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Different strokes for different folks, I am sure we have heard this over and over again but it is what it is. We feel things differently so we see things differently and what feels right to you might not just be what it is for others. We just have to hold on to what we believe is right while leaving room for growth and learning, of course.

Sometimes we don't know the value of a thing because we don't know and oftentimes, some know but they take it for granted because they never thought they would lose it. The story of a man who picked up something on a field came to mind. He kept what he called his "lucky charm" for years without really knowing what the true value is.

A friend came to his house after many years and saw how he carefully placed the stone on a shelf amongst cowries and after careful observation, the friend screamed which got the owner confused. This friend explained to him that what he had amongst his cowries is actually a raw diamond that hasn't gone through any process and from then, this guy looked at that "lucky charm" differently and his attitude towards it changed as he guided and guarded it with his life.

That's how most humans are... We don't really value a thing until someone sets us straight. It's like a funny skit I watched on Instagram last week. This lady was bold enough to walk up to this guy and commended how he looked and even asked for his number but the guy ignored her and shove her away. Someone whispered to him and said to the guy that he just ignored a minister's daughter and there he went, racing towards her only for the twist to occur when the lady said the "minister" was for Church circle and not a political appointment.

My point here is, let's assume she was indeed a minister's daughter, from being ignored to being somewhat "valued" that's how life is. Someone would be begging to have that lady's hand in a relationship and here we have someone who wouldn't even look at her twice. The more we understand that nothing is wrong with us and it has to do with people's preferences, the better it is for us.

I've had many ladies reject me stylishly because they didn't want to hurt my "ego" and that's fine and I've had many who were bold enough to ask for a relationship but I stylishly rejected too and that's life. It has nothing to do with them but with me and just as their rejection of me has nothing to do with me but with them. At least, we should appreciate the honesty but most people would rather want to be deceived.

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What's of value to you won't always be of worth to me but that doesn't mean I won't celebrate with you over what you deemed worthy. I am always angry when a guy or a girl introduces their partner to some friends and they go all judging them by asking "Is this your boyfriend?" Or "Why would you want to date someone like this?" Or "She is not up to standard" - I wonder who sets the standard. It annoys me really because most people need to understand that relationship is a private party for just two and it's never about your opinion but about what both feel for each other and what both see in each other.

We are used to judging people based on face value and the surface whereas only those who are in a relationship with them can truly tell you how amazing they are and they don't need to convince you because your opinion doesn't matter just as theirs shouldn't matter regarding the kind of person you want to be with.

We often think we know better when we sometimes don't. In as much as another person's life is not in danger with obvious patterns, please keep your opinions to yourself and wish people well. If your opinion is based on face value, account balance or material things then you just indirectly said you can be bought so don't bother trying to mirror your life on others. I feel offended when people judge others based on what they think they don't have. This is how most people have lost a king because they couldn't spot a king in rags.

You are entitled to love whom your heart draws closer to but as I would always say, go with both your head and your heart. Others might not see what you are seeing but as long as your life is not being threatened and your spouse is not lazy, by all means, find your happiness.

@George_Dee shared the story some days back about a couple who couldn't have children but were happy. When the pressure was much on them, they travelled out of the country away from the reach of pressurizing family and friends. They prefer happiness over having a kid of their own and of courses they can easily adopt too. What is important to you doesn't have to be important to others so you don't need to feel offended when they are not going in the direction you would have gone. We are all different and so are our choices.

What some also count as a bother is pure joy to others. Imagine someone complaining about his or her child scattering the whole house whereas someone is patiently waiting to have at least a child that would scatter the whole house and she would be happy to rearrange it back because she knew how long she had to wait to get that child. We take too many things for granted and if only we know how others would go through any length to have what we have, then we would learn to appreciate things a little bit more.

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The world is just only concerned with what is meaningful to them. If they find it different from what they are used to, its suddenly worthless. I just wish people would learn to respect other peoples choices and opinions and not over ride them and the world would be a better place!

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1 month ago

Hahaha you hit the nail on the head there. Once it doesn't make sense to others it's worthless suddenly... We can learn to respect the opinions of others even when we disagree with them. Someone said "I might not agree with you but I would defend your right to say it".

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1 month ago

There's somethings we take for granted because we don't actually know the use or meaning of the thing, well thank God that the friend told his friend that the diamond is treasure, if it was some, they would have secretly steal it and run away.

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1 month ago

Well said...we take a lot of things for granted.

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1 month ago

"We are used to judging people based on face value." Whether we admit it or not, we tend to judge people based on their physical appearance without even trying to look on the substance of that person. Humans really has this negative way of judgement and it has been attached to their system.

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1 month ago

That's so true and it's sad. We need to do better as humans.

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1 month ago

Our ego maniac society sets the standards. That's how the build a wall of discrimination.

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1 month ago

It's crazy.

