This comes down to who should pay on the first dinner date?” Who should help out in chores?” Can both parties switch jobs and still be fine?” Who should make certain sacrifices for the other?” Would you want your man or your woman to provide and as well manage the household?” Do you feel like you grind a lot and you get upset that your partner isn’t doing the same thing you do or as much energy you put into what you do?”
This isn’t a matter of who is loving the more or who is doing much better than the other but a complete understanding, you could be doing what you do and be comfortable with it… That's just how it’s supposed to be and it’s either you accept it or be different, meanwhile if you swapped jobs I’m sure nobody will tell you to rethink before doing that.. Let’s get things straight, a woman who takes care of the house and tells you not to do anything at all will you still hate on her and probably even work again with all of that.. These are things that ruin a relationship, you should see your partner as someone that still does a lot just as you do.
That may sound wrong to some of us here, but you feel you’re doing the most and maybe he or she doesn’t love you to show that balance… maybe this title is all up in my head, I know of a man who works like crazy on a daily basis and anytime he comes back home and his wife tells him to help out with some chores a flares up immediately and sometimes lashing out curses but unknown to him that his wife works more hours than he does.. 3 hours more difference precisely and that’s quite a lot..
I think communication would have solved a lot of things, and it went on for weeks up until he realized that he wasn’t even doing all the hard work himself that his wife was also a solid back bone to the home.. Love shouldn’t be based on the number of work you do and that means you show more affection, that mindset though. We should all see ourselves as people who wants the best for each other and if time permits do some additional things to what was already built..
This isn’t just about job difference’s, it spreads across to other things.. the best solution and way out is to find the real cause of the argument or quarrel and put yourself in that situation “what would you do?”..
Back to the dinner date, this is the era when ladies can earn even much more than men would and nothing stops either parties from doing what’s right.. although there’s a clause you can still split the bill and everyone is happy.. is not like he buys you a whole lot and you don’t seem to contribute to anything, or she spends on you and you don’t reciprocate even though little..
“what’s your take in this?”
We must see things differently and not just on one direction cause that’s when we act blindly towards the people that mean a lot to us.. observe before you react and then mend if you’ve acted wrongly..
One thing we must not do is listen to peoples wrong suggestions, they will come like they want to help but only make things worse than it is.. nothing stops the men from assisting their ladies and nothing stops the ladies from helping out as well..
Can both of you switch jobs and it’s all good?”
You know what will end this and will it be nice if you do that?” That’s a question you must ask yourself, it’s nobody’s fault that you feel you work harder but you overthink every single thing… if you feel you need to talk anybody, feel free to because acts like this only makes the union less stronger… Maybe take it on for 24hours nothing will tell you to drop the feeling and when you must have washed some kids clothings and maybe some of your woman’s attire your mood will change…
This is where I will stop for now, if this was misleading sorry to get you upset.. I love you all and want things to get better..
Thank you for reading…
December 2021
One of your passage says about a man who lashes on his wife because she asked him to help her....
This is basically the whole damn Indian men explained in a simple paragraph... at least most of them are like this.. I have never ever seen a man of the house help their wives without the wife requesting or begging him... even after begging, there are quiet a 90% of them who simply say "I have already worked enough in office, this is a woman's job.." like wth, at least you have timings dude, women work constantly in their houses from dusk to dawn and it's crazy how it drains them but the family never appreciates their help... I find it so ridiculous.. Moms have to teach their boys from young age that they need to learn basic chores and household work is NOT gender based but they are survival skills..