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Signs That You Are In A Toxic Relationship

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The word "toxic" has been in use for years now. In fact, it was just lately recognized by the public when social media is at its peak. When the pandemic started, everyone was affected and so are relationships.

How would you know if you're in a toxic relationship? Here's for you to find out.

Your partner has a heavy ex-baggage.

Your role as a shoulder to cry on doesn't merely limit you in the relationship. You also deserve love like everybody else. However, timing is another thing to consider. It's either you will both make it or break it.

The thing is, if you find your partner always talking about his/her past then that clearly shows he/she hasn't fully moved on yet. You just kept on consoling him/her about the past relationship.

I believe it's time to let your partner find him/herself first, and heal over the loss or heartbreak before committing to a relationship again. Love is patient and understanding, you are hopeful that you can make the relationship work but my friend, everyone deserves to be loved. You show unconditional love to your partner but you are the one who always ends up hurting. You deserved genuine happiness.

Your partner lies to you about almost everything.

I believe that nobody has not lied in his/her entire life. Everyone commits mistakes. Nobody is perfect. However, if you find your partner lies to almost everything even in the slightest matter, then I guess it's time to re-evaluate your trust in him/her.

Committing a white lie occasionally is okay if the situation is considerable. There are things meant to be "white-lied" about most especially if it complicates things. It's a matter of good decision-making skills.

With one lying and not being honest, the relationship will slowly fall back on its feet. Every relationship needs open communication, and one must be open to the other's opinions to share thoughts about a certain circumstance. Instead, your partner chooses to not tell you about their true feelings and intentions.

Your partner is an extremely emotional manipulator.

This is a technique toxic partners do to the relationship. What they normally do is that they feed you full of compliments and make you happy like it's unending and vice versa. They manipulate your sense of identity making you to be completely reliant on them.

When this happens, it's like you are in his/her prison.

A friend in college got herself into a relationship where the guy is a "manipulative sad boy". They've been together for 4 years and when my friend found out about his cheating on another girl, she decides to break up with him but the guy refuses and starts to manipulate her feelings. He told her that if she will break up with him, he'll take his own life.

Imagine how toxic that was for the girl? The guy is too fond of guilt-tripping the girl just to make her stay.

Your partner constantly monitors you.

It is important that when you are in a relationship, you still have the time to maintain individuality. This gives you room to breathe and do a self-check so you can be a better version of yourself. Not only to the relationship but also to your loved ones and friends.

This is a very common issue among relationships. This includes always checking your messages, call histories, asking your whereabouts and who you are with. Your partner is already stepping on the line and invading your privacy.

Communication is crucial in a relationship to make sure that you both are on the same page. However, if this goes beyond then I guess you should consider opening up and talk about it to prevent the relationship from falling apart.

Your partner is controlling or possessive.

Let's admit it, nobody wants to be treated like a robot. Although it's sweet if your partner protects you but going overboard is a different story. The relationship is treated like a school or organization where there are rules and regulations to follow. This results as if your partner owns you instead of practicing equal compromise.

For the record, you are alread having an enjoyable life before you met each other. You were okay before you met him/her and now you are undergoing restrictions you don't need to ask permission to. You are free to make your own decisions. Then again, be responsible for your actions.

On and off the relationship.

There is no such thing as perfect relationships. Emotional discussions are normal. Everyone doesn't share the same opinion and so we are entitled to our own decisions.

However, if the relationship is already undergoing a pattern of on and off relationship then maybe you should examine why.

This situation is toxic because aside from the time you invest for each other to the fight, it plays with your emotions affecting your mental health.

There's something in the relationship that remains unresolved and unsettled being taken for granted. It needs to be addressed so that in the future, the relationship will develop open communication which is the key to a healthy relationship.

Personally, I am blessed to have a partner who's sincere, understanding, and patient. We do have minor emotional discussions but with open communication, everything gets resolved and addressed.

In addition, this doesn't only applies to relationships though. You could also consider these checkpoints for friendships.


Reference: Psych2Go Youtube Channel


So are you experiencing these signs? Comment down below and let's figure things out.


Thanks for reading.

Keep safe everyone! ❤

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Bakit naisip ko siya sa toxic relationship kahit wala naman kaming relasyon? Hahahaha. Pero ang sakit nun na kung yung ex pa rin yung palaging mukhang bibig.

