"Long distance relationship (LDR)again?"

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Blog#181:15 March 16,2022

It's been awhile since my partner started to look for a trusted agency as he really wanted to go back to work abroad. He had attended lots of interviews online from different agencies, but because of the low salary rates he always declined the offer . Sometimes we can even thought that some employers are taking advantage with the current situation, as they know that lots of people have lost their job and for now they can't have any choice but to accept the offer, which is really sad. And now the gas price keeps on raising, and since my partner's work is being a grab driver it is really affecting his earnings so he had no choice but to pursue the previous plan.

Honestly our plans was we will be leaving together after our son turned one year old, but since our budget was tight this time, we decided to let him go first then once he started receiving his salary he will support my expenses for my requirements so I can also go back to work abroad again.

This plan is not to let our son live alone, and made him feel lonely this is for the better. Life is tough and it's getting harder, we need to sacrifice. We will be working together for his future, as we don't want him to have a hard life. My partner really wanted to send our son to a good school and so do I, so we will be working so hard for him.

As a parent we wanted him to have a good future, and we also need to prepare for our retirement. We don't have any plan to put some pressure to our son once we get older, that is why we need to be financially stable before we get older. We don't want to bother our son, I mean we don't want to be his burden in the future. Our son is not our investment so we will also be working for our own future. Of course he can help us if he wanted too 😊, but we won't expect about it that much.

So yesterday, my partner had a phone call, an overseas phone call to be exact, as an employer call him for interview. After, for about 20-25 minutes I guess, he finally closed the deal. Actually the salary didn't meet his expectation, as for his skills the salary is quite cheap but he then just accept the offer as he really wanted to work. Besides this time the salary is much better than the other offer that he got from his previous interviews.

We choose to work abroad because sad to say the salary here in our country (Philippines) isn't that big enough to support our monthly bills and daily expenses so we have to do some sacrifices.

He will wait for a call from the agency for his requirements and after that, he will be leaving us.

Being in a Long Distance Relationship is hard. I don't actually know if everything will be okay. When we we're still boyfriend and girlfriend we use to block each other in Facebook and messenger as we always have a fight due to misunderstanding. In four years I actually didn't expect that we can still be together and have a child as we use to break up for so many times 😅. However I trusted him a lot, despite with the never ending fights that we had, he never betray me. Hopefully this time, he stays the same, I mean being loyal. Our fight's might be so tiring but my heart never get tired of loving him.

Furthermore I feel sad for our son, I know at his age he don't need anything but our love and protection but I know one day he will do understand.

Right now I wanted to cherish this moment that were still together, i mean the three of us. I will surely miss our family time and I will surely miss him and for sure our son too. Everyday whenever our son hear the sound of the motorcycle engine he always says "PAPA", even if it's not his Papa who came, he is always excited to see his papa. Oh it's breaking my heart 🥺. I suddenly felt so sad for my little one.

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Long distance relationships can be hard but if it last long, I mean if the feelings and thiughts are real then it can be enjiyable a lot. Many dreams borms in the hearts because of being in long distance and when they meets together there happiness grows a lot and the faces brings smiles a lot.

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2 years ago

Thank God you said he remained faithful when you guy were dating. To be sincere, there are still men that won't cheat even if they go far from their homes. My current boss is such, I always respect him for his way of life despite being in the midst of guys that humanizes.

Don't worry dear, things will go well and within a short time (shorter than you expected), he would come and take you & your son.

Nice meeting you again dear friend 🥰

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2 years ago

Wahhhh, nakakasad man but for sure it's for your families future. Everything will be fine

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2 years ago

That's the reason why some are leaving and went to other country just to find higher income. But for the son, it really makes him lonely. At that age, he needs parents in his both sides.

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2 years ago

Distance doesn't matter in a relationship. So far the two partners love each other. And as for your own case, there is nothing to worry about. A child is between you already, either of you will not want to leave your son.

I believe everything will be okay

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2 years ago

Indeed, everything's will work out perfectly. anyway it's nice to meet you. I looked forward to know you from your article.😊

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2 years ago

Nice toeet you too. I was told you are one of the great writers on this platform 🥰

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2 years ago

Sad to say wages here in our country doesn't meet our needs and wants that why some of the Filipino people force to move to other countries cause they offers practical salary that could sustain their family.

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2 years ago

I know that your son will understand the sacrifices you'll do, it's his for own betterment and life is so hard that leads to people no having options but to go abroad and work to sustain life of family. Keep yourself strong ate, it's not easy to work abroad cause home sickness really hits Filipinos abroad, the feeling that you wanna hug your family but your thousands of kilometers away from them.

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2 years ago

Truth,it ain't easy but we've been there already, so i think the adjustment won't be so difficult.

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2 years ago

Many people think long distance relationship don't last longer but they are wrong...each of them have respect,love, affection for each other's more....even attraction remains always like the same

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2 years ago

That's true..you both just need to trust each other.

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2 years ago

Kaya yan sis, tiwala lang kai god, makamit nyo rin ang gusto nyo sah Buhay.

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2 years ago

Kakayanin sis..para sa anak 😊 thank you.

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2 years ago

Kaya nga sis ehh, just pray lang sis.

