We don't want to be someone's enemy, nor we don't want to have an enemy. What we want is a friend whom we can share our timeline in life. Someone who we can trust and someone we can lean on.
We are all have different social skills we used to make friends with others. Some of us have charismatic skill to gained the like of many. Some may be outgoing but socially awkward, and some may be introverted. If you will observed your circle of friends, you fill noticed who have those personalities. And it is much fun to have those variety of personality in your circle of friends. We won't be bored and just have fun.
Being perceived as likable is more important to some people than to others. Being likable you can easily be loved and trusted by people. They will feel comfortable towards you.
Our likability is not entirely depends on us. It depends on our role and function within the group, how much common we have to them, and of course the people around us. As what we always remind ourself that don't pushed ourself to others, their are people that no matter how likable we are, they won't easily be warm their self to us. They may be opposed with our lifestyle, culture, choices or even our personality. It is important to remind ourself that we can't appeal to all people all the time.
We can consider ourself lucky if we find people who response to us warmly and openly accept us. We just need to do more to make ourself more likable.
Tips to be More Likable
Be a good listener. Once someone open up to you telling stories about their life, their education or problem you should listened. People like someone who can listen to his/her dramas or adventure. Finds ways to show that you are attentive and willing to listen.
Be supportive. If someone told you that something they achieved, sincerely congratulates his/her. If someone told you an exciting story, show some excitement as well. For that action, you can gain his/her interest but make sure that you don't fake your feelings and emotions.
Follow up. If someone told you that he/she went for a job interview, ask how it goes. If they told you they went on a vacation, ask how it was. Doing this can make you earn a likability points. They will know that you listened to them attentively.
Find a common ground. You can gain a higher likability points with this tip. People like people whom they have the same interests, opinions, or some what similar to them.
Don't dominate the conversation. We all want time to speak, we all want people to focus on us too. You might be a smooth talker or a great story teller but some also want attention and time to speak their opinions, so pay attention to how much time you speak and give others a chance.
Don't brag. Humbleness makes people like you more and realizing that you are a down to earth person. Telling how awesome you are, how cool you are, is often turned - off.
Making people feel welcome, and accepted and valued makes them happy and loved. We don't want any more stressed in life and having for friends is much better rather than having enemy.
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