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Well for me, I think it's natural instinct for a person to judge his fellow man, especially when you've just met for the first time, it is only your "FIRST IMPRESSION" towards other people. But when you become close to each other you will ask "What was your first impression of me?" then just laugh at the same time as if nothing crossed your mind before of what you've think to her/his. I know many have also judged me but I just don't pay attention, I'm not asking for anything. You can't see the value of a person when he is still there next to you, you only realize his value when he is gone.

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1 month ago

That's why we need to start seeing the value of people while we still have them and no longer in retrospect.

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1 month ago

that is true, give them value when they are still around

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One man's food is another man's poison. Sometimes we never know the value of something until we lose it and as you said.. That's life. It's meant to teach us lessons. Things don't always go our way

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1 month ago

Absolutely... Things won't always go our way...life is to teach us and we live and learn as we grow and go through life.

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1 month ago

We don't realize how important something is until we lose it

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1 month ago

That's the sad reality of life.

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1 month ago

There's no wrong with rejecting people especially when you know that you can't give the same feeling as they gave to you. Because when you didn't reject them you'll gonna end up hurting them more. I'm build not to criticized nor judge someone based on their appearance but the way they moved or act(behavior)

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1 month ago

This is honest and accurate. We should see people based on their character and not by their appearance. Face value is false value.

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1 month ago

Life is not balanced and you have proven it with the right point. I saw the comedy as well and I agree that what matters to me might not be to me regardless of how high others might have spoken about it.

Yoruba will say "Eyi to Wu e, ko wu mi". We all can't have the same taste or feeling towards something, we accept and process things differently but it does not stop us from respecting others decision.

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1 month ago

Yes, brother. Someone said that we need to respect the opinions of others even if we don't agree with them and that's true.

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1 month ago

"I feel offended when people judge others based on what they think they don't have."

That sucks. And I feel it. Some people think I am not capable to do a certain thing just because they can't do that too. (Example in making good creative writing, fulfilling goals that they can't fulfill, etc) some would judge my work and would think it's not mine just because of the mistake in the past.. Well, we don't have the same level of thinking and imagination or potential in dealing with things even if they have higher levels of IQ. I can do what they can't, as well as I can't do some things that others can. But it shouldn't be the basis of judgment. They are just insulting and degrading my capacity. They don't even know my full potential. I just shrugged them off my mind and screwed them silently even if they interact with me every day just to monitor my work, lol, they really think I'm a fool. I'll just prove them wrong.

I'm already sick of their fake attitudes.

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1 month ago

I am glad you understand this deeply and I love your attitude towards this because you are not trying to impress them but to focus only on yourself.

It's so annoying when people think others can't do something just because they can't. They go as far as tarnish the image of others forgetting they we are built differently and we don't have the same talents as it were.

Keep being awesome, Janeeeeeyyyyyy. I love your works, I admire you, I respect you and I am thankful I met you. You are a rare gift and thank you for giving the world a lift. You are a gift to the world and what a blessing you are. You are not weird... You are phenomenal and I don't think I want to change anything about you...not one bit... At least from the little I have seen and known. You are all shades of amazement.

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Haha... Thanks. I don't need to change just because of them. I am for who I am. And I don't give a d*mn if they don't believe me. I wasn't born to please everyone.

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I love this... You were not born to please anyone... Spot on. Go Janeyyyyyyyyy ❤️❤️❤️

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As long as I know that I am on the right track, I have nothing to fear. Past is past and won't be brought back to the present again.

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Come closer, I need to hug you. 😂😂🤣. I love your mental strength.

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We are the one who must be choose not otherwise but society has something to say about it.

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The society would always have something to say, absolutely.

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I alsp wonder who created the said "Standards"? Let people like what they like! let people choose what they want! It's our lives, not yours. I don't think that area needs to conform to these imaginary yet unrealistic standards whoever has created.

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1 month ago

Thank you so much. Whoever created it, we don't have to conform to it. It's our lives and we are all built differently so it is normal that we would make different choices.

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1 month ago

What others see as 6, others see as 9. We won't always agree but have different opinions but we shouldn't allow someone to dictate to us how best to do things that doesn't suit us. Whatever I like and you are telling me you don't like, is nothing to me as long as it is what I want.

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1 month ago

Exactly...as long as it is what we want. It's our life not theirs. Thanks for this, cutie.

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1 month ago

Life is a battle field. The rejected person today may be the helper of tomorrow. We don't have to judge anyone based on what we heard about them rather try to know more about them

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1 month ago

We should try to know them and make efforts...that's so true.

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1 month ago

One should not consider emotion only in choosing who to love. Some people consider appearance too. We used use sense along with all thesé

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1 month ago

Hahaha I love this... We need to apply sense...

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1 month ago

That's the logic sir,😄

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1 month ago

😂😂😂🤣

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1 month ago

Well what you like might irritate me so such is life but seriously our happiness should come first

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1 month ago

Spot on, darling... Our happiness should take the center stage because it is different stroke for different folk.

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1 month ago

Yeah bae

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