Imagine you are walking peacefully in the street and then you see a group of women dressed in dusters looking straight at you. They are making gossiping and chit-chat laughing. Well, surprise, surprise! A wild group of MARITES appeared!
In the Philippines, we have a local KAREN called MARITES. A Marites in someone who gossips all day spreading malicious, fake news to the neighborhood. Often called a human CCTV. They will literally want to know your every move! They will make fake story of you because just jump in conclusion without knowing the whole truth.
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They have to be avoided at all costs because they are not good for mental health. They gossip all day because they have nothing to do better. In this article, I will give you tips on how to deal with these creatures. Haha!
1) Whatever they say, is the reflection of themselves.
You just do you! Whatever they say, do not be affected because they do not know you well. They are just to gossip and spread fake stories. These people will try to break you to the core but do not listen to them. You know who you are, and they are not worth a single brain cell for you to think about them. If they say bad things about you, they just saying it back to themselves. Do not sweat about it too much.
2) Do not share private matters.
A Marites can be in a form of your friend or relatives. We cannot avoid talking to them about everything but remember, if you feel like you are talking to a Marites, do not ever share privater matters.
In my case, I have an aunt who is really in to our family problem, Yes, every family has. She always ask me how's our family and I feel like she is digging deeper of the matter. There is a history of her sharing our problem to other people. I am a bit disappointed because it is a private matter. Right then, I did not talk about any family matters. She is still my aunt I have to respect her and just talk to her cordially.
3) Tell them you are uncomfortable.
Like I said in number three, a Marites can be your relative. Sometimes Marites are not only a gossiper but also a toxic person. They will make you down when they open there mouth. For example, in the Philippines, they will tell you that you got fat or got thin. They ask you when you will get married because you are not getting any younger. These questions are so cringy and uncomfortable. They just say something about your appearance or your life. This makes someone sooo uncomfortable. This is usually evident in family reunions. Ugh, just thinking about it makes me cringe.
4) Know your value.
Marites are not worth your time. They are leeches that sucks the energy out of you. They are the toxin in this Earth. Haha! Sorry, I am carried away. For me, I rather do crypto stuff on the internet or look at cute cats rather than spending my brain cells to these creatures. They will talk and talk bad things about you. You better be sipping some iced tea while watching Netflix! Girl, your value is so much precious to spend with these Marites!
5) The last resort, just walk away.
This is the last resort to avoid Marites. Cut your relationships with them. This is the only way to be away from them. Yes, there will be relatives or friends that you will cut ties, but remember, your sanity is your priority. Do not surround yourself with them. You can always find friends that will support and care for you.
I walk away from someone's life when I feel like they are already toxic. I have a friend that backstab another friend. I drifted slowly from her because I believe that her backstabbing is so evil. We talk still but I do not like to be part of her life. I just pretend to be friends, but I really do not feel her to be a part of my life.
Final Thoughts
The name Marites now has a connotation of being a gossiper. Actually, for me is a pretty name! Not all people who are named Marites is a toxic person. It is only sensationalized by the memes and trending topic of the internet. What we can do is avoid toxic people in general. In our life, we will encounter these kind of people. Well, that is part of life. What is important is always prioritize your mental health over everything.
Thank you for reading my article.
Peace- Jijisaur.
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We must realized that evil and good is present in the world where we exist. It is then our decision how to deal with the evil to bring out the good not only for our sakes but also for others who don't have the strength to resist the evil. Let us aim rather to overcome evil with good.