Few realities define the human being as much as that uncertainty in one's own future in which one does not quite know what direction to take. We hope that our existence has some meaning, that what we do is easy to interpret along the lines of a coherent, logical story. However, we often fail to notice that this meaning is given a posteriori. For example, you choose a course of study, but then you work on something that apparently has little to do with it. For a certain time you take it for granted that this makes you happy; that this is what you want. However, the fact is that there is nothing extraordinary about change or doubt. When we go through a crisis derived from the fact that we have found cracks in our vital pillars, we tend to panic.
In that sense, I believe that no one likes crises, even if they are the most normative and recurrent periods. People change, our interests vary and we need to open up to other paths. Accepting this and knowing how to manage this process shapes our evolution. You may need to reformulate your resolutions. Maybe you need to make a small change, or maybe you need to start a personal revolution. When one feels stuck and says to oneself, not without some frustration, that I don't know what to do with my life, the first thing to do is to have a coffee with oneself and practice internal dialogue. Locking ourselves in the shells of our mind for a while to encourage introspection is always a good start.
It is also a good start because, on average, we hardly have time for it. Everyday life is often chaotic, demanding and noisy. Thus, and almost without realizing it, we disassociate ourselves from that inner world that is crying out for us to stop. Because it has things to tell us. Therefore, instead of letting ourselves be carried away by frustration and anxiety for not knowing what to do with our lives, we can ask ourselves some questions to achieve precisely this mental clarity. Which could be: Am I really doing what I want to do? Or: How do I see myself in 5 years? Does this perspective of the future satisfy me or should I change it? Likewise, our values and purposes need to be updated from time to time.
In that sense, all people change, and so do circumstances, and they don't always put us in places where we feel comfortable. The world has changed, and it is logical that many of the realities we took for granted (work, future, relationships) are in crisis. Therefore, a more than necessary step we should take is to reflect on the values and purposes that define us now. We all have excellent competencies in some area. Each one of us has our own talents, abilities that distinguish us from the rest and that allow us to enjoy a good sense of self-efficacy. Let's remember them, keep them in mind and focus on them. Because these unique abilities can mark the path that brings us closer to a new stage in our lives.
Finally, it can be said that it is good to clarify what our personal strengths are (empathy, creativity, resolution, sensitivity, confidence, etc.). These are nutrients that should give us temperance in times of insecurity. You may have spent many years orienting your life in a certain direction. However, you are at the point where you are beginning to doubt what seemed so clear. Suddenly, where before you saw logical actions, now you begin to see a range of possibilities, that you have alternatives that you might like even more than the one you had already opted for before you reached this point. Maybe it's time to change tracks, to take another train. The world is full of possibilities.
Have you had moments of insecurity in your life?
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There are some point in my life that I'm unsure and having a hard time to make a decision, and I'm still learning about it. When we are incapable of something, maybe one reason that affects us is that we are not equip for a certain task,thats we should develop ourselves, our capacity to a certain ability.