Hello madam Jeaneth. 🤗🤗 dalaw bago mag end ang September. Hehe

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2 weeks ago

Hehe. Isang buwan din ako bago nka reply madam. 😆

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2 weeks ago

Hahaha. Sa akin nga meron ako nireplyan kahapon after 2 months. 😅

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2 weeks ago

Hehe. Keri lng yan madam. Better late than never? 😅

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2 weeks ago

The best thing to do in toxic relationships is to leave if the partner refuse to change. The list you gave are the rightful ways of knowing if one is in a toxic relationship

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3 months ago

Thank you so much. Yeah, it's best to leave if it isn't going better.

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3 months ago

I had that one, glad I able to run. 😂

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3 months ago

Buti nlng madam. Kaya happy happy ka ngayon. Hehe

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3 months ago

Thank you talaga kay Lord!

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3 months ago

Some people ignorantly stay in a toxic relationship with lame reasons such as loving the person or can't doing without a person. I believe if something isn't working fine, one should leave it or let go.

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3 months ago

Yeah. It's very sad knowing personal reasons from them. Some choose to stay for their kids too. 😔

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3 months ago

Yes it happens and it can be so sad

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3 months ago

I bet people with this relationship wont last.

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3 months ago

It won't last, truly. Having a relationship needs two way communication and if the other is not open for it, it wouldn't work.

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3 months ago

Naku mabuti nalang tapos na ako sa toxic na relasyon sis .hi it's me hahaha and done publishing napud .Hope jod pansinon naku uyy

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3 months ago

Hi sis. Welcome back. Hehe.

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3 months ago

None of the above 😂 Maswerte na din ba ako hehe

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3 months ago

Di yan swerte my yen, blessed yan. Hehe

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3 months ago

When youre experiencing these please leave. Mahirap patagalin yung relasyon na ganyan. Full of toxicity.

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3 months ago

Kaya nga eh. Pero it's sad lng others choose to stay because of a heavy reason.

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3 months ago

It is just so sad to know that some people will still choose to stay in that kind of relationship. Mahirap yang ganyan, unti unti mo malilimutan sarili mo :(

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3 months ago

That's true and that's a sad reality. They tend to forget themselves because of the overflowing love. Man, everyone deserves to be loved. 🤷

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3 months ago

Exactly po. We all deserved to be loved 🧡

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3 months ago

I'm glad you are in a good relationship. When I was a young adult I went through this stage of having a toxic relationship. It didn't stay for long because I felt like I was suffocating and decided to stay without him.

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3 months ago

Well, I'm glad you are able to get out of it and freed yourself.

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3 months ago

Been there.. Na trauma nmn cguro ko kay waley na nooy relationship hahah!

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3 months ago

Hehehe. Naa panay pag asa madam oy. Makakita rkag swak jud sa imong personality nga willing pud mo compromise.

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3 months ago

Oh the real classic tell-tale signs of a toxic relationship. One more sign that you are in one, is constantly looking for signs if you are in one. Nobody talks about that, but it has something to do with unconsciously sabotaging the relationship...

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3 months ago

It gives a negative impact to the relationship din no? Always doubting if who's who.

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3 months ago

yep. It's like what they say,,, you're afraid of your own ghosts. We make our own ghosts in which in turn makes as so afraid ...

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3 months ago

so happy I've never experienced any of these because i usually break it off as soon as i see a few red flags pop up in the first few months. idk i like seeing the here and now and not the potential of what could be because that usually ends up bad for me XD so break it off as soon as there is a sign 😂

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3 months ago

You nailed it lalo na ung mga taong d daw kayang mabuhay pag nkipagbreak sa knya, magpapakamatay daw. Kya guys read this and know the red flags.. ksi when a toxic relationship goes on bka ka mahawa sa toxicity ng partner mo at d mo na mkikilala sarili mo..