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2 years ago

Your husband is going for the good of the family. Don't worry when you stay apart the bond between both of you will get more strong. Everything will be fine my friend

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2 years ago

Yeah, I do believe that too.. thank you.

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2 years ago

Hayysssttt yan talaga sis mahirap. Yung we left no choice but to choose what's make our living better especially that we have kids that depends on us. Kahit mahirap ay susuungin natin dahil were actually facing crisis nowadays na syang sobrang nagpapahirap sa atin.

Anyways, godbless sa inyo sis.

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2 years ago

Exactly sis, ayaw man nating umalis,pero wala eh, walang ibang choice

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2 years ago

Totoo yan sis, we always ended up with no choice kaya't wala tayong magagawa na kahit mahirap go nalang tayo

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2 years ago

Communication,being committed and trust are some of the things needed in a long distance relationship yes it will be hard, there will be ups and downs, fights, missing each other and in need of emotional support but when this three qualities are put into practice long distance relationships can work and congratulations to your partner for a wonderful job secure hope the pay (salary) increases over time

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2 years ago

That's true, if both of you fight for your relationship things will be better.

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2 years ago

I personally don't like Long distance relationship. But whatever the relationship, love is important.

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2 years ago

I understand, not all people like LDR as it is fall of hardiness and misunderstanding.

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2 years ago

Well mahirap po yung LDR relationship nyo pero kung para naman po sa mas ikakaganda ng buhay nyo at anak nyo kaya gustong gusto po ng asawa nyo mag work abroad. Ang hirap po kasi dito satin sa Pilipinas pataas ng pataas ang mga bilihin at mga bayarin pero ang baba ng mga sahod.

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2 years ago

Truth, bilihin lng ung tumataas hindi ang sahod kaya nakakalungkot talaga.

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2 years ago

I'm done with LDR. Trust issues are facts dear.

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2 years ago

It won't be if the two of you would trust each other. Our fight's is actually not about trust, but just an ordinary quarrels of being in a long distance relationship.

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2 years ago

So true, that is why my husband decides to work abroad. To build our home,because if just a salary here in PH, we can't buy even a roof😂. Or we could after years of working

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2 years ago

The sad reality sis..hirap talaga ang buhay dito sa pinas, mataas mga bilihin pero yung sahod ang liit.

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2 years ago

Oo ako nga kahit above minimum sahod, may staff house parang kulang pa din ang sinasahod. Mga isang anak lng kaya ko buhayin, tipid pa

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2 years ago

Dear Garreth, I was upset to find out that your husband was going a long way. It will be very difficult. But I know you both can handle this. And your son will appreciate your efforts in the future. Now that your husband wants to go, you can not go to your mother's city?

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2 years ago

Thank you dear.. however he don't want us to go back to my province.

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2 years ago

Oh my goodness . Don't feel sad mam cause everything happened for a reason and the sadden experience is the greatest lesson

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2 years ago

I believe you two will find what works best in order to sustain the relationship. Although, it may be difficult, but with time, it will all be alright

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2 years ago

Looking forward to it my friend, thank you.

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2 years ago

Communication is the best part for long distance relationship as well as trust for each other

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2 years ago

That's true, right communication makes the relationship works.

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2 years ago

I think he ( your husband) made the right choice so he can feed you and the little child at hand. I hope you will always call him so that he won’t feel he’s alone over there.

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2 years ago

Yes my friend, i will and thank you.

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2 years ago

Long distance relationship is the best to me because there would respect for each other as long as there is trust and commitement, just that there nothing that have advantage and no disadvantage is dangerous at times because some people see it as opportunity to cheat.

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2 years ago

That was the downside of being in a long distance relationship.

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2 years ago

Sa una lang naman sis mahirap pero pag dating ng panahon masasanay din,marami naman pqraan nonparametric kayo makita andiyan qng video call basta magandang cumunication ang lqhat malalampasan at para din nan yon sa ikabubuti nyo lahat

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2 years ago

Truth sis, kaya tiis tiis nalang muna.

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2 years ago

Sometimes LDR is so hard for us. But if there is lot of trust,love and care its really okay. We need to take hard decision for our good future life my friend. Hopefully your husband will do good in abroad. God bless both of you.

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2 years ago

Thank you my friend, LDR is actually hard and challenging and so you have to trust one another to let your relationship work.

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2 years ago

Tama ka sis. Kailangan talaga maghanapbuhay khit sa malayo pra lang matustusan lahat ng importante ay gusto sa anak natin. Ung tipong ibibigay lahat basta meron lang. Khit mahirap at nakakamiss pero gagawin natin yan pra sa anak natin. I know your son will understand soon someday. Laban lang tayo jan sis. Hehe☺️

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2 years ago

Truth sis, laban lang. Need talaga nating magsakripisyo para sa anak.

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2 years ago

Yan talaga reason sis nuh yung salary rate dito sa country natin kaya daming pumupunta sa ibang bansa for work. I know maiintindihan din ng son mo sis. Cherish muna ang time ngayon na kasama mo family mo sis. Ang hirap talaga ang LDR sis pero walang mahirap basta may trust sa isa't isa sis.

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2 years ago

Exactly, full trust ang kailangan at wag masyadong overthinking at mapaghinala kasi Jan nagsisimula ang conflicts.

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2 years ago

Totoo sis kaya trust lang always. Hindi pwedeng mawala yan.

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