The Hypothetical What-ifs

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June 27, 2021

As I have said in my previous article The What-ifs And Whys In Life, I still have a lot of what-ifs in my mind and one article is not enough to write them all. But let's talk other topics about what-ifs and whys.

Why are we always thinking of what-ifs about things that are yet to come?

What if I die today?

What if I get sick tomorrow?

What if the pandemic won't end?

What if the vaccine won't work?

What if I fail the exam?

What if I can't reach the deadline?

What if I lose my job?

What if a tornado came?

What if I can't reach my goal?

What if I don't have enough money for my retirement?

Why do we always need to worry about what other people will say about our actions?

What if they won't like me?

What if they will ignore my voice?

What if they will criticize my work?

What if they will talk at my back?

What if they will think I am wrong?

What if I am not good enough for them?

What if I fail their expectations?

Why are there always regrets in the end?

What if I studied harder? Maybe I am a successful person by now.

What if I followed my parent's rules? Maybe I am in the right direction now.

What if I took the job offer and wasn't choosy? Maybe I am not penniless by now.

What if I did not fall in love with the wrong

person? Maybe I don't have a wounded heart by now.

What if I did not ask hypothetical questions? Maybe I am not totally discombobulated by now.

But why do we always question God when it seems to be the end of the world seems?

What if God forgets about me?

What if God wants to punish me?

What if God wants to abandon me?

What if God disgraces me?

What if God can't hear my prayers?

God, among all people, why do I need to suffer? Why do I need to feel the pain? Why do I need to die soon? Why me?


There are millions of what-ifs and whys on the universe that are unanswerable. Our minds are not sleeping and always piling up hundreds to thousands of thoughts day by day and they are almost covering our hypothalamus.

But why are we creating what-ifs and whys if we can think of what is?

It's because of fear, self-doubt, and stupidity!

We always fear and worry about things that are yet to come. We always tend to question everything in life, from dust to ashes, from birth to death, and doubt our self-worth. We always fear to face the consequences and doubt the probabilities. We always avoid committing to something because we are stupid to let go of what-ifs in our life. We always have what-ifs because we tend to compare our lives to others, our failures to other people's accomplishments, our weakness to other people's perseverance, our stupidity to other people's cleverness.

The what-ifs in our minds just give worries and doubts and sometimes ended up with negative notions. Then we start to question our self-worth. Am I good enough? Can I make it? But why do we always need to live in other people's minds if we can live in our minds? Why do we always need to question God if we can survive from our own lives? Why are we afraid of the world if this is our home? Why do we need to regret the past if we can rectify the present?

Instead of dwelling with the what-ifs and whys, why not dwell with the what is?

The what is are taking the risk and willingness to learn. It is worth noting that it is more important to understand the situation and focus on what's working instead of worrying about what isn't. It is normal to worry about things, however, learn how to think of the best things to do next so we won't be roaming around the land of what-ifs, stuck and stagnant.

What is the best way to overcome my fear and how to be stronger?

What is the solution to my problem and how to apply them to the current situation?

What is the meaning of failures in life and how to surpass them?

What is the best way to let go of what-ifs in life and how to give importance to what is?

Overcome your self-doubt and believe that everything happens for a reason

The what-ifs can just hinder us from living a better life. They only give us doubt, confusion, worries, and fear. We should learn how to face our fears and conquer the world. Put positivity in life and we should not let anyone doubt or question our lives. Only then we can live freely and accept our failures without regrets, no more worries, no more doubts, no more fear, no more what-ifs.

Instead of what if, why not think of "why not?"

Why not appreciate the world and capture every beautiful creature of God?

Why not pursue your goal?

Why not make your dreams come true?

Why not fall in love again?

Why not trust the process and live life to the fullest?

Why not ask for the guidance of God and be grateful for what you have, and not worry about what you don't have?

Why not live a carefree life?

I want to live without fear, worries, and doubt. Why not?

And always remember.

Thanks for your time.

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Sabi nga ng kakilala ko focus on the present. Dami ko din what ifs sa buhay dati. Just like what if di kami ngkakilala ng husband ko di siguro ganito ang buhay ko. I choose my husband over someone na Mas maganda Sana ang buhay na maibibigay sa Akin at sa anak ko. For now hindi ko na inisip yan focus nalang ako sa anong Kaya Kung gawin to make my life better.

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3 years ago

bet ko tong article na to. These days I don't mind too much yung mga what-ifs na yan sa buhay ko though paminsan minsan naiisip ko din yun pero kasi tama nga naman bakit natin iisipin and magkaroon ng regrets kung pwede naman tayong mag move on and change ourselves para mawala or i lessen yung mga regrets sa buhay natin. Isa sa mga natutunan ko kakabasa ng articles mo is to always move forward and follow your heart in making decisions. hihi.

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3 years ago

Charot . 😂 dami mo ata namiss na articles ko.. Dami mo comments 🤣

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3 years ago

Pwera biro yan ah. hehe.

sa sobrang dami ko na follow na bago natatabunan yung iba then now lang nagkatime magcheck nung mga articles nung nakaraang araw. 😁😁😁😁

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Out of all the many "what ifs" I have right now I always make sure to give them answer in my own simple ways. And true, we can always ask God for guidance every day of our lives. Let's live our life to the fullest!

God Bless Ma'am Take care!

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3 years ago

My curiousity makes me to think lot of what ifs in my life. I also have tons of what ifs in my mind but i know i cant answer all of these. You're right if we always think about the what ifs it will stop us from doing better.

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3 years ago

Sometimes puro din talaga ako what if, pero I'm trying my best na wag masyado mag-isip kasi inistress ko lang sarili ko. Haha. Bahala na ganern.

