When both of you cheat, is it still worth it to stay?

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3 years ago

September 12, 2021

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Disclaimer: this is a true story but not mine. My friend gave me permission to share her chaotic relationship here. But I will not state their real names.

How's your sunday so far? We still have few hours to spend today before our so called rest day ends,hope you have a good rest.

The day before yesterday, my best friend visits me here and we have some chitchats and kumustahan. Then I told her about read.cash and what I did here, I also said that sometimes I run out of topic and she suddenly said that why not write her dramatic love story with her boyfriend since I am updated to what's happening to them because she always run to me whenever they had fight or they broke up a hundred times. She just requested me to not mention their realname and if I put their photos, make it blurred but ofcourse I will not going to put their photos.


So let me start, I will call my best friend Asyla and her boyfriend Oli.

Their love story started way back September 16, 2016. At first, it was just a puppy love since Asyla was just 14 years old and Oli was 18 years old. When they are now in a relationship, they used to be sweet and caring to each other. Asyla was very supportive to Oli, she's always present to all the basketball competition that Oli joined. They are inseparable that time, I noticed also that time that Asyla is more focus to Oli than us which I understand since he is her boyfriend, so she spent more time with him. They are in a secret relationship because Asyla's parent might not approve to their relationship until months passes they managed to tell their relationship to their family which Asyla's parents agreed to them. Oli was very close to Asyla's parents and her parent's also want him for her.

They broke up for almost one year. We specially me, was a fan of their relationship that time because Oli was very caring and understanding boyfriend to Asyla. They are very sweet to each other that's why when they broke up, we felt sad too for them. One year had passed when we heard that they had a come back. And it last long, they seems happy and contented to each other. In every relationship argument is always present so I have witness not only their sweetness but also their arguments. One time Asyla posted in fb saying how she beaten up by Oli and cursing him to the hell showing her swollen lips. But days passed she update again in fb that they are fine.

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Fast forward:

Oli's parents are separated and he needs to live with his father in Cavite. They became in a long distance relationship but sometimes if Asyla have time she will visit him there. Their next four months being in a long distance relationship went smooth not until Asyla became fragile that she committed a mistake to their relationship, she had a long time crush that asked her out and she did bit his sweet words. They used to see each other somewhere in private, how did I know? I told you Asyla didn't keep a secret to me. Why I didn't tell Oli? I am not in the right position to tell him and intervene to their relationship. When Jonel discovered it, you won't believe what he did. He beg to Asyla not to break up with him, he's willing to accept Asyla again and forget what she did though Asyla want to break up with him because of guilt. Ending they didn't broke up. They make their relationship new again and forget their past. And Asyla she didn't do again the mistake she did.

Last year, Asyla said to me that she noticed Oli was became busy that he just message her a good morning then went offline so they didn't have a proper conversation. It seems that they are not in a relationship because the interval of their message is sometimes 4-5 hours before one replied and it consists of good morning good afternoon or good night then no more lsm(long sweet message). She had a gut feeling that there's something wrong with Oli. Asyla is like an investigator, she didn't stop until she finds out something. She found out that Oli has an affair in his place, a new neighbor. She read the conversation of Oli and the girl and found out that there's something happening to that girl and Oli. She said that maybe it's her karma so she bear the pain until the girl leave again to Oli's place. Asyla realized how much she love Oli so she didn't broke up with him even go beg him not to leave her. Funny isn't, she did what Oli did in the past to her, begging each other. So they became okay.

Until now, they are still together but Asyla always message me how dry their relationship is, that they seldom message each others. And when she do a surprise visit to Oli, she will just end up went home again because Oli and her are fighting. I know she loves so much Oli and I can see how she slowly become a martyr one. But it's her choice, she don't want to break up with Oli even if their relationship is nearly to collapse.

End thoughts:

There are many challenges in every relationships and those who stays faithful to each others will always have a happy ending but what if the two person involve is already tainted their relationship, is it still worth it to stay and continue what you've started? Is love is still present to it? As for me, I don't experience such kind of situation so I don't know too what to answer. Anyway, they are now in the right age so I'll leave it to them. Hope they really change for the better and for each other.

Thank you for reading guys! If you have something to say about this, feel free to share your thoughts just comment down below.

-Loveleng18

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Base in your story. Parang ang toxic na nang relationship nila. I mean, relationship should help us grow in every aspect. Parang na out of love na talaga sila and the only thing na kinakapitan nalang nila is yung tagal ng relasyon nila. Which is ery wrong. If your relationship doesn't give you peace fo mind anymore, then better end it already. Kasi habanh mas pinapatagal nila, mas lalo lang lalala eh. In the first place, if they truly love each other, dapat di sila nag cheat πŸ˜…. I dunno, iba iba kasi talaga perception ntin sa love.

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3 years ago

Haha ang gulo din po noh, kahit ako di ko na alam sa kanila parang sila na hindi kaya pag nagkekwento kaibigan ko saken oo nalang ako ng oo haha di ko na kase alam aadvice di naman nakinig XD

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3 years ago

This is so tragic.. hope so they move on now.

