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I Should Have Listened To My Grandma
Since I was born, it was my grandma who took care of me. Where's my mom? I don't want to talk about her again. She was the type of mom who just gave birth and leave afterwards. I'm so lucky that she did that because if not, I would live with her and I wouldn't have the life I have now. I am happy to be with my grandma and nothing can change that even if I will be given a chance to choose other options. See my grandma was the one who make my life possible. I can't count the ways she did for me just to make me live. I wasn't being breastfed by my mom making my grandma bought commercial milk. Some of you here knows that milk for babies are pricy and yes, my grandma seek ways just for us to have milk everytime we cry. My grandma doesn't have work that time but she has been selling snacks like hotcakes, iced candy, cupcakes, softdrinks and donuts. I know her earnings from that is not enough but she managed to give our needs. Yes, OURS. Because my mom got pregnant again and again. As a result, I had my second and third sibling and three of us are in the care of my grandma. Taking care of just one child and providing child's needs is very hard. How much more if there are three? And even just for once, **I never heard her complain about the things she did for us.** All she wants is for us to finish our studies and land a stable job for own future. **That's why I will do everything to give her the life she deserves after taking care of us. Now that we are grown up, it's time to give back.** But there were really times when the situation was not in our favor. Sometimes, I and my grandma are having a little argument because it's not always all the time our opinions are in sync. There are things she wants me to follow but then I refused because I want to do things my way as I am discovering life as an adult like a butterfly starting to spread it's wings. She always told me to be like this and to be like that. I don't want to be controlled during those times and so I did not listen. Little did I know that I am slowly putting myself in a trap as I don't listen her. And now, I can't go out from the trap I made. Well, perhaps I can but I don't know how for now. She was right when she said, **Regret doesn't happen in the beginning and so I must be careful of the decisions I make for I cannot go back in time.** This is the only time that I realized that I should have listened to my grandma. I should have listened to my grandma when she said: **Don't spend too much of your time with friends for not all of them will stay/help when you need them.** I admit I was such a party-goer before and spent my time with friends from day until dawn. When I have my free time at work, I will always go to my friends instead of staying at home and having a great bonding with my sisters. There was also one time when I stayed overnight with my friends without asking permission from her and when I came home in the morning, I did not heard a word from her that she's upset or mad for what I did. Instead, she asked me what I like to eat for breakfast. I was moved and I felt guilt of what I did and so I decided not to go out with friends always. That doesn't end there. I can't really forget the first time me and my grandma really had an intense argument. It was New Year's day when I went out because my friends invited me to have a drink. I had a great time there with friends drinking and partying the night away that I didn't notice that it's already morning. Meanwhile I saw my mom coming and wants me to go home but I refused and told her she should leave because she's just making a scene and it's not proper to scold me around with many people. But she didn't listen and continued to talk rudely to me including my friends. Sometimes, my grandma really forgot good manners especially when she's angry. She could have remained calm when she told me I should go home so I would be calm as well. She would not stop talking so I went home and there at home, I lose my respect to her. I answered her back and shouted at her. Why will **she always label my friends as bad influence when in the first place, it was my choice to go with them.** They didn't force me at all. It was my willingness to go and get drunk with them. I explained everything to her but she's just too close-minded. All I want is for her to put the blame on me and not with anybody else. She also told me that I was acting that way because I am drunk. Yes, I do have the influence of an alcohol that time but I was not drunk. If I was, I wouldn't be able to go home by my own. But she insisted again that I am. I lose my temper when she said my friends are just nice to me because I have money but if I will be the one who needs help, they would be nowhere to be found. I left the house and slept in one of my friends house and I didn't let grandma know about it. My sisters told me she searched for me everywhere but then I just ignored their messages and turned off my phone. **That was 7 months ago and I felt like it was just yesterday. In that 7 months, many things had happened to me which I considered as my karma.** I was now in a situation I did not expected for me to be in and I can't get out of this. If I can, things will never be the same as it was. I will never be free. This is when I realized that my grandma was right. It's true. **Some friends will just stay with you when you're at your best.** When I am down, some of my friends will notice but most of them didn't care. They just ask me how I am and then they disappear. *My friends are not here with me. I can always communicate with them but not the same as before since they already had work.* *I was in a situation where I needed much help but I can't call someone. I want help from my grandma but I am too shy to ask. That's why I choose to solve the problem with my own. I am not complaining to God why He gave me this situation but I do ask for Him to give me the strength I need.* **I should have listened to my grandma.** Thank you so much guys for reading! You've been so kind to me since day one. Thank you so much again for your time! To my generous sponsors, upvoters and to those who comments, I am sending you my warmest gratitude! Let's talk and get to know each other well. You can also reach me at marianovylhyn@gmail.com
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Mao pud nay kanunay isulti sa akong nanay mem. Kanunay jud iwahi ang pagbasol. But one thing I'm sure, bisan unsa pay mabuhat nato mem, madawat ra gihapon tas atong nanay, especially imong lola. Based from what I read, buotan imong lola mem. Mapasaylo ra ka ana niya.
