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It's another Sunday. A special day for everyone, both the churchgoers and Non-Church goers. I've been privileged to converse with few people that are choristers and workers in their various churches back home. But in school they hardly attend Sunday service talk less of being a worker.

"I'm a Christian because my parents are Christians " is the popular line you'd hear them say.

They are right in some ways, a Muslim brother could have been a Christian if born into a Christian home and a Christian- Muslim if born into an Islam home or even any other religion. But one thing I noticed is that while at home, they attend church services and actively engage in church activities all because they want to please their parents. The true meaning of salvation is lost to them.

The most affected ones are the Minister's children. The devil constantly looks for a way to attack them, hence you see pastor sons and daughters turning into something else while in school. Is it that their parents didn't teach them the right thing? Or should we blame the devil as usual?.

In the Bible, God sent a message to Eli through Samuel. He asked him to speak to his children who were recalcitrant and were doing things that shouldn't be done by someone like them. But did Eli act on it?. No, he said "...he is the Lord, let him do what is good in his eyes" 1 Samuel 3 vs 18. Instead of calling them to order, he chose to remain silent. We all know how it ended for him and his children.

Be your child's best friend

This isn't just to the Christians here. Every parent should try to be close to their children. Be approachable. Don't be the type that your children will be afraid of walking up to when they have one or two challenges. If your child can't seek advice from you, he/she will look for a place to get the advice. And trust me, the advice he receives outside won't be nice at all.

Mothers should be their daughters' confidants and fathers their sons' buddies. Don't be a Lion that cannot be walked up to. And when they tell you things that you find unreasonable or liable to disaster, tell them with love. Chastise them when need be, but be wise with it.

If your 12-year-old daughter says she is planning to go back to her 2nd ex. I'm sure what comes to mind is "The second ex?. How many does she even have?." Your reaction at that stage matters a lot. Do you hit her, slap her and give her some punishment?. If this is what you will do, be rest assured that next time when a 90-year-old man asks her out she won't bother to tell you.

Another reaction can be -you sitting her down and advising her on the danger of the part she's heading. Let her know how disappointed you are, show this with your words, not fist. Words have more effect than fist. I'm not totalling against the act of punishing a disobedient child, but it gets to a stage where punishment birth no changes in a child again.

Pray for them constantly

Prayer is important. Never stop praying for your children. Constantly put them into God's hands, call them and pray for them. It works -Prayer works. Also, teach them how to pray. When things get tough for them in school, instead of joining the public in panicking and indulging in some unpleasant endeavours, they should go on their knees and put everything into God's hands. Don't let them view going to church or being a Christian as a burden. No, let them know how wonderful it is to be.

Conclusion

There is little we can do once our kids are out there in the real world. With their peers and people from different backgrounds. Teach them how to be tolerant and accommodating. How to shine their light wherever they are and how to be a good ambassador of Christ.

Constantly pray for them and check on them. The world we are in today is one filled with various Social vices and peer pressure. A kid with the best behaviour at home can be a monster in school. Monitor them without them feeling caged.

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I could only imagine that parenting is real hard. I only get gist of it from colleagues who are already parents and their kids are barely teenagers. I am a product of praying parents. Prayer plays a vital role at any point in a relationship specially when a parent is just starting to make up for times they were not the ideal parents.

I admire parents who can glide smoothly between being a parent and then being a best friend to their kids.

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3 years ago

Loving God was the parents first to teach. To love God make him the center of all, They'll learn how to love others too.

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3 years ago

That's true that some people are just going to church and actively engage to activities to please their parents or other people, and that's a very sad fact. People should not do it for people but for God only. I agree to everything that you've said. Thanks for sharing. Godbless❤️

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3 years ago

I think it's totally depends on parents what they teach them. Beacuse child learn a lot from theirs home whatever it good or bad

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3 years ago

U welcome @Happyboy. We need to be our children's best friend, so that they can freely open up to us and share things with us. Don't be too hard on them.