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3 years ago

Bahala na si batman 🤣

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I've always wanted that --- to live without fear. But then fear always overtake me. Like now, I am always thinking of what other people will say instead of going out and be happy.

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3 years ago

Bakit ano kinababahala mo?

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3 years ago

Nakakahiya mang sabihin pero may mga bagay na ayaw kong marinig sa iba. Isa na dyan yung nakagraduate na pero wala pang stable na trabaho.

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3 years ago

As long as we're alive, we have to constantly wrestle with such thoughts. For me, the best way to deal with it is to live each day, live for the moment while doing some little planning for the days to come.

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3 years ago

You have said it well

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3 years ago

No Jane, I typed it well. Hehe.

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3 years ago

Thinking about what ifs can lead us to depression... Let enjoy the life.

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3 years ago

Hays dati gnyan na gnyan ako, puro what ifs sa buhay. Pero now natuto ding mag move forward nang wala msyadong what ifs. My time na nkakapag isip ako ng what ifs ulit pero di na gaya ng dati na halos lamunin nko ng takot sa mga bagay na. di pa nmn nangyayari. 😅

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3 years ago

Doubting one self would only get rid of our confidence when it comes to relating with others. We must not place what people think of us over what we know that will benefit us more in life.

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I have a lot of what if's in my life until I woke up one day and didn't care anymore haha

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3 years ago

Hinding hindi ko naiiwasam yang What If 😣 hanggang ngayon, kapag nagiging negative thinking na po ako , yan papasok na si "What If" kahit hanggang sa pag gawa ko ng article huhu.

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3 years ago

Ndi tlga maiiwasan sis.. Kahit ako din naman 😅

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3 years ago

Tingin ko poreber na ata kami ni "What Ifs" Ms. Jane haha😅

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3 years ago

Ay wag naman. Makipag break kna.. Gaya ni @Farmgirl 🤣 basahin mo comment nya.

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3 years ago

Hahaha nabasa ko na po . Tama siya mahirap nga mag decide sige makikipah break na din ako kay What If,

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3 years ago

Everyone has moments where they worry about the what ifs. They are actually a necessary part of life and assist in the decision making process or motivating us to make better choice, but sometimes leads to worrying and depression...there should be a question change Why not?...good content here

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Thanks for reading.. The what ifs are only leading us to depression and wrong decision. So as much as possible we should avoid them

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3 years ago

These "What ifs"questions will only give me anxiety which leads me close to depression. This is why I started living now than thinking "What if."

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3 years ago

Same.. At sabihing, bahala na si batman 🤣

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3 years ago

Naku! Nakuha mo, sis 😁

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3 years ago

Parang ako to... puro what if... the fear is always there. Yung mind mo palagi na lang gumawa ng sariling situation ng dahil sa takot kay di mangyari ang iniisip. Did I make sense? 😁

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Hndi rlga yan mawawala. Hndi naman tlga safe tumira sa mundo 🤣

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3 years ago

I like how you convert the what if to what is 😊

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3 years ago

And why not? 😁

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3 years ago

Hahaha yep... Ganyan nga sis laban lang 😂😂😂

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3 years ago

Why not focused only with reaching your goals instead of getting affected by negative thoughts of others? hehehe hugot lang sis

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3 years ago

Tamang hugot 😁

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Tama ba sis hehehee, marami kasi toxic sa paligid ngayon ehh walang ibang magawa kundi mangutya haha

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3 years ago

Daming what ifs hehehe :) They're stumbling blocks in life, they cause bad traffic, making us stuck on some place because just like you said, they cause doubts and fears.

Buti na lang may "why not", they challenge us to get our butts into action :) Awesome write up!

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Kya nga... Ang iba hndi mka move on sa life dahil sa what if.. Dahil takot ulit magkamali.

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Saka ang hirap magdecide kung kay what if nagbabase :) Kaya nagbreak kami hehe

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Nagbreak? You mean kyo ni what if? 😅

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Oo medyo matagal na rin. Ayoko na sa kanya haha. Walang progress kung kasama sya eh

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3 years ago

Haha.. Ibibreak ko narin 😂

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3 years ago

Hahaha, go for it. D ka maha-heart broken :)

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Sincerely, most times I just feel like this questions are inevitable., I mean the "what ifs". But when looking at the brighter side, we need to focus more on, "what is" or "what will be".

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3 years ago

And why not? Face the fear and conquer the consequences 😁

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3 years ago

Very nice article, Jane!

Initially (after the first block), I thought that I did not suffer from what-ifs, but when I read on, I realised that the next blocks of what-ifs also apply to me. Now I kind of feel silly for being held back by them. But it's a good thing that I became aware of it now. I will try to replace then with what-is. 💪

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3 years ago

Nice one. You really should.. Be productive now 😁

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3 years ago

Aigoo, basta kakalimutan ko mga what ifs ko sa buhay, babalikan ko nalang siguro once I become successful in life na? Pero when kaya. Omoo, the what ifs is gone, now thr "When" appears 😖

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Ayun. Syo naman ay when.. Simulan mo na habang kaya mo pa

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3 years ago

Whahaha, diko na nga kaya madam. Pano ko ba sisimulan, and when nga kashe ahaha

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3 years ago

Isipin mo muna ano gusto mk saka mo planuhin..

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3 years ago

Yon nalang mga gagawin ko, hehe

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3 years ago

Don't ask what if's or why's. Just focus on what you can do now to achieve your dreams.

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Haysss. Ayoko na ng what ifs hahaha.

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3 years ago

Hndi maiiwasan yan 🤣

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Haysss. Iwasan ko Yan 😂

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