A sadist being

Oh my. The woman is only wasting her time waiting for the man to change. If his husband really loves him, he wouldn't do what he did at first. Suits him right that he got arrested

If they exhibit their true colors after marriage, then walk out. I will like to think that the person that refuse to leave a violent relationship is likely having a mental issue, because I don't see how they will still love someone that tortures them everyday. They are suffering from Stockholm syndrome, where the victim falls in love with their abuser

The man is not a real man for doing that. Suits him right when he was arrested. I just hope women should really know the guy before marriage.

I always believed that relationship is not a do or die affair but if the woman can take it, she should continue with her sadist husband till he finally beat her to coma.

Honestly my thoughts, I do not advice any one to keep waiting for change in the man, what if you as the woman die before he changes? Funny enough there are usually signs during the courtship phase, I think most times people ignore the signs and think their partner would change for them. Don't go into a relationship hoping to change a bad behaviour you might just pay for it dearly.

That's why people should be very careful going for marriage. It can be difficult to fix and go for divorce, plus the physical and mental pain is not worth having when one goes into an abusive relationship.

Marriage should not be parasitic like this. But also wife coming home late due to nature of job can be a real problem too. It's rampant today because so many graduates today only makes a working class family and not business class. Things like this should be seriously addressed, that "your certificates are not limited to employments only" if only clear aggrements can made btw couples before going proper into marriages, we will have less of this problems and of course, not something we'll be giving much thoughts in the nearest future

I will not advise the lady to stay in that house, I can advise she leaves for her parent or friends house for some time while praying to God about it. If after some days or months and she returns to the house and the husband still did not change, I will advise she divorces that time.

I will leave that kind of j3rk if it's me. There's no way I will stay in that marriage who will just accept the beating. No no no! Even if I still love him? No way! It's not like the pain he cause can be ease just because I love him

The husband just didn't suddenly change... She just didn't take notice of the habit he had buried deep inside him. People don't just change, they manifest it once in a while but we overlook it because we make excuses for them when we should have been courageous to leave. I know it's not easy but this is why I always tell people to go into a relationship with their head and their heart at the same time.

It's a shame on the husband for not appreciating what he had. I wish she had left sooner though. He would have found his kind and she should have gone for her kind. She obviously didn't think too much of herself too because we accept the love we think we deserve. When we know we deserve better then it helps our choices and makes it easier.

The mistake must have started from courtship and maybe she feared she wouldn't get another man hence why she settled with him. No one deserves to be treated that way.

What we see in a movie should not be used to judge the reality of life. I see no reason whatsoever for a man in this time to ask the wife to quit a job because she comes back home late except that man is a multi-millionaire. My wife returns home from her shop most times by 7 pm, that's not a problem to me as long what she is doing is helping the family.

The mistake most singles make now and then is that they enter into marriage before asking if they can get pregnant or impregnate a woman. A fertility test is a must before you think of saying I do to anyone else both of you will suffer in the relationship. This is especially hurtful to the men who are desperate to have a child and when they think their wives are barrens they result in molestation to get rid of their wives. From the narrative you gave the man wasn't angry for anything else but the wife's inability to conceive. Only a truly godly man can go on with his wife in such a condition. It was clear that the man wanted the woman to leave him but the woman failed to read the signal earlier.

No, A woman shouldn’t continue to constantly endure pain on the guise that her partner would change. Like really? That’s totally sacrificing one’s happiness and more for someone who can never be happy (a sadist).

It is sad that some of these things happen in real life too.

There was a time when women were witnessing all this patiently may be for her family, for society, for her children etc. ...but gone are those days. Women has a life of her own - to enjoy, to care & share, to be financially independent . She has the right to choose her life.

Never will I encourage such a thing to happen. How could a woman continue in a relationship that could end her life? Well, my simple answer is no without the need to start highlighting my reasons for saying no

I've never raised my hand to a woman. It is an enormous act of cowardice. Family violence should not be allowed and the woman who is suffering this should seek help and never remain silent. Those acts are punishable by jail. There are also cases of women abusing men. Those relationships go from toxic and lead to nothing at all.

Its really annoying when women subject themselves to this kind of treatment in the name of love. Anyone being treated like this should demand for better

I'll not advice anyone to remain in an abusive relationship especially if it threatens the life of the individual. Because when there's life there's hope

No she shouldn't remain in the relationship, but you know people can, sometimes face mentally or psychological problems that change their behavior, medically there a lot of cases like that Couples show their true colours only when they are married.

If she had submitted to the man and yet he didn't change and not traces of changing let her bow out of the relationship honourably if not she will died there

You have to leave. If you did everything to change that person in his evil things and nothing has changed and it destructing yourself too, you should leave. I did. And I'm so much happy now. Believe me, not easy but its worth it.

At first, they might not show their sadist behavior until they got married. So my advice is to take time in your relationship and discover your partner well because you don't want to be divorcing everytime

The lady has to let go of the man in other to achieve her dreams in life, if not she may kick a very big bucket in the long run

Sometimes the best solution is to leave so that such woman wont end up inside bodybag

I would instantly leave that man if he laid his hands on me. I won't wait for him to change.

That's true, Princess. It all boils down to putting God in the center of relationship. Bu doing that, you can never go wrong.

There is no excuse on earth ternable for a man who willfully inflict pain or harm whether physical or otherwise on a woman

How could one even think of that? My dear friend, the best for everyone is what i'm interested in and hence that's the case, then i give a capital NO as my own answer. She's better off without a man than the sadist man who rather subjects her to a very harsh treatment

Relationships are two sided always for it to work. If one is only making it work, then that's not healthy anymore. Many of us have different capacity to love. Some easily forgive. However, we should be more kinder to ourselves. Abuse of any kind should not be accepted.

If it happens to me.. I will not wait for the husband to change.. I will leave him right away.. Because only my parents can hurt me physically, no other man in this world..

This is true princess. Before you decided to enter in the world of marriage make sure you studied very well to each other. Since it's the most painful when you are already married then when you are living in one house and discovering the bad side. You will regrets especially when one of you ended hurting physically and emotionally.

If I will be the wife on that movie. I don't have any hesitations. I will directly file for divorce. There's no purpose living like that man will only hurting me. I'm the one who felt the pain and burden so what the purpose of staying if I don't experience anymore the happiness in life.

I like your article princess. This is a great reminder for everyone.

People indeed hide their attitudes before marriage and I pray we don't fall victim to that kind of human.

It is better to be alone than stay in an abusive relationship, I see no reason why she should stay except she is destined to suffer. The issue of fertility should be done before marriage and not after, living in a relationship with a sadist is a great mistake.

Marriage is beautiful relationship which need love and care to stay strong forever, its not about violence and agony,so if your partner is a cause of physical violence, you don't need to carry this relationship and should immediately file a divorce. I am sad to hear the violence she faced but thats good finally she found a one,who truly loved her.