Sometimes its really hard to leave a closure on so many things before or after it gets worse. We've all seen closure happen before... like when you intend finishing your article and you just give a brief description of what you wrote for readers to fully understand. But this isn't where I'm headed, people mostly men don't close doors behind them and you would ask me why is that? What I meant by that is, a lot of times when you break up with a man or thing goes bad and you get ghosted or go on a break and the man doesn't show up to sit you down, talk to you and say I'm going to express my mind and let you know that this relationship has reached its peak, going on way too long and you're just not a good fit for me either I'm I to you and I want your happiness in life so it's best we path ways and I release you... it hurts when all of this happens and you can't find a reason as to why and this doesn't only affect the ladies but men as well, so don't think you are exempted too..
The main reason this happens, is when we don't know the conditions of our actions, fine you break up and it's all done but on what basis... she fine and he fine, has everything you can ever desire.. the looks, the body and character. So why would you call anything off without further engaging the affected.. everything in life is a huddle, we can't say how well we will be in a relationship and we chose to use that moment as a test in discovering the best option.. A very good example is let's say you don't have money and you have so many things laid down in your heart to purchase but eventually when you have the money your option changes from what you had in mind to several other design or style. That goes out to any relationship, feelings changes overnight then it ends in misery.
This really affects friendships, families and work setting. But to you.. you really don't intend to compromise regardless of how it looks, to your very best choose the people that make you happy even without a closure because it's hard for anyone to come closer after ending an intimate relationship.. it's so hard to hear of a relationship that started from a young age till the final engagement, because our minds keep on looking for an upgrade...
The main cause of this, is not getting involved with a matured minded person or equally you not showing that you seriously want to be in an endless relationship.. An unhealthy union doesn't last, wouldn't it be nice to at least end it properly than leaving people hanging. One necessary thing you have to take with you today;
'stop giving people a revolving door to your heart, in order words stop wanting a person who doesn't want you... because if you take him or her back that person will hurt you big time'
It takes an emotionally intelligent thinking to go through with a closure, regardless of how you feel or your hatred towards that person.. both of you could meet and open up to so many issues, or takes strength to move and most people that went through that haven't. You'll be surprised that a break up of 10 years running is still upsetting that individual..
The next thing you have to put a closure on is your prayer, you make promises and when God does his works you turn your back on him. Then you run back when it turns upside down and you can't know what to do. If you really can't fulfill it then don't make it, it keeps piling up and there will be time when you may need to fulfill them before you receive any more from him..
Do not carry yourself too high like a mini God, because you will never know if you would be the next to be in that position. Whatever line of work or income you are presently on, make sure to set things right before leaving or before handing over.. you will open more doors if you do that and I pray God gives us the heart and the will to do so from today...
Lastly, "what happens after a closure?"
You've heard it countless times already but you'd think nothing else could come off it, but doing that can make you understand the why's and the how's of your speculations and your resolutions.. There could be a second chance waiting for you, in a relationship and any other engagement.. so don't be too quick to flee come back and see things straight..
Thank you for reading through to this side of the article...
Happy Sunday, and happy Halloween to those who celebrate and mark the date and also to everyone..
I put a closure to October..
31 October 2021
"let's go on our separate ways." A cliché but a heartbreaking line. Based on my perspective, it's okay not to get a closure if you know that it's a toxic and lustful relationship. Who would want to have that anyway? Just pray to God that may He change that person and realize his/her fault. Thanks for this blog entry brother! I always learn something from your blogs. 💙💙💙