Howdy folks, how was your day? Mine was spent indoors just being lazy, apart from the few times I went outside to buy snacks and water but we are not here to talk about my boring day, let's go straight to the topic.
Have you ever come across someone that appears calm at first but is very angry? That was what I experienced yesterday while returning to the university, and now I will share the story with you all.
I boarded a commercial bus that was to take me straight to school yesterday and halfway into the journey, there was heavy traffic and vehicles were moving slow. At one point, a bus wanted to enter directly in front of us so my driver slowed down but this bus entered the road, suddenly stopped, and started reversing, he ended up hitting our bus.
Now the usual reaction when something like this happens amongst commercial bus drivers in my city is that the victim will immediately start shouting and threatening fire and brimstone but that was not the case here, the driver of my bus remained calm and gently came down.
Most of us on the bus were surprised at the calm nature of the driver, but that was just the calm before the storm. The driver calm down, looked at the front of the vehicle, and got back into the bus. I was thinking; "ok, maybe it was nothing serious and the journey can just continue" but that wasn't the case.
He tried moving the bus and we heard a loud screeching sound like iron being dragged on the road and I immediately knew there was trouble, at the same time someone said; "it seems his front bumper has been damaged", and that was the catalyst that sped up the driver's anger.
All these were happening on the road and we were obstructing other road users, so the driver parked the bus by the side of the road, and then he calm down looking all calm (again). Immediately he calm down from the bus, he started taking off his clothes, but his face was still neutral and that was when I knew the driver was boiling with rage and he was probably trying to tame the anger.
He quickly went to the other driver's bus and open his door, ordering him to come down. The other driver already knew he is very angry and he managed to calm him down, I was actually amazed at how the how thing turned out coz the affected driver was seriously ready for a fight, but the other one defused the ticking bomb.
That sought of anger is very dangerous coz it means the person is channeling it, it's the type of anger where you know you're angry and you want to seriously hurt the person responsible for it. It's kinda different from the regular short-fused anger where the person lets their emotion take over and they do something they only realize to be a mistake afterward.
The calm anger is like holding an unpinned grenade, you know it is going to explode and you know exactly where to throw it to get the maximum damage you want. The good thing about anger such as this is that the person can easily be defused, just like the bus driver from the above story.
A simple apology and the right words can help to calm the person in this type of situation, but that's if you even notice the person is angry before they do want they have in mind. Some persons don't even immediately react when they are angry, they rather keep it bottled up and go back to their evil lair to cook up the best way to hurt you back (I fall in this category 😂).
I am slow to anger but when I do get to that stage, I don't immediately explode but I contain it and start making plans for my revenge. The funny thing is that most of the time I don't even get to have my revenge because anger is something that occurs at the heat of the moment and when you let it hang for a certain period, you lose most or all of that energy.
These days I hardly seek revenge whenever I have been angered, I either confront the person immediately about it or I just let it go, life is too short to start dwelling on all wrongs that have been down to you, if you can't do anything about it, then forget it 😉.
Side note
This article was supposed to be published yesterday but I couldn't complete it coz I slept off, and I was very busy with some engagements today which I thought I will finish early, but it dragged on to the evening (and that explains why I wasn't active here today).
I plan to just stay home throughout tomorrow to make up for the lost activities of today, I just hope something doesn't come up to disrupt that plan 😆.
Big thanks to @BCH_LOVER for her sponsorship renewal, I am very grateful for it ma'am 🤗
Thanks for reading 💖💖💖
Wednesday January 26, 2022
I have been veryvslow to angerfor as long as I can remember.. Ben if I were angry, most people around me wouldn't know. Whenever I let someone know that he or she had hurt me, weather they apologize or not, I just feel better. Like a huge load lifted off my chest.