When you fail at a certain task, does that automatically make you unworthy as a person? How do you handle these failures? Do you often get discouraged?
Well, it's normal to get discouraged. Those times when you knew you have given your all but you still end up failing.
Failing doesn't make you less as a person. Instead, it makes you a winner. You won. It is because you tried in the first place. You took the courage to take the step forward.
You wouldn't realize how many people wanted to try things out but never did it anyway because they're scared?
You went out there because you wanted something, and you did something.
However, there are certain things that the society has raised its standards to determine one's worth. The sad truth, but here are some:
Achievements.
It's so easy to base your self-worth on your achievements. Grades, job positions, and sports are some of which society has raised to determine your worth.
You cannot control your competitors and if things don't go your way, you shouldn't be too hard on yourself because it's beyond your control. You are more than just your achievements.
Job and Income.
It's crazy how society measures respect through how much wealth a person does have. Although your job and income play a huge role in your lifestyle, it's doesn't determine your worth.
Other people feel so superior and boastful according to their job and how much income they make.
There are factors why people can't get out of poverty and that's a sad reality. Location, Economy, Competition, and Opportunities.
After all, money is the root cause of greed.
Family Background.
Have you ever blamed yourself for being the person you have become right now? Your childhood may have shaped you for who you are today but that doesn't define your worth.
You have no control over how your parents decide and you are not responsible for their choices.
How Other People Treat You.
Opinions from other people around you may be beneficial for your growth as a person. However, these people don't really know who you are as a whole. Your family and friends may have ideas about your personality, preferences, and dislikes, but only you who fully know yourself.
That is why you shouldn't let others define your worth based on their limited and biased opinions. They only know a portion of you.
Don't base your value on how people think about you.
Other People's Achievements.
Comparing yourself to other people's achievements will lead you to insecurity. If left unchecked, you begin to question your worth.
The Internet gives us complete access to knowing how everyone is doing in their lives if they are already successful and making out the most of their time.
The bottom line is, you can't control others. It's way out of your control. Everyone is unique. Each of us possesses various skills set and talents so it's pointless to compare one unique individual to the other.
Appearance.
Is there anything you wish you could change your appearance? I bet the majority of us would like to change something about our appearances. This standard the harsh society has established makes someone feels unworthy because of their appearance.
As cliche as it sounds, your appearance doesn't define your worth. Everyone is beautiful in their unique way.
Connections.
Having a lot of friends doesn't make you more of a person. The same goes with having 2 to 3 friends only.
If you only have 2 friends in your life, that doesn't define you as not sociable or kind. It means to say that just have selective socialization. You base your way of socializing depending on how a person matches your personality.
On the other hand, having more friends doesn't mean you only care about popularity and connections. It suggests that you are friendly and more open to socializing with people which is not a bad thing.
After all, it's the quality of friends that matters.
Social Media Status.
The world seems to revolve around how many likes and reactions you get on social media. Social media has become a part of almost everyone's everyday routine and it seemed like one's worth or validation is determined by the number of likes you get on your posts.
The essence of a human being doesn't solely define one's social media status. Instead, it is about the influence and inspiration you give to the society.
It is supposed to be fun, uplifting, and an avenue for forming good connections and friendships.
Lastly,
Your decision to have children.
Having children is completely your own decision. Not having children doesn't make you less of a person.
I just find it silly when someone says that you must have children in order to contribute to the society.
I was caught off guard. Does having children only make you valid as a human? Is that the main purpose of living in this world?
This is not to attack other people who want to build their own family but if you will just make children for the sake of that so-called "contribution" to the society, isn't it unfair for the children's part? It's like they owe something to you which they do not deserve after all.
But if it something you have in mind like building them a bright future, I will truly appreciate that.
So these are things that do not determine your worth. For all we know, everyone is unique and beautiful in their own ways.
Reference: Psych2Go Youtube Channel
Thanks for reading.
Keep safe everyone ♥️
Mas lalo na nagiging komplikado ang mundo o ang sosyalidad. Mas toxic pa ito sa isang relasyong walang label. Char. Hahaha. Pero agree ako sa lahat ng sinabi mo. Lalo yung sa usapang income at job status. Mas lalo na yung sa income ng mga nasa Youtube.