Being a Christian, specifically about being a Catholic, remembering the death of our love ones is very important. It became a tradition to celebrate death anniversary, not because we are happy that they are gone, but because it's the day the he/she are going to live with our God, and also to remember those days that they are together with us.

Aside from visiting the cemetery during Halloween season, we also prefer to visit the cemetery during death anniversary. The time when a family or with relatives gathered to offer a prayer and food.

Last December 18, was my grandfather's death anniversary, this supposedly the day that we must visit him at the cemetery, but this is what happened.

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December 18 early in the morning, both of my parents already leave our house for work. I am busy doing a lot of things, while my younger brother went to his friend's house at noon, as they are going to have a basketball league.

There is no sign for us to remember that it is the death anniversary of my grandpa, except for a big brown butterfly who visited in our house at afternoon.

I don't know if you already know this belief, but for us Filipino, this means that the spirit of your loved ones visiting you. I told to them that there's a butterfly, and my father responded, "Money!" Yes, according to some beliefs, this also means goodluck and money. We are having a business, waiting for it to boom, so we just all agree to my dad.

The next day, I don't know what came to my father's mind, because he remembered and said with a loud voice, "luh! It's father's death anniversary yesterday!" We are all freeze at that time, thinking "yeah it is."

I really feel bad that time, and told my dad, that we can just visit him before Christmas eve. He agreed, and then we just wait for that day.

But..

On the day, December 24 my parents have misunderstanding, so we ended up leaving the house 6 pm. We again forgot it, as while traveling our focus are; what to prepare, it's grandma's birthday, did we bring this or that.

At the end. We haven't visit my grandpa.

According to my father, he visit to my grandma's house last December 18, even our relatives there forgot that special day, which is unusual. My father also said, that maybe grandma remember that day, but she is just quite waiting for his children to tell what's the plan, but everything goes nothing.

As of now, I am still holding this burden in my heart that we haven't visit my grandpa. He is so good to us, and all those days that I'm with him, there's only love and happiness. Now I feel bad, I want to tell my dad to visit him before New Year, but I don't know why there's other side of my brain, pulling me not to tell it.

But I will. And it is God's plan, whether we can visit or not. Btw, from the night of December 25 until now, there's always a butterfly who are visiting in our house, I think it's already five different butterflies. This may be nothing to some, but for me, for us, it's a good thing.

As what my father said "I have heard and witnessed a lot of stories who proved that talking to a deceased love one, can help you became more closer to God."

Remember, in our beliefs, when your loved one is already with God, it's him/her who will tell God, "My God, he is so good to me, please forgive this person and help him/her throughout the journey"

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Author's love message :

Hello lovely readers! How was your day?

For those who are going to celebrate the death anniversary of your love ones this remaining days of December, I just want to remind you that special day. I know we are too busy, but at least just lend some prayers.

GOD Bless. Hugs!

Ps. Thank you so much to my ever supportive sponsor, @LykeLyca who never forget to renew her sponsorship, this makes me smile when I saw your notification. I'm also happy because of Sis @GarrethGrey07 for giving her sponsorship, this is your gift for me this Christmas season Sis, so much appreciated.

December 27, 2021

-Ling