A must!
Something my dad says...He says you end up marrying the one you don't understand. Then you spend the rest of your life trying.
___Fredrik Backman
There might really be no hand book for loving someone or being in a relationship per say but I believe somethings are just proportional to all no matter how hard you look at it and in the same vane, somethings are just distinct and very far apart.
Truth is we all can never really come to a full understanding of this broad concept called love and the more you try the more one gets drawn in a depth of confusion which makes one start all over again until it simply becomes an endless circle.
In our strive to understand what love truly means, the least I think we can do or that there is to do is to understand that one person through which you define love because whether we like it or not, we each have come to experience love itself because someone showed it to us.
That's why there can never be a stipulated definition of the term love because we each define it from the ever so minute iota that we've experience either personally or in passing.
That's why an act of love for one might become an act of hatred for another and then bias for a third party.
How much of love we have come to get, feel, experience, come across or understand is how we define what love is.
I really didn't want to talk about love per say but about understanding the one we claim to love.
It has been established that there is a fine line between knowledge and understanding but somehow In matters of the heart and love or should I say relationships, people still tend to mix it up.
Understanding in a relationship goes beyond favourite foods or colours, best football club or favorite sport star, favourite song and many more. A proper and thorough understanding of one's partner sees beyond these things but looks at long lasting traits that makes a person who they are and tell what they want in life.
I often hear people say "if you don't know your spouse's favourite color then you two are not serious". Really! Is this the guarantee that a relationship would be successful because of just mere knowledge of colours and foods. I beg to differ!
If you read my opening quote this evening, you'd agree that the lack of understanding is a major reason why relationships these days don't work out. Strangers are getting married and thinking they will learn about each other along the way. When things don't work out they begin to regret and blame the devil. These people can be likened to a student who wants all A's in an exam but refuses to study. Makes me wonder how one expects to pass an exam without studying.
Can one ever know it all about their spouse? The answer is definitely no! But can one understand to a reasonable extent? Definitely yes!
Work must be done in any relationship if it's to be successful. When there is a proper understanding, problems rarely arise and when they do, they are easily solved.
Author's Epilogue
Relationships are one of the hardest things to deal with cos it's filled with so much drama. If you're presently not in one, don't go into it until you're absolutely sure you're ready.
Despite all the hurdles which are inevitable, there's nothing better than having someone you can call your own..hehehe
Thanks for reading today...I remain your favorite girl
Mhizutty the voice of truth 🎵🎶🎵
We don't need to compare our relationship to other couples since it's impossible for their actions to be the same as yours and your partner's. I believe that we should take relationships seriously since they are more than simply a game to play.