Men Hide Their Weakest Side

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Men are known for being strong and self-sufficient, and they are always expected to be tough because that is how society perceives them. Boys will not cry because boys are tough and they're supposed to remain tough. Those are just the words that we commonly hear every time when it comes to men. That is why most men can't tell, share, or even express their emotions towards someone. Men are really good at hiding their emotions and pretending to look fine as if nothing had happened. They're good at wearing happy and jolly mask that covers up their sad and depressed faces.  

Men are less likely to discuss or seek help for their mental health problems as a result of societal expectations and traditional gender roles. We know that gender stereotypes about women, such as the expectation that they should act or appear a specific way, can be hurtful to them. It's important to remember, however, that stereotypes and expectations can hurt men as well.

Men are usually expected and provide for their families and to be powerful, authoritative, and in command. While none of these qualities are particularly negative, they might make it increasingly challenging for men to seek treatment and open up.

Male suicide rates are ten times higher than female suicide rates. At least a hundred men die of suicide every day, especially in the year 2020, when the lockdown was implemented. The worst part is that these days, teenage males from ages 16 to 19 are most likely to have suicidal thoughts because of the problems that most students are facing today. 

Kurt Cobain of the band Nirvana and Chester Bennington, of the band Linkin Park both, died of suicide. Chester died of suicide in July 2017. Who would have thought that before his death, he was so happy, along with his family.

Men are very good at hiding their emotions, you can't even tell what they truly felt because of how they carry themselves in public. Depression really is a traitor; one day you're fine and the next day you're not.

I asked one of my boy friends (friend) about how men manage their mental health and how they overcome it. At first, he was hesitant to share, but later on, he decided to share everything with me. Most men do not usually like to share their feelings with someone or even speak up about how they feel, because most of them get ignored and rejected by the thought of just wanting some attention. My friend then said that I was the first person that he shared his problem with because he hadn't done it for so long. He's not the type of person who is showy and expressive with his emotions, but you can tell that deep inside he's not really okay.

Some men are just too afraid to express how they feel. They don't want to be judged for being too soft because we know that people do really judge right away whenever they see some guy crying over something or just being too soft. People will automatically judge them as gay. That's how cruel society is. 

In fact, men are more emotional compared to women; it's just that women are more expressive and men aren't. If you notice that whenever a cute and sexy girl shares her problems on social media, a lot of people will comfort her and show sympathy towards her, but if a dude does the same thing, people will just ignore it and even call him gay for sharing their problems. 

Although men may be tough, but they're fragile too. 

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Jini's Note:

Hey there guys, how are you? I hope you're all okay and feeling good. Especially to my lovely buddies in here. I just want you all to know that whatever you've been struggling with, we're just here with you guys. We all can get through it. Just take a look and focus on the positive side, don't let it eat you up.

Remember, you're not alone. :)

Thank you for reading

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You know men are socially stereotyped to be strong but the strong here doesnt mean their physique but the mindfulness and hiw strong their heart is. Hiding our weakn3sses is a normal thing for man because doing that we get there the support of our loved ones and i am sure our loved ones also know that our weaknesses are them. That is a true man. Knowing his weakness and hiding it so as not to be in a situationn.

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2 years ago

That's the problem, men are stereotyped for being that one. Which is a sad thing for men because most of them choose keep and not to express their emotions and feelings

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2 years ago

Ah yes, guys have feelings too. This is why we should also communicate with them from time to time to see if they are doing okay and such.

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2 years ago

Trueee, they may look fine but inside, they're slowly dying

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2 years ago

Men go though a lot as well and we hide it just to look sane… which I think kills almost 50% of the men in the world today. Your write up opened up deep meanings and passed across a message to always find out what the problem is, or atleast give suggestions

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2 years ago

that's why I don't judge that easily to every man that I see because we don't know what they've been through. Thanks so much, King!

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2 years ago

because the society demands male to be MEN, which means they should be strong, and not express their emotions, MEN don't cry, any man that cries is weak, and not a real man. Men are humans too, and emotions are meant to be expressed and felt. Cry if you want to, show that you have feelings too when you want to, talk about it. I believe we have to do better and bring up our male children to be better and and more expressive with their emotions. great post, as you just hammered a topic about one of the problems of our society

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2 years ago

indeed, emotions and feelings are meant to be expressed, there's nothing wrong with expressing what you felt, the only problem is society. Thank you for passing by

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2 years ago

I have noticed this too to my guy friends. They're like someone you can reach out to when you need advice, they can easily read you when you need help but, I find it difficult to notice their sufferings. They're too good at pretending that things are going smoothly around them but, deep down inside, they're like crumpled pieces of paper.

