"My man is not my bank account"

I grew up independently, I know how to earn my own money. I work hard, so I can provide my personal needs and specially my wants 😜. So whenever I have worked, I always make sure to save money for the future use.

When we we're still boyfriend and girlfriend with my partner, whenever we go out for a date I prepare to pay my own bill's and he will be paying for his own.(KKB or kanya kanyang bayad kami ganun 😅) I know it's kinda weird, even at first it bothered to my partner. But I let him understand that for me, it's not really a man's responsibility to pay everything in a date, maybe to others it was normal that the guy will pay everything and I respect them, but I have my own point of view too. Maybe you might think about" pride", but on me, it's not about pride. It's about being practical? I also don't feel comfortable that someone will spend his money for my want's and even in our dates. I don't know, but I don't feel good with that pattern. Somehow, sometimes we also have a give and take. Because as we all know, not at all times we have money. Sometimes we also got broke and it's normal, I think?

When we plan to live in one roof, I really prepare for it and saved some money. Because I thought for the possible things that may happen when we live together. And pregnancy is totally in my list. So I started minimizing my spend, so I can be able save. If ever I get pregnant, I don't need to asked money from my partner. It's not really because I don't want him to spend money for me, I just don't want to be his biggest concern. I don't want him to have a problem, because of me.

Saving money is totally important, that's what I have learned from my parents, specially for emergency use. So I always save, even in a small amount.

Last year, (even until today) Covid-19 hits the whole world and it's really a big crisis to all of us, even in our government. Good thing I have save money for my own expenses and I save money for my family too in the province. Before the government implemented the total locked down, I already have money in my own pocket. So when I found out that I'm pregnant, the only thing that worries me was the unseen enemy, which is the virus. I do not worry about the expenses for my pregnancy because I have money, but the virus is unseen and that's scares me a lot. When the whole city was under total locked down, my partner loses his job too, everyone loses its job. So we all don't have any choice but to spend the money that we have saved.

From my check ups, vitamins and even in my food cravings, I spend my own money. And that was reasonable because during that time my partner has no job. He have his new job after two months and because his duty is not continues, his salary is not enough. So I help him with our expenses using my savings. For one week he have a straight duty then he will take a rest, so the other workers can duty too.

From that day I don't let him worry about my pregnancy. I don't ask his money for anything, I let him handle his salary so he won't feel stressed, that's how much I love him, chaarrr 😂😜. Sometimes he will ask me if I still have money, and to take his worries away, I look for another way, to earn extra money . And as I have said in my article Behind with my determination, I open a sari sari store and I sell some products online so I can earn extra money that can help me, to not lose all my savings. I just stopped selling when I found it hard to continue because of my pregnancy conditions.

I took this money out from my bamboo shoots bank 😂. Actually this savings is for the Christmas but since it's pandemic, we prepare to use it for our babies stuff. My partner is really lucky to have me charot 😂😜.

My hospital bill when I give birth was deducted from my insurance and the other expenses was from my savings too. The whole year of 2020 is very smooth to us. Thanks to God.

Four months after I give birth, and since I still have money, I used it for another business. I started retailing e-load . The earnings is not that big, but from that small earnings I can still help my partner in some of our expenses, specially in my own needs, he also don't need to provide it for me. Luckily I also found noise.cash and just recently this month of September I found this beautiful platform of read.cash, so when our son celebrated his first birthday, most of the expenses is from my own earnings. But I'm also earning in a survey app.

Since then, I don't ask my partner's money for my needs. I let him handle and manage his own money. He was also the one who's buying our daily needs and even for our groceries, specially that I can't go out because of our son. Sometimes I give him money, to help him too with our expenses.

Isn't he lucky to have me😂? charot lang 😂😂😂

I think I will end this article from here. Thank you 😊.

November 13,2021 23:10

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