What other moms said

As a first time mom, I have a lot of questions to other moms because I want to learn everything about taking care of a baby. I heard various ways and practices but I asked my baby's pedia first if this or that is okay to my baby. I had enough during my pregnancy when I didn't followed my ob-gyne's advice because I followed what my boyfriend's mom and aunties said. Because of that, my baby had a low birth weight. If only I went home and be with my own family, then I would not be too stressed and I would not limit my food intake because I'm sure that my grandma will let me have healthy foods and she'll advice to buy those vitamins prescribed by my ob-gyne. But nevermind. It's already done. I already promised to myself that if I ever give birth again, I will follow everything that will make me and the baby healthy.

I know every mom takes care of their baby uniquely, I mean they have their own ways that are different to other moms. Some of them are reasonable and some of them are so impractical for me but I did not tell them what I think about it tho. I respect what they believe is right for their baby so they should also respect mine. I will write here some of the advice or practices that some moms told me to follow but I didn't. I am not saying they're wrong. I just think that it's not necessary. After all, it's my baby so my rules will be followed. I already told some moms that they can advice what to do but they shouldn't force me to do what I think is not necessary.

What I will write here is just my preferences and I am not saying these are wrong. I just chose not to follow for I have my own reasons.

What other moms said:

"Give my baby some water because she's taking vitamins"

It's a big NO for me. I researched and asked a midwife about it and she told me I shouldn't give my baby some water for she's below 6 months old and her kidney is very young, very fragile. If she drinks water, she would also intake sodium that's present in water and her kidney will have a hard time straining it. She also said that my baby might be confused between the water's taste and my breastmilk and there might be a tendency that she won't like my breastmilk anymore. Actually, there are still some reasons she told me but I forgot the details so I will not include them to avoid giving false information.

"Use baby wipes already. My babies used them and they all grew up healthy"

Clea used baby wipes when she's two-day old but when the nurses see me using it, they advised me to use cotton soaked with water to avoid harmful chemicals that might be in the baby wipes. Clea's pedia also told me to stop using baby wipes for it might cause Urinary Tract Infection especially that Clea is a girl and girl's reproductive system is open compared to boys. My boyfriend's mom consistently tells me to use wipes and she even bought one pack. She's so persistent and she wants me to follow her ways like she's right in everything. Sorry to say this but I hate her for being to bossy and for being ms. Know-It-All. That's also the reason why I went home because I can't stand with her presence. I told her many times not to kiss my daughter but she keeps on doing it. I am the mother and I don't kiss my own baby so she can't respect that.

"Apply Aceite de Manzanilla on my baby's head"

A lot of moms do this, even my own mom. I remember she used to apply on my brother's tummy, feet and head every afternoon. I asked my baby's pedia about this and she told me she have nothing against it but it's not necessary. Applying oil to baby's head would cause heat and it may cause discomfort especially that Clea sweats a lot on his head even though her hair is not thick. Imagine the heat she will feel if I apply Manzanilla oil on his head. She won't be comfortable sleeping anymore. I also hate it when my boyfriend's mom again would just go directly in our room when she will hear Clea cry. It's fine with me if she'll help us to calm Clea but she will keep on blaming us especially me. I know Clea is crying because I never heard her burp that time and maybe she felt uneasy because it's warm in our room. But my boyfriend's mom will touch Clea's head and she will told us that Clea is not feeling well so she will apply Manzanilla oil (a lot of it) on Clea's head and let her wear caps or anything that will cover Clea's head. As a result, Clea won't stop crying because she's uncomfortable of the oil on her head. Sorry for talking about my mother in law wanna be. Lol. I just don't like her ways.

"You shouldn't bathe your baby during Fridays"

I know most of you know the reason why and some of you follow this too and I respect that. It's just different for me because I do bathe Clea everyday except if she's sick. It's just days so why do I need something to associate with it?

What's your say about this?

These are only few, guys and I am not yet done with this. Clea is awake now and she's crying, I think she's calling me. Haha! Gotta travel again to the next town where there's an internet connection to upload this.

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