Different Strokes...

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Different strokes for different folks, I am sure we have heard this over and over again but it is what it is. We feel things differently so we see things differently and what feels right to you might not just be what it is for others. We just have to hold on to what we believe is right while leaving room for growth and learning, of course.

Sometimes we don't know the value of a thing because we don't know and oftentimes, some know but they take it for granted because they never thought they would lose it. The story of a man who picked up something on a field came to mind. He kept what he called his "lucky charm" for years without really knowing what the true value is.

A friend came to his house after many years and saw how he carefully placed the stone on a shelf amongst cowries and after careful observation, the friend screamed which got the owner confused. This friend explained to him that what he had amongst his cowries is actually a raw diamond that hasn't gone through any process and from then, this guy looked at that "lucky charm" differently and his attitude towards it changed as he guided and guarded it with his life.

That's how most humans are... We don't really value a thing until someone sets us straight. It's like a funny skit I watched on Instagram last week. This lady was bold enough to walk up to this guy and commended how he looked and even asked for his number but the guy ignored her and shove her away. Someone whispered to him and said to the guy that he just ignored a minister's daughter and there he went, racing towards her only for the twist to occur when the lady said the "minister" was for Church circle and not a political appointment.

My point here is, let's assume she was indeed a minister's daughter, from being ignored to being somewhat "valued" that's how life is. Someone would be begging to have that lady's hand in a relationship and here we have someone who wouldn't even look at her twice. The more we understand that nothing is wrong with us and it has to do with people's preferences, the better it is for us.

I've had many ladies reject me stylishly because they didn't want to hurt my "ego" and that's fine and I've had many who were bold enough to ask for a relationship but I stylishly rejected too and that's life. It has nothing to do with them but with me and just as their rejection of me has nothing to do with me but with them. At least, we should appreciate the honesty but most people would rather want to be deceived.

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What's of value to you won't always be of worth to me but that doesn't mean I won't celebrate with you over what you deemed worthy. I am always angry when a guy or a girl introduces their partner to some friends and they go all judging them by asking "Is this your boyfriend?" Or "Why would you want to date someone like this?" Or "She is not up to standard" - I wonder who sets the standard. It annoys me really because most people need to understand that relationship is a private party for just two and it's never about your opinion but about what both feel for each other and what both see in each other.

We are used to judging people based on face value and the surface whereas only those who are in a relationship with them can truly tell you how amazing they are and they don't need to convince you because your opinion doesn't matter just as theirs shouldn't matter regarding the kind of person you want to be with.

We often think we know better when we sometimes don't. In as much as another person's life is not in danger with obvious patterns, please keep your opinions to yourself and wish people well. If your opinion is based on face value, account balance or material things then you just indirectly said you can be bought so don't bother trying to mirror your life on others. I feel offended when people judge others based on what they think they don't have. This is how most people have lost a king because they couldn't spot a king in rags.

You are entitled to love whom your heart draws closer to but as I would always say, go with both your head and your heart. Others might not see what you are seeing but as long as your life is not being threatened and your spouse is not lazy, by all means, find your happiness.

@George_Dee shared the story some days back about a couple who couldn't have children but were happy. When the pressure was much on them, they travelled out of the country away from the reach of pressurizing family and friends. They prefer happiness over having a kid of their own and of courses they can easily adopt too. What is important to you doesn't have to be important to others so you don't need to feel offended when they are not going in the direction you would have gone. We are all different and so are our choices.

What some also count as a bother is pure joy to others. Imagine someone complaining about his or her child scattering the whole house whereas someone is patiently waiting to have at least a child that would scatter the whole house and she would be happy to rearrange it back because she knew how long she had to wait to get that child. We take too many things for granted and if only we know how others would go through any length to have what we have, then we would learn to appreciate things a little bit more.

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