Why Do We Always Tell I'm Okay Lies?

It's so ironic that when we feel tired, hurt, in pain, stress, depressed and any bad feelings we always wanted to be asked “How are you?” but what's more ironic is that we always answer it with “I'm Okay.”

This lie is rampant to all of us I think, we don't casually talk about our problems or what we are going through randomly. Before we spit it out to someone we weigh it or think about many times if we are going to spill the beans or not.

Reasons behind I'm okay lies

There are several reasons why a person does not easily spill the beans from random people when they asked: “How are you?” I will jot down reasons here based on observations and my experiences as well.

To avoid worrying loved ones

If a loved one asked us how are we doing, we think about it many times if we should tell them if we are going to tell what we are going through. The probable reason is to avoid letting them worry about us.

Our loved ones will be worried and felt sad about us if we are having hard times, it will only add burdens to us more knowing they are also hurt because you are hurt. It's like it's better to suffer alone than to let our loved ones worried about us too much.

To avoid being judged

People have a different approach to certain situations, we have different ways of thinking and how we accept and analyze things. So when random people or acquaintances ask us how are we doing, we will just lie telling them we are okay even if it's not to avoid being judged.

There are people instead of listening to a person who gives constructive criticism and is destructive instead of sympathetic Receiving constructive and destructive criticism if you are in a bad state does not help at all, instead,d it will add more pressure and complications to our thinking so we will end up saying we are okay just to avoid this kind of situation.

To avoid being the gossip topic

Some people show fake concern to us and will ask how are we doing, but deep inside they only want to know if we are doing good or not.

If we are suffering they'll rejoice silently and gossip about us, that is why sometimes instead of sharing our down times we tend to keep it secret just to avoid being the gossip topic in town.

To avoid many questions

If we tend to share what we are going through, it's normal that the person you talk with will ask for further details about the situation. Some asked to analyse things just so they can plot some solutions to our problems, while some just wanted more information about our sufferings.

Instead of sharing, we tend to make lies that we are okay just to avoid countless questions that will give us more headaches explaining details in detail.

To avoid any advice that it's easier said than done

Advises are good but sometimes we don't want advice, because we are aware of what to do and what's not with our situation, but we just need to release every bad feeling we have, what we need is someone willing to listen with our drama. Only listen and does not need to give their opinions and advice.

Sometimes we tend to say “I am fine” because we will hear unlimited advice that is easier said than done. Also hearing redundant advice will give us thinking that we were like an idiot who doesn't understand anything at all because we need to be reminded repeatedly.

Endnotes:

I got this idea to write after reading @Yen article although her article talks about different topics, I find it interesting to write about her last question to be answered which is “What was your most recent lie?” and she answered a gif of “I'm okay.” You can read her article, My most recent lie.

Until next time, thank you for reading.

September 12, 2021

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