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Heal Your Wounds

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Many of us have been through some form of pain over the course of our lives, to experience it is normal. It is how we choose to respond that can make us into a better version of ourselves. It is natural for the pain to stick with us, but it does not mean we have to let it linger.

Went through a breakup? Don’t be the reason it didn’t work out. Breakups happen, whether they are long term relationships or short-lived flings. The reason behind a breakup rarely matters when the story comes to an end. Breakups are a part of life and they always will be. Recognizing this we have to find ways to get past the pain and move on. If you have a goal in mind or are working towards something, use the difficulties you experienced in your past as motivation to succeed. Don’t allow yourself to play victim to an experience that has passed, instead use it as fuel for your future endeavors. Addressing pain in your past will give you clarity moving forward and help you achieve feats you never imagined possible.

Wounds are inevitable. They will happen and the only consolation we have is that they’ll eventually heal. The problem is that some people don’t let those wounds heal. Instead, they choose to let them fester. They allow their past pain to infiltrate their present and eventually become a part of who they are. You see, the problem with allowing your past to define you is that it changes how you see yourself. It deprives you of the good things in life. And before you know it, your past hurts have turned into poisons that prevent you from moving into the future with a clear mind and a full heart. The bottom line is that wounds are not permanent; they’re temporary. All you have to do is focus on your healing and the rest will fall into place. However, if you allow those wounds to become permanent fixtures in your life, then you’ll lose sight of your healing, which might lead to more pain in the future. So instead of holding on to your past pains, release them today and focus on reinventing yourself for your brighter future.

There is no manual to how we are supposed to deal with ourselves when we are hurt because pain is something we all experience differently but at some point in our lives, we’ve all felt it. 

When you’re suffering from pain, it can be debilitating and hard to move forward. When I was younger, I made a lot of mistakes and it cost me dearly in my formative years. But when I look back on that time of my life, I can say I learned the most valuable lesson of all: I needed to live in the present moment. Life is so short that we can never know when our last day will come. It’s important to treasure every moment and live in the now because you never know when you’ll be drawing your last breath. Our lives are like a ripple in a pond. The water ripples out from where we step and hits the shoreline changing the landscape forever but then what happens? The ripple disappears and there is no evidence that it ever existed.

Does the ripple cease to exist? Of course not because it is always rippling even if you can’t see or touch it. Each day we make a ripple in the pond and by living each day to its fullest, we have created a better ripple for tomorrow. Life is about living a good life and creating better days for tomorrow. So don’t allow pain from your past make you suffer today or for tomorrow.

Our brain is hardwired to protect us from pain of our past. The result is we either become too careful or too reckless about the present and the future. We miss out on many opportunities in life by letting the pain control our actions.

The most effective way to heal deeply rooted pain is to neutralize the emotional intensity, then recognize the patterns and finally, reconcile with reality and accept it as a part of our story. You know that pain you feel sometimes? You can see it on people's faces sometimes. A certain kind of pain that you can't even put into words, but you know you feel it. We all do. We've all felt that pain.

Here's how to heal:


Metaphors

It's like a metaphor.

The pain is the ocean and your feelings are the waves that rise and fall upon the surface of the ocean. Waves rise and fall, but deep down in the ocean, there's a stillness.

Write a poem

I mean, don't if you can't (I can't), but if you can, this would be a great time to do it because poetry will heal you within the way no other thing will.

Talk to a therapist.

This is very important. Go talk to one of these people, either in person or over the phone or email or whatever. If you're not old enough to drive or ride a bike or whatever, get your parents to take you or get them to help you set up an appointment so that you can go talk to someone who can help you figure out what the deal with all this is and decide what you want to do next. You don't need to do anything right away, which is good because this is a pretty big deal and you probably need time to think about what you want to do with it–but also don't take forever because therapy will help right away.

Triggers

Figure out what your triggers are and do something about them so you can always turn them off. 

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Pain is something inevitable for almost all of us, but they rate and the way to come to us is just in different ways and dimension from other individuals

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7 months ago

It's like a cyclenof hurting and healing and be hurt again but the difference is the next time you will be in pain you are much more stronger than before, wounds are fresh yet as time goes by it leaves a scar that you found it a proof that you succeed and you heal from that pain.

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7 months ago

There are wounds that are difficult to heal, but we should help our selves because time will not heal it if we don't want to.

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7 months ago

At the end of the day it is all about sucking it up and getting on with it. We may find help from others but it's still up to us how we want to move forward and move on. Yes, take time to grieve about your loses but don't let it rule/ruin your life. Of course it's not easy but we have to do it.

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7 months ago

Wounds are indeed inevitable, self pity will pull us done, taking right steps to heal like you mentioned above will help one better

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7 months ago

Breakups are not end of story, it is start of real life. My cousin once got hurt by relationship and try to commit sucide. I preach same words with same factors you mentioned. Now she is recovered. We should not only heal our wounds ourselves but also develop a habbit to overcome them.

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7 months ago

Yes, many of us need to talk to a therapist but the idea of humans are wicked is making many of them to stay to themselves and is wrong. We shouldn't allow our past to affect our present at all.

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7 months ago

You are right with what you have said we should learn to channel our pain towards the right direction. I don’t know sha but talking to a therapist 😂😂😂is something most African parents would call “waste of money m”

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7 months ago

We shouldn't let the pain to control our actions, our present, and prevent us from moving to our future. We shouldn't let the pain to become a part of who we are. We must use our pain as fuel, which will quickly take us to a brighter future. To heal our wounds, it is really very good to talk to a therapist.

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7 months ago

Wound also had scars, so it's normal that there will always something that remains even we were healed.

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7 months ago

Nice one...so much to that you said that was on point...

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7 months ago

I can honestly relate to this dear, once I accepted the issues and started working on them instead of not facing them and ignoring, I have found a lot of peace lately

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7 months ago

It is just as important to always heal from the inside in any situation we may encounter so as to move on. If we don't let us heal, it would be difficult going forward.

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7 months ago

This is a really nice article. So many helpful and I can say they are all correct. Kudos bro

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7 months ago

Physical pain is sometimes easier to treat. The problem is with the inner pain of the soul. Many people can't get over it and give up. Nice to meet you!

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