January 18, 2022

What do we exactly do as a routine? Do we have standards for ourselves? Are we the "do what you want" and a "do as you please" person? Who are you? Do you have standards for yourself? What do you envision yourself to be? Do you value yourself? Do you have boundaries? What are boundaries for?

I found Nine Points on How Boundaries with Yourself Look Like

1. Not Buying Things You Can't Afford
Teens and young adult are often the best people who needs to hear this because most of the people in these age groups are still depending on their parents for their needs and some are just starting to find a job and find a balance on how to budget. We are easily swayed with free vouchers, buy one take one and the double number sale. We buy impulsively. We would never think if this is a want or a need. Most often, we purchase things that are not useful just because we follow the trend. We now don't have a budget for the things that we really need because we already use it to purchase something that is not useful.

Some people would repeatedly say that it is not about the big or high salary. It would be on how you live. Your financial independence depends on your budgeting. So, it pays and it matters to just live below your means. If you can't afford something, don't try to get into debt just because you badly want something. Don't go broke trying to look rich.

2. Keeping the promises you make to yourself. Because why not? There is no use of promising    to yourself when you don't have plans of keeping it. We keep on complaining about how our exes failed to keep their promise and yet we cannot keep our own promise. It should be our goal to keep our promise, do and follow what we want to do and not make excuses.

3. Honoring your hunger and eating enough
This is one of the many things we take for granted. We tend to overwork and drown ourselves on things that we love to do that we tend to forget to eat. We also dont allocate time to eat. Also, sometimes when we tend to eat more than enough. We also eat unhealthy. Our eating habit is unhealthy. So, as a point of setting boundaries for ourselves, we should stop patronizing overworking.

4. Taking regular breaks during the day enables us to recharge and avoid burning out. It would allow us to function properly and effectively.

5. Unfollowing social media accounts or people that negatively impact you. There is no exemption to this. Anyone in your friend list that is not helping your mental health should never have a space in your circle. You should not allow such negative energy to seep into your soul. Whether they are a member of your family, a classmate or a friend, if their posts aren't inspiring to you then feel free to remove yourself from their aura.

6. Creating a healthy sleep routine.
Having a good night sleep contributes to a cheerful day. It makes our brain function really well and it helps boost our immune system. Other than that it can also avoid us from being grumpy.

7. Taking rest and mental health days
This should really be a must to avoid pressure. Some of our days should be spent destressing and not worrying about work or our studies. This should serve as ice breaker and time to recharge our batteries for us to be ready again and function really well when we work or study.

8. Taking time to process your emotions and honor your feelings
We do have different stress levels and we process our emotions differently. There is no such person as oversensitive. We are uniquely created and so we are entitled to feel how we feel and take time to process our emotion. Also, we should not devalue other's emotions just because we think we've been through a lot more difficult situation.

9. Not drinking alcohol to relieve stress or deal with uncomfortable emotions
Drinking alcohol may be the fastest and the easiest way to relieve stress for some people but it won't be beneficial in the end. After you sobber, you still have same problems. So better face it head on and not fight with alcohol.

Those are nine how boundaries with yourself looks like by Amanda E. White. She is a part of an organization that supports therapy or women.

These days we know already what are our limits and our dreams. We should really be starting to practice setting boundaries with ourselves like how we practice self-care. In that way, we can function very well and we can be a light to other people.

Thanks for reading. Until then.

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