Forgiveness: Not easy but necessary

When we talk about forgiveness what comes to is that a form of betrayal has happened between two friends which hurt either one or both parties and they are deciding to let go and make peace with each other. However, forgiveness does not necessarily have to be between two or more parties. Sometimes the person we need to forgive is ourselves.

Forgiveness is not easy but is necessary. Whether it was a family member or buddy, whether it was an accident or intentional from that person, whether the relationship was good or bad at that point, forgiveness is needed.

Living with guilt for misdeeds done in the past is a common thing. In the just-concluded series by Marvel studio- Moon Knight, a similar script occurred. The main actor of the movie Steven was a victim of such. He made a mistake while growing up which cost the life of his brother. He felt bad about it and the constant abuse by his mum didn’t help matters. Until he came to terms that the deed has been done and he forgave himself, he kept on living a life of delusion.

 It's very hard to forgive someone who wronged us and it’s even harder to forgive oneself for an error committed in the past. . One keeps on living an unhappy life, you feel you don’t deserve to be happy because of what you did. The pain caused keeps on resurfacing, and the old wound keeps on reminding us of the betrayal and disappointment, but to move on with one's life, one needs to forgive and let go.

The thing about Forgiveness is that you need to forgive yourself too. The hurt that you feel will stay for days, weeks and even months, but you can't let that eat you up; you need to forgive yourself for trusting that person, for believing in what she or he said and for getting attached.

It's not easy to forgive someone who wronged you, but it's a lot harder to forgive yourself when you know that you are part of the problem.

Forgiveness doesn't mean that you will invite the person who did wrong to your home to have a cup of coffee. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you will be taking back the wrongdoer in your life, it also doesn't mean that your wounds will be gone after forgiving him. But forgiveness means that you are taking responsibility for your part in the problem and by doing so, you are giving yourself a chance to move on with your life.

It's okay to not forgive right away, but don't keep grudge and hatred in your heart for longer than necessary because sooner or later, it will destroy you.

I always find it hard to forgive myself for all the mistakes I made in my past, for all the wrong decisions I made, for all the people I hurt, for all the things I left behind and regrets that I have but I always try to remind myself that there's nothing that is unforgivable.

 “Yes there’s nothing that is unforgivable” I repeat,  but there are unforgettable things. Let me explain this: It’s easy to forgive someone for stabbing me in the arm but an experience like that cannot be forgotten. Even if I forgive him and decide to move on with life, any time I see him the scene replays in my head and also the scar will be a constant reminder of what happened.

Humans are imperfect; we all make mistakes, some are fatal some are not - it's how we deal with them that makes us human.

So if you're struggling to forgive someone or if you're also struggling to forgive yourself, just try to remember that there is something out there waiting for you to forgive and heal.

We are all facing different problems every day, but at least we're learning something from them. If we've learned forgiveness from it - then it's already a huge gain, because forgiveness is best than revenge.

So next time when someone wrongs you, forgive him/her and let your past be your lesson and your strength.

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