Would you like to live with your in-laws, in one roof?

Do you have a great relationship with your in-laws? Would you consider living in your in-laws as a good idea? If so, what do you think are the pro's and the con's?

Hi and hello lovelies, it's me again. How's your day so far? I wish your doing good. Today I am actually feeling lazy, I don't know why but I felt sleepy though I slept early last night 🤦. I felt like I don't wanna do anything today, and I really don't like this feeling🙈.

Anyway let's get to my topic for today. This topic might not caught your attention as this is not really interesting, but however I just wanna share my opinion about this certain topic.

So basically here in the Philippines, sometimes living with the in-laws is a cursed 😅. I just said sometimes, because I don't have any intention to generalized this belief. Or thus this a fact? Actually I have heard different stories that living with the in-laws will cause the marriage to fail, and it was because of some uncertain reasons. However there are also some couples who are okay and happily living with their in-laws, because they had a great relationship.

Fortunately in my part I am lucky that I have a good relationship with my partner's parents. But in my own opinion, and honestly speaking, I don't consider that living with my in-laws is a great idea. In a short period of time I learned that living with them, contains a bad disadvantages with our own capability and ability to become a responsible partner to each other. Well, to be honest even to our capabilities as a parent. Living with them makes us weak.

When we were still living with my in-laws, I would admit that I am very dependent to my mother-in-law, and my partner as well. We both never felt the real struggle of being a parent, because his mom is always there to help us. His mom was the one who wash our clothes, supposed my partner should be the one who will do that as it is part of his responsibility. He never experienced to prepare food for me because every time we woke the food is already ready, until my son turned one year old we remains dependent to his mom. I also don't struggle about buying our foods in the market, because his mom do it for us.

That is why when we get separated from them, I honestly suffer with a real stress and anxiety. I felt tired, and every day I always felt exhausted and drained. My patience becomes less and my anger easily gets triggered because of it. Sometimes I even felt that my responsibility is a way heavier than my capacity. I literally felt the bitterness of depression and it ain't a joke. Seriously! There are also time's that I wanna runaway and go back home to my mom. I hate being stocked inside this boring home. I hate hearing my sons nonsense cry and I hate the feeling of being alone. I never felt those emotions and challenges before because his mom is always there to support me.

However I can't tell any advantages of living with them, besides of having a moral and financial support😆.

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In conclusion

Living with our in-laws is good, but living in your own home while building our own family without them is great. It makes us more responsible and mature in our marriage life and responsibilities. We learned to survive by our own and we understands that struggles and challenges is part in the family that you both built.

Anyway I think this is all for today. I don't have so much to say and thank you for reading ❤️.

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