June 27, 2021
As I have said in my previous article The What-ifs And Whys In Life, I still have a lot of what-ifs in my mind and one article is not enough to write them all. But let's talk other topics about what-ifs and whys.
Why are we always thinking of what-ifs about things that are yet to come?
What if I die today?
What if I get sick tomorrow?
What if the pandemic won't end?
What if the vaccine won't work?
What if I fail the exam?
What if I can't reach the deadline?
What if I lose my job?
What if a tornado came?
What if I can't reach my goal?
What if I don't have enough money for my retirement?
Why do we always need to worry about what other people will say about our actions?
What if they won't like me?
What if they will ignore my voice?
What if they will criticize my work?
What if they will talk at my back?
What if they will think I am wrong?
What if I am not good enough for them?
What if I fail their expectations?
Why are there always regrets in the end?
What if I studied harder? Maybe I am a successful person by now.
What if I followed my parent's rules? Maybe I am in the right direction now.
What if I took the job offer and wasn't choosy? Maybe I am not penniless by now.
What if I did not fall in love with the wrong
person? Maybe I don't have a wounded heart by now.
What if I did not ask hypothetical questions? Maybe I am not totally discombobulated by now.
But why do we always question God when it seems to be the end of the world seems?
What if God forgets about me?
What if God wants to punish me?
What if God wants to abandon me?
What if God disgraces me?
What if God can't hear my prayers?
God, among all people, why do I need to suffer? Why do I need to feel the pain? Why do I need to die soon? Why me?
There are millions of what-ifs and whys on the universe that are unanswerable. Our minds are not sleeping and always piling up hundreds to thousands of thoughts day by day and they are almost covering our hypothalamus.
But why are we creating what-ifs and whys if we can think of what is?
It's because of fear, self-doubt, and stupidity!
We always fear and worry about things that are yet to come. We always tend to question everything in life, from dust to ashes, from birth to death, and doubt our self-worth. We always fear to face the consequences and doubt the probabilities. We always avoid committing to something because we are stupid to let go of what-ifs in our life. We always have what-ifs because we tend to compare our lives to others, our failures to other people's accomplishments, our weakness to other people's perseverance, our stupidity to other people's cleverness.
The what-ifs in our minds just give worries and doubts and sometimes ended up with negative notions. Then we start to question our self-worth. Am I good enough? Can I make it? But why do we always need to live in other people's minds if we can live in our minds? Why do we always need to question God if we can survive from our own lives? Why are we afraid of the world if this is our home? Why do we need to regret the past if we can rectify the present?
Instead of dwelling with the what-ifs and whys, why not dwell with the what is?
The what is are taking the risk and willingness to learn. It is worth noting that it is more important to understand the situation and focus on what's working instead of worrying about what isn't. It is normal to worry about things, however, learn how to think of the best things to do next so we won't be roaming around the land of what-ifs, stuck and stagnant.
What is the best way to overcome my fear and how to be stronger?
What is the solution to my problem and how to apply them to the current situation?
What is the meaning of failures in life and how to surpass them?
What is the best way to let go of what-ifs in life and how to give importance to what is?
Overcome your self-doubt and believe that everything happens for a reason
The what-ifs can just hinder us from living a better life. They only give us doubt, confusion, worries, and fear. We should learn how to face our fears and conquer the world. Put positivity in life and we should not let anyone doubt or question our lives. Only then we can live freely and accept our failures without regrets, no more worries, no more doubts, no more fear, no more what-ifs.
Instead of what if, why not think of "why not?"
Why not appreciate the world and capture every beautiful creature of God?
Why not pursue your goal?
Why not make your dreams come true?
Why not fall in love again?
Why not trust the process and live life to the fullest?
Why not ask for the guidance of God and be grateful for what you have, and not worry about what you don't have?
Why not live a carefree life?
I want to live without fear, worries, and doubt. Why not?
And always remember.
Thanks for your time.
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Sabi nga ng kakilala ko focus on the present. Dami ko din what ifs sa buhay dati. Just like what if di kami ngkakilala ng husband ko di siguro ganito ang buhay ko. I choose my husband over someone na Mas maganda Sana ang buhay na maibibigay sa Akin at sa anak ko. For now hindi ko na inisip yan focus nalang ako sa anong Kaya Kung gawin to make my life better.