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3 years ago

Aswear, you point out what has been baffling me about some students for real. As old as I am, my parent still calls me both early morning or in the night just to know what is going on, what am facing and all other things at the end they will advise and pray for me. All these alone are part of what keeps me to still be on track or else peer pressure will have over power me, thank God for my parent. Parent relationship with their children matters alot

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3 years ago

Sometimes what people say is what they grow knowing from their parent for instance "am a Christian because my parents are Christian" Maybe their parents always tell them you must be Christian because I am a Christian so they go one saying it as well

Anyways it is good to train our children in the ways of God

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3 years ago

I think the main thing the prayer aspect. We should always pray for our children so that the devil will not take over their lives.
Being close to the children and being their best friends actually helps but a child that will be bad will be bad.

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3 years ago

You're right bro, prayer is very important

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3 years ago

That's true. Be their best friend and sometimes parents couldn't believe that their child can do bad things at school or in such behaviour because they weren't like that in the house. Maybe only in school, they can show off the real them because their emotion is suppressed in their own home. That's just sad.

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3 years ago

True, it's when they are alone and free they show their "real self"

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3 years ago

Happy Sunday✌✌, I think ministers children are the most vulnerable because they are always trying to please their parents and the parents never really have time for them. The only time they have is either during devotions or fellowships, the children cant even talk their mind because they are afraid of what there parents will say. When they get to higher institutions you see them doing all sorts of things to get attention they didnt get from there parents.

I think teaching yr child about Jesus is important but being close with them will really go a long way❤❤

Thank you for this article!! Really Good!!

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3 years ago

This is indeed very true. Parents should try to listen, be attentive and be close to their children. It just quite unfortunate that some parents don't do right by their children.

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3 years ago

Parents should teach their child about GOD. For as they grew up they already knew GOD 😘❤ I am christian too. 😘❤

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3 years ago

I'm guilty of not going to church most times in school, and the usual excuse I give is "I'm too tired. Let me use Saturday and Sunday to rest from school stress". I do try to go sometimes, but that's not compared to when I'm at home and I go to church every time

And you're right about the Minister's children, the devil is always in a constant battle with them and some of them actually lose the battle.

Happy Sunday to you bro

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3 years ago

That's my usual excuse during my ND days too😂

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3 years ago

Don't be just good, Act good towards them. Be a role model to them..

God bless you po!😇

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3 years ago

That's true once kids are Out there in school they need assistance not only financially but spiritually by supporting them in prayer.

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3 years ago

Happy Sunday to us all. We should be our children's best friend. It's very easy for them to open up to people who free up with them. Thanks for the update.

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3 years ago

Have a good bond between them! God bless u always

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3 years ago

Having a good bond between parents and children is great. Children will be open to their folks when they sense that their parents are supportive and will always have open communication in between. I always admire parents who are friends with their kids :)

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3 years ago

I love to see it too.

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3 years ago

I agree with you, parents should constantly pray for their children and teach them the way of God

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3 years ago

I'll remember these facts for future purpose if you know you know till then i don't have anything to say

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3 years ago

I know Idk👍😂

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3 years ago

This is so true. This is a great reminder. Parents should always been for their children. Give them a time with happiness. Check them and ask them if you can feel it that there's something wrong. We should teach them also how face the life with a good mindset and there is more on how to show a good decency. Teach them everyday with a random topics that full of learnings.

Have a blessed Sunday HappyBoy..🙏😇

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3 years ago

Children learn bad or good from their environment and especially from their parents. No, matter from which religion they are belonging if they are good in nature and every other thing then you are blessed.

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3 years ago

I wish this message reaches to a lot of parents. As for me, I don't have a problem with my mom. I can share everything to her except love life. She knows I got one. But when she asks about him, I could sense disapproval from her. I asked her what is her problem with him. She won't tell. Maybe she wants me to not have one yet. No one for now would pass her standards.

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3 years ago

Parents don't want to hear their children have a lover. Though it would have been better if they listen and try to advice them. I'm glad to hear you have an healthy relationship with your mum

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3 years ago

This is actually true words can effect deeper than punishment so first try to make them learn through the advice.Try to be the best friends of your children's.

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