The "Self Lessons" I learned from being Alone

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2 years ago
Topics: Life, Lessons, Self, Thoughts

It's been two years, I travel far away from home for work. This is my first time since I graduate from my course. I believe and I can say that the first time is the most difficult. You can't explain, the hardest times you encounter a lot of random things, a mixed emotions.

Mostly I am alone. The two years give me a lot of lessons. I learned a lot of things, a lot of realizations. It helps me to understand the meaning and the things which been part in my life journey.

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Avoid and Stop Overthinking

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This is the lesson I learned at first. Stop being an over thinker because it will worst the situation. It will make you weak. It will make you demotivated. The hopes are gone. You are the one who bring yourself down.

Overthinking is a real enemy. It's in our mind, from ourselves. You are the one who can stop it. You are the who can control it even there are million advises you will get from the others if you didn't make an actions with it, nothing will happen and it will be useless.

I experience a serious depression because of being an over thinker. I felt the pain and sadness. The worst I felt it was always with me. I cried a lot of times, endless days. The reason also I experience a head pains for four months. A painful experience in my whole life back year 2020. The worst year I have. Overthinking can kills your happiness and hopes in life.

Please stop overthinking. It doesn't help you. It will lead bigger complications and worries in yourself through your life. Don't start it, do quickly ways. Divert your mind into a positivity or recreational activities that will help you. Do it seriously and always remind yourself.

Be Brave Anytime

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This is really important. You should be brave always. It's the key for the survival in life like facing challenges or difficulties. It will help you to become stronger then fight those struggles you have. It will make you stand whatever happens and it's the most important thing we need to do.

You can't easily losing hopes. It will serve as a weapon to face the life. You will not break easily. You will not easily to give up. You will learn how to fight those painful circumstances which exist in unexpected time, unexpected places.

You should learn and apply it from yourself because in case of hardest scenarios no one can help you but it's yourself only. You should teach yourself how to be brave. It's for your own good.

This is the lesson I learned because I am a weak person. No one can help me immediately but my own self that's why I started to learn to become brave person. I always remind myself from this thing to make me more stronger. It's for my own sake especially when I have an illness since I'm alone, I need to be braver, it's not only for me but to the people who are important to me especially my family.

If I am always weak and don't know how to fight, it will make the situation to be bigger and worsen. It's not good. It's the worst. You should find a ways how to surpass it and solve it and it will happen if you are brave or stronger one.

LIFE LESSONS:

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We need to choose the things that is good for us. The things that will help us. Don't let yourself to be part of the things that will ruin your lives. You should be aware. Always in advance.

Don't let the bad things, the difficulties put you down. Don't create a problems to yourself. Please avoid those not acceptable things and the distractions. Always be in positivity. Look the inspirational side not the darkest one. Always be fast and looking some ways for diversion of a one thing to be place in a good set.

Life situations is not predictable. You should be ready every minute. Be prepare. Be strong. Be brave. Fight those challenges!

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Thank you so much. I hope I give you some thoughts with this article of mine.

God bless everyone. Stay safe always. 🙏

-JRamona20 💜

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Indeed a great realization sis. Overthinking is actually a silent killer of our hopes and dreams.

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2 years ago

Thank you so much sis. Yes sis indeed. A greatest enemy of every human.

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2 years ago

Overthinking svcks jud ate Ganda ayyy. Grabe dili baya jud lalim mubiyah balay para sa work. And kamingaw btaw te nu? Pero proud ko kay na survive na nimo ate ganda. You are so brave and palaban. You have grown a lot in different areas of your life jud te.

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2 years ago

Gayud Langga. Overthinking is real enemy nato. Thank you so much Langga. Nung una sobrang hirap din Langga kasi it's my first time.

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2 years ago

I enjoy being alone sometimes because it made me strong. It is also a challenge in my part. At the end of the day, sarili lang natin ang maaasahan natin.

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2 years ago

Yes sis that's true bring alone makes independent. You will be brave.

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2 years ago

I left home at ten and loved it. I relish new places and new challenges. Try living in the now and not thinking to much. Enjoy yourself and make every day a new adventure!

