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Do you celebrate anniversaries? Do you count how long you've been together? How do you celebrate your anniversary?

To be honest, I am not thrilled to celebrate anniversaries. Even in my past relationships, I didn't get a habit celebrating anniversaries, counting months or years we've been together because counting gives me the though that there's a point to stop. I would also overthink situations long before it happen.

Oh by the way, today marks our first wedding anniversary. We didn't plan anything for our first anniversary as we are saving up for something, but we did do a small celebration in advance. Yes, he can't go home today because he's at work, in the province.

Well, let me share a little bit of our love story.....

How I met your father?

My husband and I met on a dating app, Bumble. Both of us we very skeptical about dating sites, but I guess the world has its own way of meeting up two people. I got out from a 9 months? toxic relationship and been single for morethan half a year. Then he also got out from a 6 year? toxic relationship too.

He we talked for a bit at first because I wasn't in the mood to talk to strangers, so I uninstalled the app. After a few months, I got bored again and reinstalled the app that was New year of 2020. I greeted a few guys that I've talked to before and he's one of the guys who greeted me back.

From there, I only felt his vibe a bit different from others. I felt at ease and comfortable which is weird for me. Then after a few days/weeks of talking we decided to meet up. It was also the first time that I agreed to meet up with a total stranger. I made sure to be careful and asked my bestfriend to come with us, she didn't hesitated to come and she was also excited for me.

Fastforward...

We dated a few more times for weeks and on a Valentine's Day he asked me if he can be my boyfriend. I told him to give me more time because I know that I can easily be attached to someone and I just want to make sure that he is not a rebound. A few weeks later, I was ready, I was sure, without any reservation, I wanted him. We became official. :)

Just as soon as we officially became a couple, COVID and lockdowns happened. We became an LDR couple. 6months no physical contact, no face to face dates, no hugs, no kisses. It was hard for me, I wasn't used to that kind of relationship. I wasn't sure if it's gonna work. To my surprise, it was only the not seeing each other personally was our challenge but we got by. We managed to get through it and what's more surprising on my part was I never felt at more ease, at peace, safe and bothered that he's gonna cheat. It was the first time that I felt so secure in a person, while being away from me. He made me feel secure without any efforts. It was somehow natural for him.

Knowing his work and time, he could really get very busy. I would understand if he cannot call me or message me, plus I am not a clingy type of girlfriend (clingy is okay, being too clingy for no reason sometimes is annoying, just to be clear). I wanted to give him space because I myself value my alone time but even if he's busy he still managed to update or even call me. It wasn't a 24/7 cctv camera situation but he made sure to see me or talk to me every night before we go to sleep.

After 6 months of being away from each other, he managed to go back to Manila for a week and for sure we missed each other. We tried to live in together for a couple of months and then boom! Guess who's knocked up? HAHAHHAA.

Then we were blessed with our Lil B, before I gave birth his parents wanted us to get married so that we don't have to worry about our baby's legal documents soon.

Did we change?

Me? ahahha yes, a lot. From physical to every aspect of my being. I've changed. I even told him that before I gave birth that I may not be the one he married. That things may change drastically after I gave birth, which it did but I would tell him to be more patient and understanding with me or in the situation. No worries, I am still the same person he knew but with less patience HAHAHAHA.

Him? Nope, he didn't change at all. We are still on an LDR setup but he goes home frequently now than before. He still manages to find time to call us even when he's busy. He still manages to greet us goodnight everynight. Oh one thing changed, sometimes I feel like he only calls me to see Lil B, not me. HAHAHAHA. That's why I love him more everyday.

How did we celebrate our first anniversary?

We actually celebrated in advance, last week when he got home unexpectedly. We had a quick date after we applied for a Postal ID. The 3 of us had a quick date.

I even told my husband to consider that as an advance wedding anniversary celebration. :)

I don't like anything fancy or grand, maybe once in a while yes I would appreciate it but I would appreciate it more if we celebrate it together. Well given in our situation, we can't be together but it's not a big deal. I have a ring on my finger with his name and he has a ring on his finger with my name, that's what matters to me.

Besides, we still have a lifetime to celebrate for our anniversary. What's important is we got each other's backs and we promised to be each other's pain in the aSH.

Message?

I suck at love letters and messages because I always say how I feel. Good or bad. Important or not. Maybe I suck in giving sweet messages, I'll show it instead.

I am just lucky to have my husband in every little way. He's hand perfectly fits mine and I only want to tell you that I miss you whenever you're away. I miss your smell, I miss the feeling when you skon touches mine, I miss annoying you in person. I miss everything, sometimes I get pissed off if I don't hear your voice. Just don't forget that I love you and I will always be beside you. He may not read this and he knows this already.

Happy first anniversary Honey! 💛🐝💛🐝💛

From your asawang may sabit.A lifetime to go :)

Lead image and pictures posted are mine