Learning from No Such Thing

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3 years ago

Much as I so super loved John Mayer's No Such Thing, this is no way related or linked to that song. However, I will be having that song looped in my ear just for kicks.

One time, a bouncy colleague peeped in my cubicle to remind me we were leaving in thirty minutes and to get ready. She was already holding her badminton racket. It was that time when one of our officemates was giving us training for badminton. Those pro bono trainings helped big time. Our games turned from comic awkward to comic stunning games.

Anyway, I was having my nose stuck on the monitor for resolving some issue. I replied, "I know. But I got stuffs to do. Hopefully, I get it done in time."

She giggled at my reply. And said, "What 'stuffs', Pichi? There is no such thing as 'stuffs'. It is just 'stuff'! ". Shaking her head amused and still giggling, she pulled up a chair beside me.

I would have protested at her "no such thing yada yada" since a lot of times, I swear I've used it and it felt right using it.

I looked at her and considered my response, dug deep from what I know and realized after her explaining, "shocks she is right." And wondered how many times I have used 'stuffs' and how many have heard me say it.

On ordinary days, I probably will have a knee-jerk reaction of telling her I say it as I say it. But I know she meant well. From then on I consciously re-trained my brain with the use of "stuff". It still slips some time as you know, we have that habit of getting the easiest application of putting "s" in words to make it plural even when they no longer need it. "Stuff" being one. Hehe.

It is just one sample scenario of getting called out for. Or getting corrected.

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She is just one of the frank friends I have that I appreciate when I hit some of their pet peeves and they react. Hahah. My dad, this friend, another friend and another friend, they do not hesitate in correcting me. It is with love, though.

Their stand, "I'd rather call your attention now than let you look and sound foolish around other people."

In a snowflake generation it may sound harsh but I think taking things in proper perspective in getting corrected and called out for, is key to getting better. Some corrections sting,yes, but I think we have to consider from who and where it is coming from.

Extending to real life ..

Find and keep friends who love you enough to correct you rather than encourage you with things you do wrong. Of course, you'd feel more loved with the latter than the previous. But the previous have your best interest. And I'd go for that for a little up in my game.

That statement got stuck with me after a real talk with one of the youth in our church. The one who said it was a good colleague bringing to light a clearer perspective on the verse:

The wounds of a friend are trustworthy, but the kisses of an enemy are excessive.

Proverbs 27:6 HCSB

https://bible.com/bible/72/pro.27.6.HCSB

I have benefited a lot from friends who love me enough to correct me rather than let me continue being wrong. It was not easy at first. No one loves the sting of getting corrected.

But some stings last only for a while and it changes you for the better if processed right

I noted friends who corrected me with my conversations with them. And that friend who taught me about "stuff", I know is one of my friends I can take an honest criticism from. She is one of the friends I sent out some of my writeups here. And her honesty is always welcome.

She is one example of a friend who'd rather be honest now than lead me on with false praise just to make me feel comfortable. It may be minute or small thing that can be overlooked but as they say, "can't call out the small things? how can you call out bigger life and death situations?"

Ever had a friend out of nowhere corrected you? What was your reaction? Or how well did you take it? Is she still your friend? Hahaha

I think another question is...

Do you like or want to be corrected? Sometimes I do, most times I don't depending on my mood.

Because you know, sometimes, constructive criticisms don't only come from people we have solid relationships with.

Sometimes random peeps they just swing by, and sting you ...


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Oh my. I lose some of my friends because as time goes by, they seemed like they turned out to be my enemy who kiss me sweetly that's why I didn't notice who they really are.

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3 years ago

sorry to hear that sis.. but at the same time I am happy that they get filtered out through time. That gives you room to receive real ones :) Keep safe sis.. :)

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3 years ago

I wish i have tht kind of friend frenny, kaso ako kasi ang lumalayo ee hahaha. At dun naman sa question sa last, same sayo. Ayaw ko minsan pero open naman ako sa ganyan. Mas gusto ko pa rin na makita ko kung san ako nagkamali or nagkulang at bakit nya ako iniwan, ay mali mali kasheee ahahaha.

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3 years ago

ahahahha ,, ,, apir frenny. Meron yan. Minsan may mga tao na kahit na korek ka at masakit hindi mo matatalikuran.

anjan lang sya yung sasagot sa tanong mo kung bakit hindi kayo nagkatuluyan nung nauna.. ay teka ano ba topic? ..

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3 years ago

I wanted to be corrected all the time po, actually I kinda got disappointed when they didn't correct me. Because I feel like we're not that close enough for them to tell it to me. Luckily my circle of friends doesn't tolerate wrong doing, we laugh, we joke, we teased each other but we know our limitations and immediately tell it to others when we got over the limitations po

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3 years ago

tama keep those friends lazysnail.. for keeps yang mga yan

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3 years ago

And I have one with "information". There's no such things as "informations" pala according to my supervisor. Hahaha And agree ako sa basta nalang talaga lalagyan ng "s" maging plural lang ii. 😂

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3 years ago

oo tapos ang kulit pa nating mga pinoy... nilalaro natin ang mga salita.. kahit tagalog nakakalito tuloy hahahahaha.. tama nga isa din yang information sa madalas madagdagan ng S ahhahaha

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3 years ago

Hahahahahahhw trueee tayo tayo lang din nag lalaro nga, tas tayo tayo lang din nag cocorrection sa isat isa

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3 years ago

I'm perfectionist po,but there are times I didn't seeing my mistake or flaws that's why I always telling to my friend that they must correct me if I did something wrong I love to be corrected po KAsi I can improve myself in that way

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3 years ago

checkted by lazy snail!!

