Expectations and Life.

A lot of people take rejection too much to heart. The truth of the matter is, it's not the fact that they got rejected that hurts them more but the expectations they had before the rejection. Sometimes you dream everything would go just as you planned and boom, it bursts and hurts and you try to look for how to pin the pain and hurts that you transfer it on others.

Is there anyone on earth without expectations? Even the tiniest bit? We all have expectations and it's on varying degrees. What matters to you won't automatically matter to me. One thing I've noticed with life is that nothing is certain and a lot can change so quickly too. We just have to keep pushing, keep dreaming and hoping life smiles at us.

Don't take it to heart when you feel rejected. You are not bacon, cheese or plantain, so not everyone would like you. Let's face it, not everyone loves these aforementioned items anyway so why are you beating yourself too much all because of acceptance? When everyone likes you then you better start watching your back because something isn't going right. You are either compromising on your standards or you have a lot of unreal people around you.

Like I said, it's the expectations we place around those things or people that hurt the most. What hurts the most too sometimes isn't because someone lied to you but with your expectations in them, you wouldn't think they would imagine you being stupid enough to believe that and of course the denial card they play hurts deeper especially when you already know the truth.

We can't go back to make a brand new start or change the past and we all have ways by which we heal and then look ahead. For most it takes time and everyone need to find their healing process and go through with it. Forgetting doesn't heal us, rather we suppress the pains and hope it goes away, only for it to make us into a ticking time bomb, willing to explode when similar situations arises. Forgiving does the healing...forgive yourself first and only then can you forgive others. Most people find it hard to forgive themselves for making such a terrible decision or having such expectations. They pin it on others and hold that resentment for too long thinking it's the other person they are angry at. You gotta forgive yourself and heal...

Forgiving doesn't mean you have forgotten about it, but it means you have gotten to a point where remembering it doesn't hurt you as deep as it used to be and overtime it becomes bearable. It gives you the strength to move on and know how best to guard your heart further. Yes, it's not easy but there is a difference between hard and impossible. One of my favourite quotes says: "You can live with losing the good fight but you cannot live with not fighting it." There are some things you cannot avoid but to deal with them. Getting hurt is one thing you can never run away from but you can reduce the impact on you.

Every Little Bit...

Whether we turn a blind eye or not, the world is hurting

The reality won't change by the denial we pose

It's disheartening to watch and read stories of kids on th streets

It's obvious to even those denying it, it's crystal clear to the naked eyes

Look at our leaders too, meant to alleviate but they offer no solution in sight

They strive for their pockets rather than the citizens they swore to protect

They left the citizens to fend and defend with their instinct

They have no clear plan to do anything so distinct

The problems are staring at us in the face, how then do we turn a blind eye?

All we do is analyze the problem, that's what we are good at

But to proffer a solution? All we do is stall even when we know the answer

All we do is talk more and act less

We cover all the imperfections with a gorgeous dress

It doesn't address the problems but we are good at masking things and digress

In a bid to avoid responsibilities we point fingers at others

Our government...they are the experts at this and they do it with pride

They are slow to do good but swift to take the bribe

We would have to ask them what's their motive and drive?

On our road to financial liberation we found Read Cash to thrive

Still, they placed a ban on cryptocurrencies, not one, not five

They enjoy seeing others struggle and please tell me this isn't witchcraft?

They have wickedness in layers and they keep pulling out the draft

We all have a part to play in all these all over the place

Let's give more kindness as we spread fragrance with a trace

The world is big enough, there is no need fighting for a space

We look up to others to fix things when we can do our tiny bits

It all starts with us and if only we can make our little difference

Whoever thinks he or she is too small to make a difference

Has clearly never been in bed with a mosquito

Every little bit helps but you need consistency to make it count

Thank you for your time.

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