Tinuod mem. Di pako mutuo sa una nga kahibaw silas mahitabo daan maong mu supak jod ko pero karon kay gidangat na jod. Okay naman mi mem pero lahi na lge sa una. Maikod nako mangajog tabang hehe
Ummmh. Your grandma did a great job raising you. And it's always good to listen to the elderly ones because they have a wider range of experience and also we would be as old as them someday and we would love to be respected by the young ones.
Thanks for seeing it that way, Queen. Yes, we should always listen to elders for they know more and has more experienced than us. Respecting them should be a normal thing for us to do. Thanks, Queen
We should listen into our guardians so that we will not regret our decision Your grandma really loves you
Definitely, this is the Best thing I realized. And yes, my grandma loves me so much, no doubt.
You can still make bawi to your grandma by pursuing your dreams and not giving up. I'm sure she's proud of what you have become now. Though, you've got problems,still you choose to hold on and be strong no matter what. Shemsss🧡
Menggg! Hahaha! I don't know how I can make bawi, but I will laban gihapon.
You can make bawi by just labaning gihapon.. that is the start
Charottt wako naanad ani kaseryoso ka hahaha
Wahahahaha kaanad na
Nooooo hahaha
No why
Your grandma raised you well. I know that you and your grandma will be okay soon. And yes you're right, some friends will treat you nicely when you're at your best but in the time that you need them, they are nowhere to find and is always not available.
Thank you so much for seeing it that okay. My grandma is okay now, we are okay but I still have hesitations in times when I need help. Yeah, so we must choose our friends well because we don't wanna be with friends who just stick around during good times.
It's normal to have misunderstanding with our family, it's part of growing up that you explore the world. But just put limitations and don't forget who was there when you have nothing.
Definitely, this is so beautiful, miss Eyb. This sums up everything. Thank you 🥰
Yeah, don't feel too bad. Just do your best to cope up with your granny.
Yes. This will make me feel better too.
I Miss my lola tuloy🥺 lahat ng bilin niya ginagawa ko.🥺🥰
The best talaga ang mga lolas ❤️
Tama si Lola. Hindi lahat NG kaibigan mo e makakasama mo kapag need mo ng tulong. Dun mo din malalaan Kung Sino tlga Yung totoo e. Hindi lang sa good times
At yan yung pinakahamahalagang natutunan ko sa lahat sis. Na hindi lahat ng kaibigan ay magsstay sayo. Thanks for dropping by sis
Totoo Yun hehe. As we grow older masasanay na Tayo sa ganon set up hehe.
At least you learned on your own experience na tama yung mga bilin ni lola :)
Opo at yun yung pinakamahalaga sa lahat
Real friends won't never leave because a real one will stay with you whatever happens. By the way, I admire your grandma as she has a gold heart for raising you without complaining, you may have some misunderstandings with her, but I know she still loves you. I'm glad that you've learned your lessons at the end.