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3 years ago

I love to be corrected, but in the right way? If you want to correct a person let her or him feel your sincerity of being a good friend, hehe ganyan kase ako, sa tuwing nag co correct ako sa iba lalo nat ka ka kilala kolang, mas dina daan ko sa hinhin para maramdman niya na tutoo akong kaibigan. :)

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3 years ago

bet ko yan Cocogrey. Mahinay at mahinahong pag korek :)

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3 years ago

I love to be corrected if that person close or know me well. You're right somtimes depends on the mood.

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3 years ago

and how they say it din. hihih... apir justMaryel

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3 years ago

My friends are very perfectionist that even a single mistake they corrected me and not tolerating bad to good. They truly my best friends are.

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3 years ago

that is correct COCO yaRn you are blessed

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3 years ago

It is good to have a friend who correct you and save you from embarrassment. I had only one of such

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3 years ago

someone worth keeping success!!

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3 years ago

3 of my BFFs are like that. They always correct me when I am wrong and always remind me what is right. And I am blessed for having them. They're frank and true to me. ❤

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3 years ago

yan ang tunay na mahal ka nila BC!!

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3 years ago

Sometimes there are criticisms or corrections given with a hint of humor, but with lots of care, and that's easier to accept. But when it is done by someone who comes off as a know-it-all, ahhhh, that's sometimes harder to take.

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3 years ago

lols the know-it-all and the sarcastic.. hirap i-weigh kung pwede bang patulan.. hahaha..

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3 years ago

This is the magic of friendship! Corrections mean that they truly love you, otherwise they cannot be your friends

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3 years ago

true Simon ! also a mystery yeah? We have this notion that if they are our friends we should all be agreeing for the same thing a lot so getting called out for doing something wrong is taboo. but really. loving a friend means correcting them too...

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3 years ago

Hi! Do you know that we had not introduced ourselves yet? Well, nice to meet you, Infinity over here. A pleasure. I have several friends who correct me all the time. I prefer those friends to not those who want to pretend.

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3 years ago

Hi Infinity! nice to meet you! Yes real friends who can be real to us upfront are treasures. Do keep safe !

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3 years ago

You have to accept corrections, sometimes we make mistakes and we must correct, it has happened to me several times, I accept to be corrected, microsoft work always does it and I don't say anything. ;)

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3 years ago

ahhah ms word! yes yes we don't scream at our screens right? specially when there are lots of words with crooked red lines under it. haha... corrections are always for our improvement :)

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3 years ago

Hmm...how tos po siguro hahaha. Tapos sa school...wala naman masyado? I'm the one correcting them kaso masama ugali ko and conceited ako hahaha djk. Pay kinokorek ako, depende sa kung sino yun ako magrereact. Pay sina mama or papa, shut up na lang hahaha.

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3 years ago

natawa ako dun sa "conceited ako" ahhahha aliw din sa "shut up na lang" pag sa parents hahaha para wala na lang away hahaha

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3 years ago

i'll gladly enjoy the sting of being corrected... i think we are doing this already lol

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3 years ago

That's a fact hahahahah apir!

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3 years ago

Honestly if someone would correct me let's say my grammar, i would be very much happy because through correcting my mistakes, i get to learn something and be better. It's not an insult to correct someone's actions if it's for the betterment. Thanks for this article Pichi28

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3 years ago

Thank you AlphaCron for the visit and the read!

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3 years ago

Perhaps, I have both types of friends in my life. One helped me with his advise and another one destroyed my dreams completely.

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3 years ago

ouch for the second part. sorry about that. But I guess we really do get to meet those types of friends every once in a while... lessons as we call them...

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3 years ago

Many people tried to correct me and if it was constructive criticism, I would gladly take it.. but if they were sassy, I'm the wrong person to be sassy with 🤣🤣

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3 years ago

Hahaah we sting back lols.... 🥂 Oh yeh

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3 years ago

Hahaha hell yeah, cheers sis

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3 years ago

You won't believe it that i only got to know recently that there's nothing like stuffs. I typed and article and decided to correct the errors with grammerly and there it was ,underlined as wrong. Being corrected doesn't sit well with me too sometimes but we have to learn to accept corrections.

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3 years ago

yeah stuff is always the easy victim for the plural application. we exchange it for "things we cannot exactly name and list down for now and they are many things so we say stuff with an s" ... and forget that stuff also is its plural. high five!

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3 years ago

That's it😂 🤚

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3 years ago

Prolly have to play some some songs too. I'm dead tired, but I'm happy to have you as one of my virtual friends here. I'm grateful. Xoxo. Dunno if may konek yarn, Pich hehe.

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3 years ago

No worries I still so get you ! hahaahahahha ,... equally and immensely grateful... i'm a little lutang na din ahahaha..

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3 years ago

ahahaha muahh

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3 years ago