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2 years ago

Thank you so much for this sir.❤️ I will sir. It makes me realize that overthinking, I am the only who create a problems to myself.

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2 years ago

Bravery is one thing that we all need. I used to over think at some point in my life but had to stop it because I realised it doesn't change anything but make things worse!

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2 years ago

Yes kristoff. I'm really happy to know that you stop now for being an overthinker kristoff. It's the best decision you have.

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2 years ago

Nkatry nko anang being alone sis kdtong nag abroad nko ky wa may lain mutabang nko kundi ako ra sd. Need nato mgpaka brave sis para mabuhe pa ta mao laban lng jud pirmi.

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2 years ago

Mao gayud sis. Importante gayud ng brave ta permi kay mao gayud nay makatabang sa atong self.

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2 years ago

Tama sis. Tinuod jud ng ikaw ray makatabang sa imo self.

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2 years ago

Mao gayud sis tinuod gayud na. Maong dapat maging strong tayo sis.

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2 years ago

All I could say, sis, is you are really brave and I am so proud of you. Imagine facing the stresses alone, is a really hard endeavor but you overcome them all. At the end of the day, the only one who could truly help us is ourselves. And just the same with you, overthinking has been my enemy ever since too, but somehow, now, I learn to reflect and love myself first.

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2 years ago

Thank you so much for your words sis. Until now, it's really fresh in my mind what happened back 2020.

Overthinking is real enemy for us sis. The greatest enemy for us.

I'm really happy for you sis and it's the best.

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2 years ago

Overthinking can not solve a problem, instead it leads to even more problems because you will keep thinking out more. So it's better to just relax a bit and take action on the problem you're facing. I am glad you have grown mentally in the two years that you have been alone, you're a strong lady 😊

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2 years ago

The word "Relax" you're right Kushyzee. We need to calm and relax. Stop being an over thinker a lot of random things. It will make the problems bigger. Thank you so much Kushyzee.❤️

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2 years ago

Sometimes we learn some lessons the hard way, but they are important for our growth :) And yes, big NO to overthinking :)

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2 years ago

Yes sis indeed. Overthinking must be avoided sis. It ruin yourself and your mindset into negativities.

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2 years ago

It's true that one shouldn't worry or overthink too much. It doesn't solve anything. It only makes the situation more painful. We a should always develop a positive mindset in any situation we find ourselves.

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2 years ago

Yes friend indeed. It will worsen the situation. It's the reason that we must learn to be strong and fight. It will help the situation we had especially during downtimes.

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2 years ago

Glad you are now brave wnough to face problems alone sis. Being alone really test our limits and also we can learned a lot. Keepsafe always sis

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2 years ago

Yes sis I'm thankful also. Thank you so much sis. You too keep safe always.

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2 years ago

I'm so glad that I saw and read this article ate, I'm so down these days, I want to tell them to someone just to lessen the heaviness in my heart but no one is there for me. Thanks for this ate huhu this really helped me. Tama, always be strong and as much as possible I will divert my attention to anything.

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2 years ago

Be strong langga. You're always. Always remember that you need to remind yourself with a question and ask "why did you start?" It's because of your dream and goals langga. We're always here for you.

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2 years ago

Mahirap rin maginf matatag te, kahit anong gawin kong pagiging matatag nageend up ako kakaiyak talagaaa. Minsan dito ko na nilalabas lahat eh para kahit papaano umokey ako

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2 years ago

Oo Langga ganun ako minsan tas itutulog ko nalang at minsan kakain. Minsan iniiyak ko din kahit papano naging okay kunti.

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2 years ago

Let's always look at the brighter side of life ika nga nila.

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User's avatar Yen
2 years ago

Yes miss yen tama. Dapat piliin natin yung side na makakatulong sa atin.

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2 years ago

Being alone is the most coolest thing in the world.... don't worry my friend

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2 years ago

Thank you so much my friend but there are times I felt sad and give me some stress friend.

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2 years ago

When we leave the comfort of home for other places we suffer from the stress of detachment to our nest. We leave the tranquility of what is ours, the confidence, the sense of belonging and other things and all together makes us lose a lot of peace of mind and if we do not manage to control these feelings they will turn into depression.

