Yesterday I've got flashback of pain, and they said that flashback of pain only happens when someone or something triggers it to come back, and that is true.
Me and my mother had a conversation over the phone and she mentioned that my little sister @Lovelyjane always woke up recently with swolen eyes. And I know the answer, it's because she's brokenhearted, She and her bf broke up just a week ago.
So that's the reason why I've got flashback of pain yesterday because she reminded me of myself when I got my first heart broken.
But at the same time I remember the question she asked me when she was younger. She asked me, "Big sister, what's the good exercise for the heart?" I didn't bother to answer so I just asked her "What is it?".
And her answer was something which I won't forget. She said "laughter, because when we laugh it exercise our heart". I don't know where she got her answer but it made sense.
It turns out there’s some scientific veracity behind the old adage “laughter is the best medicine.” So why laughter is the best medecine for our heart?
Our endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain. Laughter protects the heart and it improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect us against a heart attack and other cardiovascular (heart) problems.
Laughter also activates the body’s natural relaxation response. It’s like internal jogging, providing a good massage to all internal organs while also toning abdominal muscles.
Aside from laughter reduces stress response and relieves pain, it also boost immunity because it may increase natural killer cell levels, it's a type of white blood cell that attacks cancer cells. Laugter also increases resilience. The ability to acknowledge mistakes without becoming angry or frustrated plays an important role in developing resilience. Laughing at mistakes allows us to recognize that making errors is a part of being human.
And the most important of laughing is, it combats depression. Being unhappy can become a pattern or mindset if we don’t step outside of ourselves occasionally. By being a witness to our situation rather than allowing ourselves to feel the victim we can find the humor in it and see with fresh eyes. Even forced laughter releases a cocktail of hormones, neuropeptides, and dopamine that can start to improve your mood.
So when you’re feeling down, finding friends to laugh with can help your brain trigger its own laughter response and foster closeness, both of which contribute to your sense of well-being. And in most cases, people often just watch funny videos when there's no friend to talk to, read a funny book or listen to favorite comedian. There are so many ways to make ourselves laugh, we just need to focus on finding laughable moments in our day.
Therefore, Love isn't the only thing our heart needs, laughter is the best.
To my dear sister @Lovelyjane :
I know how you feel but you're still young, don't take it seriously. Remember what you've asked me when you were younger, and remember the answer you've told me. So get up, move on and laugh, I know you're good at that knowing that you laugh like there's no tomorrow. You better go back to your old self, your old self where you doesn't care if you laugh so loud, where you just want to do whatever things you wanted to, where you were happy even if you're being sorrounded with negative things and people. To be honest I admire you with that personalities. I wished I'm like you who doesn't mind the negatives things and people arround me. I wished I'm like you who laugh so loud. I wished I'm that gullible and joyful person like you.
Take that painful breakup as a lesson. We should realize that breakup is a blessing in disguise. Use that as a chance to better yourself. The healthiest way to get over a relationship is to reflect on what you did well and what you could have done better during the relationship. This is a time to be honest with yourself, but also be fair. It is basically guaranteed you will come out of this much wiser than you were while in the relationship.
Take time to know your real self again. Learn to focus on positive. Find new hobby and other ways to get your mind off the breakup. Know that you will become stronger as a result. And most especially, give yourself some love. You need it.
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To overcome heartaches due to breakups is not easy to handle. It takes time to heal the wound especially you're alone. Flashback of happy memories always present and none of those sad and fighting events will appear, in which it added more pain. An ache in the heart due to any health condition could be easily healed by medicines but aches of emotions is something to dealt with.