Unique Families
Family, as I have known in my childhood school days, is the basic unit of society. Indeed, it is true to its definition, but nowadays, a family became a complex structure.
A few months back I have written an article about "Happiness or the best," it's about this Korean drama of a dysfunctional family where children are controlled by egocentric parents and the norm of the family's status in society. Truly a heartbreaking story of a child being born from these kind of families.
But, problematic people aren't parents only, some are the children too.
In my work I can't help notice the family of each patient I've come across. Sometimes families can be as conventional as the old days, the children are supportive, they regularly bond with their parents, and the concern is just overwhelming.
However, you may also find unique families, with super awesome to unfortunately calloused children, that often times caring for their patients and parents can be so emotionally draining. And this burden is more exhausting than the energy I have to exert physically for them.
Ironically, some elderly patients have five, six, seven children with great jobs and businesses respectively, but failed to provide the attention and financial needs of their parents. The son works as a seaman on international vessel, daughters who are nurses overseas, an architect and engineer, everyone is earning so well yet no one can pay for the CT Scan and no one can buy the medicines. Just so heartbreaking. How can someone be so insensitive to the needs of their sick and old parents?
Sometimes, I thought that having children does not guarantee that someone will be there for you on your death bed. Any mother or father can suffer and die alone and lonely. This is a sad reality as I see sometimes in elderly patients.
I have this 76 year old patient who lives with her 75 year old husband that I visit three times a week. Though they have two sons working abroad that could provide financially, but no one is around physically to support them in their needs. Thus, I have to offer some of my time to assist them in going to the hospital for bloodworks and stuffs like that. This is not part of my job, but I can't resist helping a patient who really needs help in moving around, yet only assisted by the husband who is just as old as her.
This afternoon, my inpatient was not in the mood to cooperate with his exercises. The caregiver told him in the morning that his daughter, a practicing doctor in the neighboring city was in town and might visit him. Unfortunately, she didn't come to see him and mind you it has been five years that she haven't visited them, in fact it's just a 2-hour drive away from Iligan City. Obviously, the father was upset and of course I can't help to feel bad for him. Sometimes, our financial support isn't enough, a little of our time might be a great help emotionally and psychologically for this sick and frail loved one.
"The best use of life is love. The best expression of love is time." - Rick Warren
As someone who can see the need, we just have to walk an extra mile for these patients who badly needed a "family," not by blood but through kindness and love.
My last words for tonight is not mine,
“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you." - Exodus 20:12
Spread the love, in your family first.
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03/15/2022
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There are many children who apparently do not love their parents, it is unfortunate, because our parents have done everything for us and have sacrificed throughout their lives so that we as children are well and enjoy good health, it is sad to see that there are children with very good jobs who do not care about their parents, maybe they have a lot of money and a good job, but I feel that they do not have a good heart, because if they had it they would help their parents.