8th of August 2021
As what I've said in my previous article, I still have lots of questions to be answered as having in a relationship status. Since I'm having fun answering all of it, thus I'm going to continue answering those in this article.
Again, the questions were taken randomly through this link https://www.mantelligence.com/relationship-questions/
Without further ado, let's rock 'n roll.
As far as I remember, I guess it's "Hi". Haha I had nothing more to say at all since were not close, were board mates though but I am not really that friendly to guys.
I asked my partner of what is the first word I said to him. He said, that was when I asked for a water. Haha I asked him of a water to drink. Then, I remember were not yet in a relationship that time.
But when were already boyfriend and girlfriend, he asked me to have a talked and I said yes. Our first talked together were really awkward. I remember that were sitting with 1-meter distance haha. Then just amazed with him because his the one whose very talkative and his not even out of topic and what I did was nodding, saying Yes and just agreed on what he said. Haha I'm shy that time. Of course, I never knew him much that time so it's kind of awkward for me to talked and talked.
The best advice that I received in terms of relationship was the advice of my mother.
One time, I and my partner had arguments because of some misunderstanding and I get back home to my family's place because of that. Due to my anger and pride I was planning to leave my partner that time and won't come back here in his place. But my mom, advice me to not let my pride ruined the relationships we had because we already had a son. She then added, that it's normal to have quarrels but we should knew how to fixed it immediately and not letting our pride hinders the reconciliation and we should always put in mind that we already has responsibilities to take care of and that is our SON.
So far, my mom did a great job for that. Lol
Well, my mother were right when she said that because we knew were not a teenager anymore and we already had a child. If we let our pride dominates between our misunderstandings then our child maybe at risks. So that is why, we tried our best not to make the fuss big and will fixed that immediately. I'm just lucky as well since my partner will not allow the day to end if we can't fixed our fights.
Friends with my exes? I don't think so. From the definition of friendship, I don't think I am friend of any of them. Because when we said FRIENDS, you can share to him/her your sentiments and worries and that wasn't applicable to my exes. Maybe a casual talked, or if I had something I need to asked to them and beyond that nothing more. So, I can't say that I am their friend and vice versa.
No. I don't think so.
In our case, I and my partner were very transparent. I knew his past relationships and everything happens to them since his sharing that to me as well as he knew also mine. He always said to me that it should not be kept hidden since it was the reason why he or we are able to kept our relationships more stronger since we learnt more lessons from our past relationships and we already applying that in ours. That's why, it somehow helped us to be more matured in terms of staying or being in a relationship.
Woaahh. Such a deep question. Honestly, it's so hard for me to answer this question since happiness is what we need in this life. But to compromise happiness just for the success of a relationship then maybe if it's feels like the right thing to do, so be it. Just make sure that you will still be happy in the end and had the feeling of fulfilment. Since, it seems unfair in our part as well if not.
In our case, we just put together our money and everytime he had money he will just gave that to me as well. But if we both need to buy something, we both talked on that and agreed on that as well. If one of us, won't agree then we won't buy it. It's just like that.
So, this is the last question I had randomly picked for this challenge.
Biggest fears in a relationship. Maybe it's the fear of losing both of us. I had fear of losing him since we had already a child. I won't be fear of this if we don't have a kid. But since we already had, it made me fear in some way. Because, I can't imagine and can't endure the pain my son would feel if ever he will grow up without a father. That's totally a No No for me. I don't like also the fact that my kid will sees us both broken, a broken family to be exact. I don't want our son to experienced that since we both have a complete family even though my partner doesn't have parents already since they were already in the other dimension of this life but still they wasn't a broken a family. That's why we won't let our son experience that since we both being raised with a complete family.
That was it everyone. My response to the challenge initiated by @Eybyoung for the taken.
Hopefully you'd also enjoy reading this trying hard piece of mine. Lol
Happy reading!
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I actually added that question would you compromise your happiness for the success of relationship and that combining finances but already forgot haha thanks for answering it, it was an interesting questions.
Indeed when we already have a child we have to consider a lot of things before we decide because our kids will be the one to suffer more.