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2 years ago

A big true to this ma'am gertu. Loving far away from home is not a joke. There are a lot of things that always in our mind ma'am. An overthinker will happened. If we don't know how to fight it our life will be miserable ma'am gertu.

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2 years ago

Actually I'm over thinker as well. That's one of my problems for almost several years. I'm coping with it now but still there are times you overthink again.

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2 years ago

We're the same Marc. All we need is to fight it marc. Always divert our mind to other things.

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2 years ago

Being alone talaga yan yung time na matuto tayong tumayo sa sarili natin friend kasi wala yung mga mahal natin sa buhay para tulongan tayo sa araw2.

Yang overthink ? Always present talaga yan pag nahaharap na tayo sa alanganin sa buhay like nalulungkot na tayo or lalo pag nagkasakit tayo tapos mag.isa lang di maiwasan freind na mag overthink talaga

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2 years ago

Tama friend. Dami mong lessons na matutunan para sa sarili mo pag ikaw ang mag isa.

Sobra friend. Ako friend pag malungkot ako huhu overthink na naman mangyayari which is pinaka hate ko talaga.

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2 years ago

Leeson talaga friend nadapat eh learn .

Mag.isip ka nalng ng magagandang bagay friend.. Yan sabi ni Peter pan hahah

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2 years ago

Oo friend tama. Dapat I divert mo talaga mind mo agad. Thank you so much friend.

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2 years ago

When I was a kid I used to fear to experience 'Aloneness' but how I find peace and happiness along with lots of worthy lessons too. It is absolutely true that by worrying and over thinking we can't solve the problem but this thing may make a simple thing complicated.

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2 years ago

Yes friend you're right. If we can't solve it, the things will be worse and a bigger complications will happen.

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2 years ago

Learning to be alone and being okay with that and being brave is the most important things to a woman as you rightly pointed out.. My dad always said "no matter what issue it is, your step 1 is to never to panic as fear blocks common sense".. he always asked me to give myself a few minutes before making a judgement about the situation..

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2 years ago

Yes doll. You delivered it uniquely. I love it. We shouldn't panic and try to calm and realize about the things before we decided to walk the next part..

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2 years ago

Lisud man gud mag inusara og malayo sa pamilya sis no,pero kilangan man kilangan nato mobarog sa atong kaugalingong tiil kay para rapud saatoa og sa atong pamilya .Amping kanunay sis

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2 years ago

Sobra kalisod sis labi na pag first time sis. Dili gayud ka kasabot sa feeling sis. Guol kaayo. Thank you sis. Laban gayud sis para sa self ug sa family.

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2 years ago

When problems comes, we shouldn't be overthinking but find ways to solve it. When we think too much, it will affect our heart and it wouldn't be good spending money on your sickness when you can spend on something else. Above all, we need be brave to face life challenges.

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2 years ago

Yes princess you're right. We need to fight and solve it because it's not good for our health if you have nothing to do about it. Be advance and be brave. Thank you princess.

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2 years ago

I hope you conquer it all now J. I know its hard for you to been through all of it but I know that its what makes you strong today. An independent and braver woman♡

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2 years ago

Thank you so much for your words kleh. It hits me a lot.❤️ Yes kleh it teach me how to be stronger. Thank you again kleh.❤️

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2 years ago

Na ako being alone waman koy na learn kay I'm always have someone man and not even felt alone my whole life hahahha charroottt... hahaha

Bitaw, daghan jud tang ma huna2 an nga mga panghinuklog ug mag inusara ta oyyy

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2 years ago

Sana all man ni si ate. Inana gayud ate basta naay someone permi sa tupad.😁

Mao gayud ate. Dili gayud malikayan labi na mag inusara ka.

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2 years ago

hahahahaha, dapat jud naa sel haha

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2 years ago

Gayud ate. Dili pwede wala.😁

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2 years ago

One thing is inspiration that comes from. Your heart inside other one is motivation. That you get from outside. Use both of these energies to tackle your stress, anxiety ane sadness.

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2 years ago

Yes indeed my friend. The inspiration and motivations is really important. Thank you friend.❤️

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