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3 years ago

I hope they realized that hurting each other is not healthy to their relationship

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3 years ago

I think that the two of them do not love each other as much as they claimed if they can cheat on each other like that. Also, I have a feeling that a big part in why they can't break up is the time they have been in a relationship. I don't wanna judge but I truly hope she opens her eyes to realize that just because the relationship started out good does not mean that it will stay that way. It sounded like she was the only one trying to put in the effort to make the relationship work after what happened so I hope she find someone who will make her truly happy and not be reminded of her past mistakes and what not.

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3 years ago

That's what I pray for her that she find someone much better. I don't like seeing her like a dog chasing her boyfriend always.

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3 years ago

Sa palagay ko, mukhang same na silang na out of love sa isa't isa. Kailangan nila munang maghiwalay at hanapin ang kani-kanilang mga sarili. Kung mapatunayan nila sa kani kanilang mga sarili na mahal pa nila ang isa't isa then saka sila magbalikan. Pero sa nakikita ko, mukhang nasira na pareho ang tiwala nila sa isa't isa. At hindi malayo na may isa pa ulit na magchicheat lalo na kung ganyan na kalamig ang pakikitungo nila sa isa't isa.

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3 years ago

True po need nila ng space pero sa nangyayare ngayon parang on and off po sila. Ang gulo din hehez. Thanks for sharing your thoughts :)

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3 years ago

ang gulo nga...ayaw nila i let go ang isa't isa

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3 years ago

Opo kaya sila na bahala sa sarili nila XD. yoko mamroblema hehez

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3 years ago

though syempre since kaibigan ka nila, isang aaraw lalapit sila sayo at hihingi din ng advice :).

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3 years ago

This is the most painful one sis.πŸ₯Ί In a relationship if the trust will broken even you both decided to remain and continue the relationship it's really hard, the relationship isn't healthy anymore since if you'll having a fight it will reminiscing again about the trust issues. πŸ’”

Everytime you have a misunderstanding it will be included. It's always depend on a person also. I hope they will be okay and stays stronger.πŸ™

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3 years ago

Yes it is very painful one. Since both of them cheated yung trust nila is nalamatan na po. But I don't understand why they still continue their relationship hehez. Anyway its their life XD

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3 years ago

Yes sis labas na tayo sa kanila.. it's their own choice din. Desisyon nila yan hoping nalang tayo na maganda parin yung takbo ng relationship nila...πŸ™

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3 years ago

Sounds like neither of them are happy, life is short, she should go and find someone else wee one.

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3 years ago

I always said that to her hundred times po kuya ed but she's not listening a very hard headed one.

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3 years ago

It is difficult to stay the same when trust gets broken. There will always be doubts. It's the foundation of a relationship and once it is shaken, it will not be the same. Your friend is too young, and if her bf still treats her coldly, and even hurt her physically, i think it is better to keep distance na if I was her.

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3 years ago

Andami ko na pong advice sa kanya but she keep on coming back to her bf. Marupok, even though nahihirapan na sya sa sitwasyon nila.

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3 years ago

Hmm only she can do something about it. Nabulag na :D

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3 years ago

Kapag trust na ang masira, mahirap na talaga ibalik yun. Medyo na alarm lang ako ng konti dun sa sinaktan siya ng boyfriend niya physically. It's a big NO for me. Isa sa ayoko sa mga lalaki yung nananakit ng babae. Your friend and his boyfriend are still young. Baka hindi pa sila marunong maghandle ng relationship. Pero pag sinaktan pa siya ulit, I think it's better to advice her to quit. Hindi na maganda yun.

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3 years ago

Kahit ako din po ayoko sa lalaking nananakit ng babae and di ako papayag na saktan ako ng lalaki physically, nag advice na kami noon sa kaniya but she's not listening mahal nya po talaga kahit na nagkamali din sya

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3 years ago

That thing they're doing might be a their bad habits. Relationship for me is not about mere emotion, but a commitment and choice. They should always ready to commit and face the responsibility they're facing for having that kind of relationship. It's both parties choice wether they're going to break up or not. We're just here at side, going to gave our opinion

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3 years ago

I think their not yet matured to handle sich relationship. But its ther decision what they will going to choose.

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3 years ago

The entire story is explained with it’s caption. You asked as well as you answered the most weird but true question. This story not only belongs to Oli and Asyla but many others like them. Hats off to you.

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3 years ago

I know there are other couple out there which in the same situation with asyla and oli. Thanks for reading :)

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3 years ago

Welcome mate

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3 years ago

It seems to me that I read a beautiful love story.There must be trust in a relationship, there must be respect for each other, and no name can be given to this relationship.

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3 years ago

Trust is important in every relationship to make it last long.

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3 years ago

I think they're still too young and that's one factor I'm guessing.

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3 years ago

Maybe you're right po. I can say that my friend is not matured enough to handle serious relationship

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3 years ago

baka nga, Lovely. Entering into a relationship is not always flowers and butterflies hehe

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3 years ago

I strongly agree with this hehe

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3 years ago

It can be dangerous to their relationship if they formed habits of cheating, hopefully they will sort it out and nothing happens if they want to keep it forward.

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3 years ago

For me when you cheat, it's a goodbye to you but it seems that they don't want to leave each other's side even if its not healthy anymore, i do hope they fix themselves and be faithful to each other

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3 years ago

I think if both of you had trust issues then it would be hard to keep going each day. I may not have experienced being in a relationship but I think trust place a very big factor for every relationship.

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3 years ago

Yes trust is very important and also you should be faithful to each other so that no one can ruin your relationship.

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3 years ago