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2 years ago

truee because they're really good at it

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2 years ago

That's what it is. If a man does not restrain his emotions, he will be considered a "woman". Weak, in a word. A man has to be strong in the eyes of others. In the end, they accumulate all their emotions for years, and because of that they die sooner. Although on the other hand, imagine what would happen if a man behaved like a woman. It would be chaos 🤣

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2 years ago

Although on the other hand, imagine what would happen if a man behaved like a woman. It would be chaos.

Wow! Misogyny much?

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2 years ago

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Hi please read the photo attached. Thanks you!

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2 years ago

Thank you ate and of course to #Club1BCH. And yes, I will also share half of this :>

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2 years ago

Oh, Chester 🥺, sa isip kasi talaga ng nakakarami basta lalaki kaya nilang harapin lahat ng problema ee para bagang wala silang karapatan na malungkot di natin alam umiiyak na pala sila inside walang nakakapansin kasi ang lapad nga ng ngiti nila pero deep inside ,🥺🥺

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2 years ago

kung tutousin, mas emotional talaga yung lalake eh, pero tinatago lag nila deep inside. Kaya yung iba pag hindi na nila kaya, kung ano ano nalang sumasagi sa isipan nila

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2 years ago

Everyone believes men have this superpower to solve their problems on their own and it's makes it easy for people to shun them off and make them believe they can work it out.

But it isn't done. We all are flesh and we need someone to rest our shoulders on too especially men. They are going through a lot and moving close to them to find out would help in a little way.

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2 years ago

this is so true princess, men may look tough but they are soft inside. They also need someone to lend on to, they also need comfort.

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2 years ago

That meme about suicide made me so so sad... Men hide it better, but if their Moms/sisters/GF/wife understood them better, they definitely can see it in their faces... all we need is communication

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2 years ago

Yeah, I really hope that whatever they've been through, I hope that they find someone who will listens to them

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2 years ago

Toxic masculinity is a whole lot of Patriarchal BS. Fortunately for me, I've never cared too much for conforming to gender roles or "fitting in" with conventional society.

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2 years ago

right, that toxic masculinity thingy is one of the things that most men are pressured of

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2 years ago

It's really a pernicious and destructive monster. I've written about it (and the effect it has) elsewhere. (One of my first posts on this site is about it, specifically a manifestation/occurrence of Incel culture). However, I've stopped pursuing the topic since the people who read such outpourings are the ones who already know and agree with my thinking while the ones who most need to read it ignore it and keep swallowing the red pill, believing the lies they've been told over and over.

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2 years ago

I needed to hear this today. Thank you, sis Jin!

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2 years ago

you're welcome ate

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2 years ago

you're welcome ate

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2 years ago

They have emotions too, but because of that they are supposed to be strong a man , and everyone believe that a man is a strong person so they never showed their weakness.

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2 years ago

it's because of how society sees men, as men should be tough and strong

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2 years ago

Men are generally private with their life, especially with their emotional health. Judgment and Stereotyping kept them from being vocal about their problems. The main reason why men are like this is because of society. The expectations.

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2 years ago

kaya nga mars, its the society's expectation towards men

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2 years ago

That is why they tend to drink and smoke more than normal because of how they are feeling. They also turn themselves into monsters when their feelings aren't well-managed.

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2 years ago

yeah, because most men find it the only way to forget their problems even just for a while

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2 years ago

We mens are not showy, but we have emotions to.

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2 years ago

so true gyud dong

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2 years ago

Well that's really true that all men are expected to be macho and emotion less but that's not true🤧

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2 years ago

the toxic masculinity that society puts everyone into

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2 years ago

Many are really good in keeping emotions,they are afraid of sharing their burden or things that disturb them with people.

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2 years ago

yeah, that's also one of the problems that most men have when dealing with their emotions. They don't want to be a burden to someone that's why they prefer to keep it on themselves

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