A Filipino Mindset: Salary Expectations of Other People.

sometimes we just allowing someone to expect like we can achieve this kind of what they're imagining, or that kind of what they want.

I cross to the article of @Murakamii.7 where she said, "As a family, everyone should take part in meeting the needs of the family.", I couldn't agree more. i am more than 150% about what she said. I have this question to my head where I want to ask everyone, is there any mistake if all of your family members help each other to achieve their needs? why only one person is working to this kind of environmental thingy?

Everything that she said was correct, tbh my head was boiling anytime that I am talking with my mother. Why? It's because she kept asking the same question like when I am planning to have a work or when I am planning to get a job. Oh gosh, I want a rest for a bit.

Lmao, they even ask me earlier if I'm not sad here. I answer them honestly that I'm not because it's too quiet 😅. They told me to call them always when I'm not doing a thing.

Okay so as Filipino, we already knew what kind of sacrifices that the person do just to fulfill their family needs, just to give the family wants or just to provide them something regarding to what they want. We filipino, we already knew how spoiled and demanding one person was. Like, they will ask for something like this and will end up to something like we're not expecting.

One of the example, is when someone asked you to buy them an Iphone Pro Max but it cost too much and you only have enough salary every month, or week. Ofcourse, that person is already expecting you to buy as their requested but you ended up decline it because of having enough salary. But take note, you're working outside and that person lives at where you origin of. Ofcourse as person, we can already see what the results is. That's where they going to judge you like, "Nagtatrabaho ka sa labas pero di mo maibigay kailangan ng pamilya mo.", (you're working outside but you can't give what your family needs.)

As a result, we feel how insulting it was, right? We can feel that everything we're doing is not enough to maintain everything especially their needs. We ended up being depressed, being stressed. Or worst, some people is ending up their life because they feel useless.

And another example is, one of your friend knows that you're working outside, so they kept asking something for you especially the money. You just had enough because the salary was not too high, but they ended up telling that you changed, or worst you're not the people they knew before. Insulting right?

There are questions in our mind where it can't be fulfill by a simple answer, like asking yourself what will you do just to feel that everything was enough, and why do they feel like all of your sacrifices was nothing. Why they are acting like they already knew how hard your life is just to reach your qouta each day or anything that is related to your work.

This is what I feel when I'm still in my parent's place, I can't stop asking myself why I feel sad instead of feeling happy whenever that I'm with them. They are my family but I didn't even remember that I feel safe and comfortable inside the house, what I feel is being useless and nothing at the same time. I'm trying to understand everything, give what they want but ended up they take me for granted.

Should I feel angry? Should I feel disappointed? Is it correct to feel that I'm not enough to them? That they are my family but they only want my pocket?

Sometimes, I want to open up everything to them that what am I doing is also for them.

But most of the time, I can't think enough.

When I got here to Baguio, the way that I feel was kinda lessen but still I can feel stress and pressure. The reason? Too many HAHA.

Final Thoughts

I can't barely read all articles right now, my net was so slow and maybe my phone are still adjusting because I'm in a new place. Welp, I like my new place rn at where my partner is.

There too many users who's waiting for my love story after days of being with her 🥲 I'll try to write some when something came up to my mind 🤣.

I'm so sorry if I can visit your article late, it's just the net was too slow and it's not enough to load everything hehe.

I wanna say thankyou to @Carewind for renewing his sponsorship, thankyou so much lods!

OGLU2022
MARCH25.2022