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3 months ago

That's true, you will lose your sense of identity rin kase na aabsorb mo yung attitude nya 😶

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3 months ago

parang di naman sa amin though sa relasyon talaga may mga bagay na di pagkakaintindihan ne. Open communication is very important in any kind of relationship

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3 months ago

Yup madam and I'm glad you both have it kase going strong kayo 😁

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3 months ago

kayo din ba? hehe

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3 months ago

Relationship can be toxic when it will not be nurtured both couple.Thats why we should time together with our partners, husband or wife so that we can create a strong bond relationship and not to become toxic.

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3 months ago

It's the key to a healthy relationship ❤

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3 months ago

so far I have no signs of a toxic relationship. your article is great, thank you

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3 months ago

Thanks 😍

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3 months ago

Yeah toxic relationship is very painful.

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3 months ago

Wala sa nabanggit. 🤣 Before I felt toxicity towards my husband pag masyadong seloso. Yun tipong nagisistory telling ka about your past na nakakatawa or memorable tapos di mo namalayan na may binanggit kang pangalan ng lalaki then bigla na lang nag iba ang topic. Pilit nya isinisentro dun sa taong walang kamuwang muwang ang topic. Kesyo naging boyfriend ko ba daw yun? Hayyyzt. Ako naman, tong short cordon, ayoko ng ganun,kaya nagagalit ako. Toxic para sa akin yun.

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3 months ago

Hehehe. Nagseselos lng yung tao pero if too much na, toxic na yon. 😅

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3 months ago

It's too much because it doen't happen once. Fortunately he's ok now. Specially when we had lots of kids now and he became mature in his way of thinking.

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3 months ago

Right now Im experiencing some of it. Like hahahaha damn masasabi ko talaga na toxic na pero anong magagawa ko mahal na mahal ko siya kaya kahit na toxic na diko paren kaya na palayain sya 😔 siguro takot lang talaga akong maiwan. Diko na rin alam kong anong gagawin ko. Bigyan nyo naman ako ng advice guys 😔

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3 months ago

You have to take that step so you'll realize na you also deserve the happiness that everyone deserves. You need to be brave and look forward to a new chapter.

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3 months ago

I hope I can do it po ☺️ salamat ☺️

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3 months ago

I guess u r right, miss jeaneth, kjf always talks 'bout her x lady friend n he always monitors me, telling me that i'm sneaky, that i'm telling lies n hiding something n guess i'm a toxic girlfriend 'coz i never tell him everything though i never tell him everything 'coz i want to protect him, don't want him to get hurt, i would rather be the one hurting not him po but still, i got hurt alot especially now po, lol, guess i deserved this 'coz i'm sneaky, not serious, just playing games, that i lie to much n hide something from him, lol, guess, this time, it's for real na po, received a good news n bad news at the same time po, lol, guess, this is my fate po

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3 months ago

You really need to work on that miss bheng 🥺 I'm concern about your lovelife. You deserved to be happy too.

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3 months ago

Salamat po, miss jeaneth, tntnong q nga po sarili q, saan ba aq ngkmali o kng ano po mali sa akin, bkit po lging gnito? Cguro ndi po aq mrunong mgmahal tulad ng sbi nya, lol

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3 months ago

No. It's not about you miss bheng. Wag mo sisihin sarili mo. I'm sure may pagkukulang din sya. Kaya dapat pag usapan talaga.

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3 months ago

Gnun po ba, miss jeaneth, ewan q po, ndi na po cguro un mngyayari dhil tpos na po eh, lol, pro k lng po un, tanggapin nlng po dpat

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3 months ago

Controlling or Possessive behavior is the most common practice which we need to change for the betterment of society and family.

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3 months ago

I still can remember my ex was pretending girl who mostly time pretend with me but i was not enough aware that time about this but when we got break up then she told me everything ./. How worst that was,shit!

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3 months ago

Wooa. That's something unexpected. He only played with your feelings. How was it for you? Did you really develop something deeper with your partner?

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3 months ago

develop something deeper? what is that?

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3 months ago

Like sincere love for each other. 😁

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3 months ago

I also remember that my ex was pretending boy, and I weren't able to figuring outing that it was my ex all alongside. It's a painfulling to absorption that kind of emotionalization. I still couldn't get comprehensive what I've experimented during those "fast few years." :D

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3 months ago

Kinsa ni? 😆

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3 months ago

Si kuan... si... Juan Taklob.

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3 months ago

i did and she may too but not like i did

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3 months ago