Yeah, I guess real friends are just really few. Truly, my grandma is so selfless that she really put us first in everything. I am certain too that she loves me still unconditionally. Yeah, what's most beautiful in this situation is that I learned my lesson. Thank you, Amy.
Your Lola is so kind and I know she really loves you. I'm happy that you've learned from that experience.
Yes, sis. Beyond kind. I'm happy that I really learned from it too in a way that I value my grandma so more than before.
May your grandma live a happy and long life she raised you very well and it wasn't only you who was shy at that moment and didn't told her. Same i don't have ability to share anything freely with my grandfather he passed away and now i know what i loss. So never loss your strength and god always put in situation which we've strength to tackle
Thanks, friend. I do hope my grandma lives longer so I can make it up to her and give her the life she deserves. Oh, sorry to hear that. Definitely, let's not lose our strength and put God in everything first. Thank you so much for this advice. ☺️
true sa friends ate, ako lumaki ako na mapagisa saka di palakaibigan. confidence kasi ako sa lahat na dina baling walng kaibigan o isa lang atleast alam ko sa sarili ko na masaya ako
At yan ang maganda be 🥺 yan yung natutunan ko talaga
I'm glad you have thought things through and gained wisdom from those experience. You have learned more about your friends who are your true friends. I have great respect to your grandma for doing what she can to give you the life she knows best and did not give up on you. Take better care of your grandma and your family.
Yes, and it's so sad that I have to experience those things first before realizing Grandma's reasons. I will surely do take care of her as well as my sisters. Thank you always.
I commend you on that for coming to a realization. Life really throws us to some unfortunate events for us to realize things.
Grabi kang bata ka, pero at least may natutunan ka sa mga nagawa mo. Alam no naman ang mga oldies, papunta ka palang sila nakauwi na. Kaya marami silanh alam, saka obvious naman sa mga kilos mo, sa mga pinag gagagawa mo na B.I sila sayo. Remember, hindi lahat ng kaibigan handang mag stay sayo. May iba kaya lang lumalapit sayo kasi may pakinabang kapa sa kanila. What if pag wala na? Hayss, wag kana sana ulit uulit. Makinig kay Granny, if Mothers Knows best, then Granny knows a Lot. Marami na syang experience sa buhay, so u listen.
Opo Ms. Ruffa. Ngayon ko lang din narealize yan 🥺 na may nangyari na. Ngayon ko lang din nalaman na sa pamilya kapa rin uuwi kapag naubos kana. Salamat po dito.
Barry nakahilak. Seryoso. Nakahinumdom ko sa giila naho nga lola, pero not related jud sya namo. Nakastay ko nija for a year sa hs pa ko, grabi jud sya muprovide para naho. Now, wala na sya sa among lugar kay gipalayas sa ijang salbahis nga anak. 💔
Awww sorry baray. Ana jod cguro bsta giila natong lola, di jod makalimtan. Grabe sie pod palayas oy kasakit ba paminawon inahan palayason. 🥲
True baray. Nag promise jud ko sa ahong self nga pangitaon naho sija. Unta makahuwat pa sija :( Idk kung asa si nanay karon T.T
Salig lang barat ayaw laom. Bitaw magkita ra mo puhon ug unta makahuwat jod. Kaluoy ba pod oy.
Awww Grandma knows best <3 The most caring person that I know. You can always make things right <3 The best time is now. Best of Best. <3
True. Grandma is the best 🥰 Yes, I am making it up to her. Thanks for dropping by. ☺️
They are best as they lived more than us... They have more experience than us. They are right ❤️
I agree on this, sir. This is one of my realizations so far.
yes, we should always listen to them, they know more a lot about life the we do.
Opo. Now that I understand my grandma, I will surely listen to her all the time.
Hmmm I wonder what happened. Good luck and God bless. He can help you with your problems. And it's not too late to still talk to your grandma about your troubles. I'm sure she'll still understand. You are very lucky indeed to have such a grandma.
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