Hold On For How Long?

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3 years ago
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“Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.” - C.S. Lewis

I have this quote posted recently in noise.cash, integrity bothers my mind while I was on my way home from work. 

I wonder, where is integrity when all that is left is drudgery, hardship, and tribulation. When no one checks on your mistakes, and no one acknowledges your success, when you’ll just have to do your thing on your own, can you remain honest and truthful till the end?

This evening, my memory takes me to this patient that I have been seeing for some time. I was her Physical Therapist when she got multiple fractures due to a vehicular accident. She recovered from that ordeal with me, however, she got a stroke a few months after that, so it was a never ending Physical Therapy sessions for her.

Her dilemma was overwhelming. When she got a stroke and could no longer move around, being in bed all day and having to rely on her husband’s help, I know how depressing it was, I can feel it and I saw her cry sometimes.

Unfortunately, her suffering didn’t end there. The most painful of it all was when her husband abandoned her, took her retirement money that she thought was enough for her treatments and medications.

The husband didn’t hire a caregiver for her, he would constantly assure her that he can do it. Helped her in taking a bath, changing diapers, cooking, and feeding her, it’s a cycle every single day. Anyone would understand all that is drudgery in the long run. So, anyone should hold on, but for how long?

After six months, the husband stopped PT sessions for her wife saying that they’ll be going to Manila and will be living with their son. All along, I really thought that they did.

A couple months after, I received the heartbreaking news that the wife died. 

At the funeral, I found out that they didn’t leave for Manila, and a month after she stopped Physical Therapy, her husband took the money she got after retirement being a Public School Teacher. However, before that, she endured being left at home sometimes with no food, and diapers left unchanged. Her co-teacher once visited her and contacted a relative’s househelp to visit her once a day during daytime when the husband isn’t around, unfortunately there are times that she’s alone at night too.

While listening on how she went through, I felt like I had a lump in my throat holding back my tears. She must’ve held on for so long with all the pain and frustrations on her deathbed.

In sickness and in health… Sometimes, it can be a lie.

This is a sad reality, no one is sticking around when the other gets sick, and when life gets tough. Our chances of finding integrity in situations like this can be a shot in the dark. 

Nothing is certain, even the weather and love.

Why out of the blue this story bugs me? Because, just this afternoon, I have heard the husband passed away in their home, in the room his wife died.

I hope he finds forgiveness from his past mistakes, from life that might've unfolded differently, and the regrets that might've haunted him till the very end.

Right now, I am listening to this song from Ben & Ben "Leaves," made me realize that, perhaps patience just fell short in sustaining love and truthfulness. And maybe, all will be all right in time, that is if there is still time.


What a melancholic Saturday night, and listening to this song makes me want to sigh...

Have an amazing weekend everyone!


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11/13/2021

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huhhuhuh...I felt sad for the wife..and I kept on imagining the struggles she had to endure... I also felt bad for the husband , maybe he felt tired and all and only want to rest but then it's all too late

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3 years ago

Leaves was one of my companion during my hard days. It gives me hope that all will be alright in time. So I just have to hold on for a little bit more.

The husband might've felt tired that he made a wrong decision. But there are husbands too who wouldn't left their wives especially if they are sick badly. It might be better if he left and not bring his wife's money. She could've live longer and recover. I can't imagine his regrets.

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3 years ago

heartbreaking... am sorry for the wife... and I hope indeed the husband find it in his heart to ask for forgiveness for what he has done, we may not know the entire story...but it's sad that happened...

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3 years ago

Nainis ako sa ginawa ng husband Sis pero nabigla ako ng ganito din nangyari sa kanya. Nalaman mo ba kung anong reason ng pagkamatay nya?

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3 years ago

Why naman so aga ng kalungkutan na ito 🥺. Nakakalungkot pero may iba talaga na di kayang mag stick sa other part nila lalo na kung sa tingin nila sobra sobra para sa kanila. They are partner, they promise to each other pero bakit naman ganon. Bakit ang panget ng ending 😥

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3 years ago

AWw, this is sad. Ang sakit sa puso.

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3 years ago

This made me shed tears this early. It's sad thinking about someone dying without anyone around her or being sick and having no one to look after her. May they both be in peace...

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3 years ago

Sa ganyang situation talaga makikita ang tunay na pagmamahalan. It just so sad what the husband did.

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3 years ago

This is so heartbreaking. This reminds me of one of my parents' churchmate who was abandoned by her husband and children nung igupo xa ng 3rd tym stroke. A big question mark why family can tolerate their members situation

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3 years ago

Sheeems! I got goosebumps when I read that the husband died on the exact same place as her wife. It seems that what he did on the past bothered him a lot. Hopefully both of them already put a forgiveness in their hearts in the other world. May they rest in peace.

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3 years ago

What a sad story, I can't imagine the agony of these people.

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3 years ago

How sad what happened to your patient, she must have suffered a lot before she passed away. How heartbreaking that the person he loved and trusted has hurt him so much, but sometimes it is like that, we never really know people, maybe the person we love the most is the first to betray us because he knows our weaknesses.

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3 years ago

Nakakalungkot naman na may mga taong ganyan .Sarili lang nila iniisio at sariling pamilya ang inabandona.

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3 years ago

this is so heartbreaking! I am almost in tears. I may not know them but I also do hope that the husband finds peace and forgiveness from his actions in the past.

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3 years ago

One of the saddest stories under my care..

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3 years ago

super nakakalungkot :(((

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3 years ago

Sometimes life is hard. And I don't know how to explain the things that happen in a couple that in one moment they are happy and in the other they are separated.

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3 years ago

That's true, my friend. It's hard to explain why things change all of a sudden.

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3 years ago

What a heartbreaking and sad story of your patient, but it happens so many times. The truth is we don't have anything granted. And agree, In sickness and in health can be a lie sometimes. Happy weekend to you!

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3 years ago

That's true, even children abandon their sick mother or father. Breaks my heart!

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