Being a mother in chaotic times
Being a mother has always been a greatest challenge for many women. Great responsibility, commitment and pleasure. Do we have enough time to play well mother's role in the chaotic times we live in?
The statue I saw on the street speaks more than words about the relationship between mother and child which should be the most tender and caring. But how much time do we have today for tenderness? I would say not as much as it was the case when this statue was made.
I am not one of those mothers who closely follow every child's movement and tremble with fear when a child coughs. I don’t count my baby's teeth and I don’t know how many teeth my baby has. Usually others warn me and say that the baby has new tooth, because I didn’t notice. I don't consider those things important. For me as a mother, the most important thing is a smile. When I see children laugh, I know they are happy and that is the only thing I want to know.
Teeth will definitely grow. They will learn not to pee in diapers and to eat solid food and not porridge. They have their whole lives ahead of them to learn that and everyone learns it once. They won't grow old without knowing how to chew. I am a chaotic mother in a chaotic time. I don't have enough time to devote all my attention to children.
When you have to work eight hours a day and lose two hours on the way to work and back, after work you have no time for anything but to feed the children, get them ready for bed and wish them good night. Even telling a bedtime story will require gaining enough strength and concentration. I usually fall asleep while telling or reading a story and when I wake up I realize that I am saying something meaningless, and my child listens to me carefully. There is usually very little time left to play together, because I also need to prepare lunch for tomorrow and tidy up the apartment to keep it clean while I’m at work.
Yes, the apartment is clean and there is no one in it, who could enjoy it, as well as the family time together. Family time comes down to a couple of hours in the evening when tiredness overcomes everything you should do if you want to be a good mother.
But a good mother must find some time for herself if she wants to survive in chaotic times. If you want to see a smile on your children's faces for a long time, you have to take care of your smile as well. A satisfied child wants a satisfied mother, and a satisfied mother will surely have a satisfied child. Perhaps the demands of today's society and the fast way of life do not allow us to dedicate ourselves to children as much as we should, but we must learn to live in harmony with the chaos. There is no other choice.
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I can understand what is going through a tough mother cos I went through this tough times.