Does giving means love?

Misunderstanding gestures is something that has caused a lot of people to make terrible decisions in life, sometimes I wish we could see through people's minds when they try to show us some kind gesture on different occasions.

I have always understood giving to be an act that should come with pure intentions, there definitely shouldn't be any selfish reasons attached but it is not the same anymore in the world today. Most people do things now for fame, rewards, to win people's hearts, and many other wrong reasons. Probably they do not understand what it means to give because the only acceptable form of giving in the sight of God is the one that comes with pure intentions, the book of PROVERBS 11:25 says “A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed".

If you care to know, being generous comes with doing your thing wholeheartedly and anything aside that is not recognized by God.

I took interest in this article after listening to a radio station yesterday, it is a midnight program where they talk about relationships.

A lady called in to share what was bothering her, she said a guy wants to date her and she wasn't sure of what to do because she was somehow falling in love already. In addition to that, she wasn't sure if the guy loves her because it is barely two months since they met.

The program anchor was surprised and he asked her why she was falling in love with the guy in the first place, she said he is kind and gives her things a lot. Immediately I said to myself that this lady must be joking, other callers were calling in to share their opinion and one lady experience who choose to be anonymous said it all.

She said that a guy wooed her for 8 months at University but she didn't give him the green light, he never stopped trying to impress her with gifts. A week won't go without her getting something, it could be food packs, groceries, snacks, cash, or other things. Finally, her friend told her that she could be missing out on a lot of things if she refuse to date the guy.

She eventually agreed and things took a terrible turn for her, the guy stopped this giving act after they have had sex several times. Whenever she asked, he turned her down multiple times in a rude manner, and he came clear that everything he did was to get her but now he is done with her.

She later discovered that he uses those tactics on ladies just to make them think he is kind.

I didn't know if the confused lady who called first was listening anymore but she should have gotten every answer she needed from the lady who shares her experience.

Not all kind gesture comes with pure intention, some devils appear like an angel. They trick their victims and then show their real color after they have accomplished their mission, this doesn't end with relationships only.

A man has been kind to a particular widow, he helps them and one day took advantage of the widow. He was so close to the family and her children feel very comfortable around him and he raped her daughter, he absconded after the act and people blamed the woman for allowing that to happen.

It could have been anyone because these people come into one's life like a true helper but their intention is evil, it is difficult to know their true nature even if we watch closely and the best thing I think can be done is not to get blinded by the things they do and always stay sharp no matter what they promise or have done for you. This does not prevent you from showing appreciation, it should be done wholeheartedly but don't receive those help with your eyes closed because sometimes there are chances of getting to see their intention if we watch closely.

Some people have their eyes open and yet they still always allow people to take advantage of them, you have yourself to be blamed for that.

Politicians are one kind of giver that we shouldn't even allow to get closer to us because their intentions will always be evil, they use their gift to mislead people every election period and it is annoying because people will allow these things to happen to them from time to time.

Jumping into a relationship with someone because they give you things always is a wrong step, being be giver doesn't make a person a lover. The qualities are very different and it's funny when people even push themselves toward someone because they are givers, you do have yourself to be blamed in the end.

Being a receiver of someone's kindness doesn't make you their puppet and only someone with a selfish intention will demand you make them a god or priority in your life.

Some parents expose their kids to strangers just because they assist them with things just like the mother I mentioned above, it is wrong to do say. There should be a limit, restrictions no matter how kind someone is to you. Your kids shouldn't be exposed or be allowed to get too familiar or comfortable with strangers because they have shown any form of kind gesture.

Giving can be an expression of love and at the same time, it can also be a trick to getting an advantage of you. The intention of the giver might not be known but as a receiver, you should be able to have a clear head and mind when an act of kindness is shown towards you.

Until the intentions of the giver are known, you can't declare an act of giving to be love.

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