Day: 13th December 2021
Good day everyone! Twelve days remain until Christmas and Eighteen days until we celebrate New year.
December seems to be going in a flash, and soon we will be leaving 2021 and venturing unto 2022, where all sorts of new things await us.
The end of the year is always so weird because you know you can never come back and you can only move forward; how I wish I could go back to the past and change some things, but as that isn't possible, the only thing left for you to do is learn from those mistakes and become better.
Before we start, let me ask you a question:
If a person has been in Eight relationships consecutively, and none of them worked, who do you think is at fault? Is it the people you are dating? Or is it you? Or both?
In this situation, I would say that it all comes down to what you are looking for in a relationship, which is why the blame may be on that person.
I have noticed that no one is ready to accept that they are the problem in their life, and they keep on blaming others for all their failures, but never really search inside themselves and finding what their problems are.
You can blame a hundred people, which is very easy to do; maybe that is why people choose to do it, but when it comes down to asking themselves if they are the problem, they fail to do so.
Sometimes you need to sit down and ask yourself, "Is there anything I am doing wrong, maybe I am the problem." It may be the decisions you have been making that may have led you to repeat the same failure repeatedly.
If a person has been in Eight relationships and none worked out, don't you think it is because of your preferences?
So many people love going for things that are not easily reachable, and they end up failing and blaming everyone.
This logic doesn't only go for relationships; it also works for career and other aspects of life, and what I mean is that most people force themselves to do something out of their reach.
When you do something like that, you may fail, which would lead to pointing fingers.
Failure may be harsh, but the whole point is for you to understand more and become better. Still, some people fail to understand that concept, and they end up repeating the cycle of failure repeatedly without ever looking into why they are failing.
If something isn't working with one method, why do you keep using that method repeatedly?
In relationships, you see people dating the same person but with different faces, and they ask themselves what the problem is.
A friend of mine has experienced a lot of heartbreaks, and when I ask them what the problem is, they always blame the other person.
But when I look at their history of dating, I find out that they are dating the same person but in different shapes and sizes, and they don't even realize it, or maybe they do and don't want to accept it.
If a relationship is not working, don't look for the same person with a different face.
Instead look for another person willing to stay with you in every situation, even if it may be challenging; it is way better than repeating the same mistake repeatedly.
Another thing I have noticed is that most people never heal from their previous relationships, and they carry this toxic past into their new relationships, which would only end up hurting the relationship.
After a break-up, it is not recommendable to jump straight into another relationship because relationships have to do with emotions.
If you have emotional problems due to a break-up, you should find your healing before entering a new one; it would not only benefit your next partner but also make you feel better.
As I have written in this article, it is not always others that are at fault.
Sometimes you can be the problem, whether it be your preferences, standards, or failure to heal, and understand what you are doing wrong.
It is easier to change yourself than change others, don't point fingers when you can simply ask yourself what the problem is.
Thank you for reading!
The relationship is two-way communication, and you have explained it so well. We meet so many people in a day, week, and month. In our communication, both parties use their sense and brain. If both parties own a faulty or poorly sensitive mind, they may make enough mistakes in analyzing their communication. It may so happen that both parties are non-compromising. Then, we can't expect they can build a lasting relationship.
In the case of career, the employer's policy is one of the deciding factors for quitting a job. Sometimes the immediate boss's behavior becomes the reason. People who can't compromise on integrity and ethical issues suffer the most in their careers. Some of us may call them, "You can't adjust, " but they are non-compromising.
So, I can't blindly blame people for suffering in relationships or careers. But, some people possess criminal instincts and often ditch/torture their partners/spouses/colleagues. Society should not hesitate to punish criminals.