October 7, 2022
It was yesterday morning when I drafted this post before I started my day. The weather was fine as well as my mood. While eating my breakfast, I was reading articles here in readcash and I came across this post about What should come first, marriage or sex?
A few comments on this post showed different REACTIONs. And I, on the other hand, disagreed with the writer's opinion. Yet, I respect her opinion because we all have different perceptions of the TOPIC. We can view stories from different angles and give other ideas based on our perceptions.
Sex Over Marriage
MARRIAGE for me will always be sacred, uniting only two people seriously in love, and a beginning of a long-term commitment. It's how a family starts, not just a play that can be abandoned any time the spouses get bored or tired.
But nowadays, many are just playing around, experimenting with things, and testing people. It seems easy for some to dive into the fire and get out of it unharmed. They would never think of the consequences. For some, it is a pleasure to play with the fire. While for some, it would test whether two people could stand the heat longer and could, deal with the aftermath and stay forever.
Only a few couples nowadays get married wholesomely without being drowned in sexual desires before tying the knot. A lot of young people nowadays are just taking s*x for fun. That is mainly why many women end up as single mothers with fears of getting in love again due to unpleasant past relationships.
Cases of premarital s*x are increasing every year. Some even want to live with their partners without tying the knot because they are afraid of long commitments and responsibilities. Some are afraid of separation and divorce. Some women don't want to bear the surname of their partners forever, who might just abandon them in the end. So they prefer to be in a relationship but unmarried. While some just prefer "friends with benefits." Anyone who watched the movie would undoubtedly know my point here.
Of course, the abovementioned thoughts are true, and anyone who could relate to them or in the situation will agree. Again, we all have different opinions and thoughts about the matter.
Live in and sex before marriage.
At some point, I agreed with what the writer said. We can only know someone's true colors and intentions if we share the same roof and experience struggles together. However, I disagree with s*x before marriage and living together to check the s*xual satisfaction with the other one.
It is as if they will live under the same roof and play with the fire. If the other one is satisfied with the heat, he/she will stick with the fire and live in the house longer. If not, he/she will abandon the house and find another man who could meet his/her satisfaction.
Is that relationship all about? S*x? Is that the only way to test the love and loyalty of someone to you?
It is unavoidable not to be involved with s*x when you are under the same roof and lying on the same bed. Both couldn't just do rosary the whole night without being aroused when both bare skins are rubbed together. That is absurd. Temptation, lust, and desire will arise. And the fire will be lit up.
Can real love be developed if you share the same roof?
Maybe, in some cases. But only a few survive in this kind of setup.
But what if you figuratively fall into a big fire and it would cause great damage to you? Will you be able to bear the wounds and consequences?
We all are adults here. So don't
be disgusted or feel ignorant
about the topic. But ladies, think about this.
Let's say you guys will do food testing. Men, of course, like eating their favorite desserts. But they'll get fed up with it if they eat the same dessert again and again. They will find another kind of dessert again until they get the satisfaction they want. Not just men. Some women are doing this too.
Who's virginity and dignity will be removed after s*x? And what if the man abandons you because he isn't satisfied? Who'll bear great damage if a small life is accidentally conceived after playing the fire? The man? Definitely the woman!
It seems easy for some to have s*x with others, then later would shed tears and regret everything they have done. It always happens in the end anyway. But do you know who'll be greatly affected after? It's not just you, but the baby that has been conceived.
For some, it's a blessing and they could eventually learn the lessons from their experience. But others would take it as a burden, and eventually abandon the innocent child. For what reason? They are not prepared to be a mother yet. Screw that reason. They weren't ignorant about the consequences when they dived into the fire. They are just weak and afraid to face responsibilities.
I know there are a lot here who've been involved in premarital s*x. But I don't despise those who prefer this kind of setup, and I commend those who face the consequences despite being abandoned by their partner, and those who ended up in marriage.
If there's one thing I want to point out here:
"If others can't respect you, can you at least, respect yourself?" Especially ladies out there. And to students, please pursue your dreams first.
Don't be in a rush to play the fire. Pursue your dreams and be settled well first before you get involved in s*x. Many dreams have vanished because they become young mothers. They lost their freedom at an early age.
If you are responsible enough to face the consequences, then that's not a problem. But if you are still young, especially those still studying, don't let your dreams be ruined by your absurd desires and careless decisions.
My younger sister is one of them. I had a lot of dreams and plans for her. But it was eventually gone when she made a mistake. Although she is being responsible for the mess she did, I can't deny the fact that I felt sad about the life she choose. And I can somehow feel that she regretted it. She could have done more and achieved more.
Anyway, my niece is adorable, so she has been forgiven. Instead of remembering her mistakes, I rather do MARKETING and buy something that could satisfy my appetite, or play the PIANO at home and make a random piece that could alleviate my stress.
This is probably the first time I tackled a such topic. Who's to blame? The random word generator. The article above was just dragged here, lol. Now scroll up and find the given nouns.😅
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**These opinions are PURELY from my thoughts. I don't intend to criticize whoever is in the situation, nor despise them. Anyone can share their thoughts and opinions about the matter as well as we all have different perceptions.**
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Something's not right here: "My younger sister is one of them" "Anyway, my niece is adorable, so she has been forgiven" I am not a suspicious person but i somehow have bad feeling about this. Sorry