What Are The Relationships To Cultivate?

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Intelligence to me means the ability to accept a piece of information, process it and distil it in such a way that it will affect you positively as well as others too.

When we talk about relational intelligence, simply put, I am talking about how you relate with your fellow human. It also means that it is the ability to sustain a relationship just the way you can positively influence such a relationship too. A relationship that you hold dear must be mutual. A business arrangement that is not mutual would crash not to talk about having to relate with another human. In a relationship, we have to give as much as we are willing to absorb. We all need the intelligence in relating with others while not losing our ability to still impact lives positively.

In a world where greed and selfishness have taken the center stage, we need to carefully evaluate the relationship that isn't adding value to our lives as I mentioned in a previous post, here. We need to know how to relate with another person because the ability to relate with others would either open some doors for you or close such a door. This is an art that everyone should learn.

The truth is we cannot survive without having to relate to one another. For any kind of relationship, we still need to relate with one another. When you are fortunate with a good relationship, your life will show for it because they can rub off on you the things that work for them while you seek ways to add value to them as well. We surely smell like the company we choose to keep over time. When you continually surround yourself with those who would constantly drag you down and berate you, very soon, you will see yourself doubting the great things you could have done.

Your relationship with others - how you add value to others and how you nourish those relationships would go a long way to determine how well you can turn out. Your environment is a huge factor too. This is why it is often advised that we should think continental even when we find ourselves in an environment that can drag us back. Never let your background or your environment be the reason why you won't open up your mind to dream.

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The truth is, we cannot do without having a third party in our relationships, either directly or indirectly. There will always be those who want to exert their influence but it is left to us to be intentional about how we relate to others. For those in a relationship, you need to understand that your spouse cannot and won't be everything you want them to be. It is not possible...just as you cannot be everything to your spouse too. This is why it is important to treat everyone with some level of understanding. Someone said and I quote "I am not thrilled with how you treat others until I have seen how you treat those who can do nothing for you, like the waitress."

A lot of people jeopardize their relationship with others because they are in a relationship. I have seen those who cut their childhood friends off because they got married and these people played important roles in their lives at some point. I am all for cutting people off though if you feel they are bad influences and they are adding no value to you but you don't shun people because you think you are 'better' than them by the virtue of marriage. It's never a smart thing to do. We need to honour and respect others. Someone said and I quote "Don't burn the bridge because you have crossed over. You never know if you might need that bridge again". This is why we need to understand how to relate with people so we can spot kings in rags and not just rule people out as though they can never amount to anything.

You need to evaluate yourself and your ability to learn from others regardless of their current status would go a long way to determine how discerning you are. Humility is needed in every aspect of life. I am not impressed by how others treat me until I can see how you treat that gateman or that cobbler or that driver. A lot of people don't know my age from the outside because of the way I am always in everyone's face. I am the playful type so it makes it easier for me though to get along with people.

Honesty is key and of course, I try to create a respectable boundary. We need to create a respectable boundary of course because we are not all the same. We don't see things alike nor think alike. Balance is important for everything. Your relationship with others would go a long way to give you some level of desired success.

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In as much as you are being intentional about creating a good relationship with others, you have to create a good relationship with yourself too. Self-love is vital for your growth in life. There is no way you would relate with others effectively if you don't even love yourself. You will mirror your crankiness and your lack of love for yourself on others. Stop holding on to your failures and start seeing the good that can still come out of you. You can't control everything, so let go of the things you can't control and stop blaming yourself all the time for your bad choices. You need to love yourself and seek those who truly care about you and those who can see the goodness left in you and push you to greater heights. Many people go in search of love forgetting they are supposed to love themselves first.

If I ask you to mention all your favourite people, how long would it take before you mention yourself?

Thank you for your time.