We should apologise when we are at fault.

As Humans, at one point or the other we offend one another, we step on another person's toes. When we notice that we've done something wrong, what is expected of us? Apology, right?! Yes, that's. But some people finds it difficult to do so. They feel disinclined to apologise even after knowing fully that they're the ones at fault. There was something i experienced that's making me to write this. Here is it:

Yesterday afternoon, around 2pm, i was in my room, suddenly, i heard some shouts and arguments outside our house, it was as if people had gathered and they wanted to fight. I said to myself "What could have propelled all these noises". I came out and went there. On getting there, i asked what led to the argument, and i was told a car driver hit a bike rider from the back. People asked the driver to apologise to the rider, but he refused. He said he would not apologise, despite knowing he (driver) was the one at fault. When people were getting vexed and wanted to start beating him as a result of his refusal to apologise to the bike rider, then he agreed to apologise, but i knew he didn't say the apology sincerely, he only said it so that people will not beat him up.

We shouldn't be like the driver i mentioned up here, who said the apology just to be freed, but wasn't sincere about it.

We shouldn't be a people who would tell somebody "I'm sorry for how i have hurt you, i didn't mean to treat you that way", but in the real sense, the apologiser isn't genuine about it, was only saying it for saying sack". We should let our apologies be real and from our heart .

If you're apologising, mention your exact wrong/offence to the person.

It doesn't look nice to just tell the person "I'm sorry". Looking at it, it does not show any real action from you, it does not seem you mean it. It's good you mention the offence, for example: "I'm sorry for how i hit you bike from the back, and nearly injured you, please forgive me". If it's in marriage, for example: "my partner, for how i have been shouting on you, and have not been treating you the best way all these while, please forgive me, i am sorry".

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We need to be very specify the actions and the reason for your apology.

More so, when you know you're the one at fault, don't take such fault of yours as someone else own.

Show feelings about how you've offended him/her.

Sometimes, you say something to another person, you might not be hurt by such, but it might have hurt somebody. Instead of arguing, accept the person's feelings about such, see things the way he or she sees it, and apologise the right way.

The offended person should let the offence go, and don't keep it.

If an apologiser has apologised to you the right way, genuinely and sincerely, you should accept such from his/her, and let everything go of all the offences.

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