage from them, they will successfully finish their aims on you.

Make time for your best friend and guard it. Stop wasting your time unnecessarily when you have a lot to do. They give excuses and reasons why you should stay when you know what you have on your desk. You should know when to have fun from working on a deadline.

Choose your attitude. The best way to ruin your mood is to allow negative people in your life. When you give room for these kinds of people, pessimistic ones to dictate your emotions, they would have full power over you. Learn to change your attitude by spending time more on people you know would make your day productive and ignore the bad egg in your basket.

Refocus your thoughts. When you keep thinking, dreading, and fretting about what other people would say concerning your work, it will spoil your moment and make it an unproductive one for you, instead redirect your focus to positive thoughts by believing in what you can offer and how you can monopolize your time.

To be continued...

Thanks for reading

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If we allow ourselves to be led by our hearts then we cannot go wrong. Be kind and gentle with ourselves. Pursue what brings us joy and happiness. To quote Desiderate "Avoid the loud and aggressive for they are vexations to the soul" :-) Big hugs and keep writing. I am enjoying seeing your quality pieces in Dreemport!

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Yes, I love the quote too. Thank you for coming by my post from Dreemport πŸ€—

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This is a very informative article, it's so sad you have to stress yourself even after that journey just to give us this to read.

Making ourselves our best friend is a very good idea and one of the hardest too. This is were self discipline comes in. You've said a lot and I'm glad I came across this on dreemport.

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Yes, thank God I prepared the post down a few hours before the journey and it makes things easier even though it was a stressful journey. Thank you, Hope 😊

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While staying away from negative people, find value for yourself and free your mind of worry about why those people turned people turned out to be that way. Keep a healthy routine too and do not resort to isolation

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2 years ago

That is it ma. It's necessary to divert your attention to something great and of value. Thank you so much ma 😊

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2 years ago

Most people actually find it hard to cut ties with negative people, especially if that person is their friend but me I don't care at all, as long as you're dragging me down with your negativity then I am backing off

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2 years ago

Why scared when it's your life. I won't even make it obvious because we can't just ignore them completely, but it's good to avoid them and not allow them have a say in our lives.

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Just image doing a great and beautiful work and someone just come up and speak trash of it, or we observe a person is trying to stylishly bring us down. When we see all these we must know that such person is a negative person. We need to quickly move away from such.

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Yes, we need to be observant and be sensitive to understand what they do.

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It is highly important as humans to master the art of improving ourselves, and we literally cannot do that unless we learn to steer clear of negative people. They are always negative in thoughts, attitudes and words, and if care isn't taking might spread negativity to us as well. Therefore we need to spot them early and do away from them

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That is the truth. Stay clear away from negative people because their mission is to ruin things. Thank you 😊

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Bad eggs should be thrown away for good eggs to fill the spot in the basket, πŸ˜… Negative people can change people's perspectives and make them think that chasing their ambition is a waste of time and if the person listens further, they will have more energy to discourage them and even give them facts. Which I will like to write on my next article. πŸ˜‚

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Great. I would be expecting your article on it. Thank you, Coga

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Negative people are easier to spot than most people imagine. When you notice you are getting worse off than better with the presence of someone in your life, that's the best time to cut the ties. Most people don't know because they don't reflect and have conversations with themselves.

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Yes, this is very true. Many aren't too observant to know some things aren't working well with them, and they won't still bother to understand until they remove shock from their legs πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Thank you, KP πŸ€—

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πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚ you this babe enh... Spot on, KP. Well done.

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2 years ago

I agree, to continue to create a positive self, we must stay away from negative people.

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Yes, that is it. Thank you

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2 years ago

Wow, I'm always waiting for your advice, because they really are very wise, I think we should all start our way towards our best version, what a nice initiative to give us many tips to get to it

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Yes, we should focus on being the best version of ourselves. Thank you, Mafer

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2 years ago

I totally agree with being your best friend. A lot of people have not learned to enjoy their own company, thus the need to seek good company outside which exposes them to a lot.

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We can just find a few people who understands us and have similar aspirations with us, rather than spending time with toxic people.

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2 years ago

Unfortunately I joined your third series but I am not too late for learning to try myself as a better person. Negativity rooted all the Social diseases in our body. You provided no doubt a good solution to save ourselves from them. Thanks for writing for improvement of human beings.

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I am glad you came by. Thank you so much for reading.

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Welcome sister, I always read your article to find something creative.

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Someone once said," if you want to please everyone, go sell icecream".

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Hahaha! Because Ice Cream is sweet right?

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Yes o. Nobody will complain if you give them ice cream πŸ˜†

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Even some people don't like ice cream, that further proves you can't please everyoneπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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There are many friends and there are many close friends but it is best if you consider yourself as a good friend. Then it becomes easier to understand yourself. Thank you for sharing so many valuable things

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Exactly, Sonali. You are very right. Thank you 😊

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I better be alone facing mt own problems than to have a toxic friends. And Im used already to being alone so yeah 😏

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Same with me. I am used to being alone instead of having toxic people around.

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We can take care of ourselves even without them. πŸ™ˆ

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We can't really avoid toxic people. Even this platform has, the only way to avoid them is not to mind them..

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Great! You are right Ate. Just move on with your thing.

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Because they know each other so well, best friends can predict each other's moods. You can do the same as your own best friend. The more time you devote to getting to know yourself, the better equipped you will be to deal with anything life throws at you.

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Naso my friend. We must learn to do some stuff ourselves instead of allowing negative people dictate for us.

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To achieve success, we have to be able to know those bring us down and let go of them. Beautiful articleπŸ’–

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Yes, we can know them if we are serious about it. Thank you for stopping by

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