07.04.22

How's everybody's Sunday night box office? I hope that you enjoyed your day before you go back to your weekend routine.

Me and Lil B? We're fine and we got to go out for a bit. I actually wanted to go somewhere so she can see something else other than us and our home. Basically I just want her to be tired so she can sleep early again. These past few days, I was getting a little less sleep as she slept at 12md for almost a week now. Yes I know that her body clock is changing but I need to do something so I can maintain to do articles or my mini side hustling. It worked though, just right after I changed her nighties she slept. Whew!

Oh by the way, we went to my best friend's house last night. We just had dinner and let Lil B play with her cats. She's a dog and cat person. Lil B loves animals and she wants to carry the cats. Here's a picture so you can see how she enjoyed it.

Not to worry, this cat loves babies too. My best friend T, tells me what cat she can play with. I only tell Lil B to touch it. She knows and she listens not to pinch them but only to do gentle touch.

Oh T is also one of Lil B's God parents. So much for intro eh? HAHAHAHAH, sorry about that.

Do you still remember issues that we see on Facebook about parents who seek financial help to their kumare's or kumpare's (your child's god parents)? I cringe everytime I see one to be honest. Some people just lost the sense of God parenthood (is that the term? hahaha anyway). Share some stories if you experienced some too, my comment section is open for chika!!!

Anyway, let's discuss a few regarding this stuff.

What is the role of god parents?

God parents serves as the 2nd parents of a child. They help the parents in the upbringing of the child, especially in religious way.

For us, it doesn't have to be all religious but as long as they help make our Lil B as a decent human being, that's already enough for us.

I am not a religious person but I am a Catholic. I am baptized but I don't know my god parents personally. It turned out I have one pair of god parents and I only got to see them once in my lifetime.

How do we choose our child's god parents?

This is just plain my opinion and how we chose Lil B's God parents.

• People we can trust our child to if we are not around.

• Someone who can provide positive influence.

• People who will be around

• Someone who will do the role as god parents by heart, not just on paper.

• People who will love our child and agrees to be a god parent.

In Filipino culture, we got used to getting god parents who are close friends or relatives. Some parents may choose people who are financially capable to give gifts to the child, which is one toxic trait. Do you agree?

It is also a tradition not to accept an offer to be a god parent. We have a saying that being a god parent is a privilege and it's a blessing so we shouldn't say no. In our case, we choose the people closest to us who fits the criteria above. We have asked a few people if they want to be Lil B's god parents. The people I asked on my side have the liberty to not accept the offer. I don't want to dictate their role to our child as a god parent and they would only agree because I told them to. Therefore, it was a forced god parenthood and they will only become a god parent by paper. I specifically asked them if they want to and no hard feelings if they don't like to be one. Honestly, I would understand and I made sure to ask them twice or thrice before I list them as one.

Monetary assistance from god parents are appreciated but not required.

I did a little research and basically god parents are the principal sponsors of the child's baptism from clothes, food, giveaways, etc. However, financial responsibilities are not mandatory and will depend on the discretion of the parent and soon to be god parent.

For me, I can accept monetary assistance as long as they would offer. I won't assign it to each of them. That's already a bonus that we can get from them for being a god parent but the most important thing that we need is they can be a good role model to our Lil B.

Lil B's God parents

Lil B has a total of 13 god parents and we picked just a few people that we know who can do the role of god parents.

Since I am one of my niece's god parent, we chose both of sisters husband. We know that even if they are not one, they would still be a good model to her.

I picked some of my closest friends from my previous company. Yes, some. One of them that wasn't a god parent went to lil b's baptism and I told her that she'll be one to our soon to be 2nd born and she agreed. You know the trouble of choosing god parents, the first born almost gets it all. We don't want our soon to be children to have god parents that we don't trust enough to be one. We also picked my husband's closest friends who are based in different places too. That way whenever lil b goes, there's someone that can guide her aside from us, her parents.

Choosing the people who will be a part of your child's life is crucial. This is just the time that we can get to choose people who will be part of her life. Soon enough, Lil b will choose the people that she wants to be with and be part of her life.

Choose wisely and responsibly.

Well that's all for now folks!

Fishing out.

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