Blog # 94 Garrethgrey07

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This blog is just my own observations and opinions about what i have seen and observe. Your opinion and views was still appreciated and respected.

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Anyway, since then I always keep in mind that I should treat my family first before I treat others. Of course I should bring happiness to them first before I give happiness to others as they are my main source of my motivation and hard-works. So far I haven't failed to do that. I even give them more than enough and of course I share to make other people happy. Sharing is caring.

But unfortunately, they we're also some people who do opposite. Maybe because they feel neglected by their own family, and stranger's show them the real family treatment. They felt love, appreciated and cared by strangers, so they choose to give them happiness as they're way of paying back. This scenario "sometimes", as I'm not gonna say it in general, are common in some family. Luckily I didn't felt that way, so I cannot blame them by that.

Somehow, they were also some people who choose to impress others, because they just wanted to show off. They wanted to let people think that they are really kind and a giver. And those are so annoying as they are fake.

I have this sister-in-law, who always do that and that really annoyed me. She was my older brother's wife. Actually she was nice, but not to my family. Last year I visited my mom in our province, that was last February 2020. The lockdown haven't been implemented, so I got a chance to travel and go home. I still don't know that I'm already pregnant during that time. I bring some presents to them, including imported Chocolates that I bought in Hong Kong. When I arrive home, I give my present to them the next day, as I feel tired with my whole day trip. I give some chocolates to my brother. I give them a lot of chocolates, because my brother has three childrens, and they are my favourite niece and nephews. I told to his wife that those chocolates are for them, specially to their children's. But then the next day my nephew's and niece came to our house to visit me. They arrive after lunch and since that time my sister's children's are at home they saw that their cousins are eating some chocolates. My niece came to me and asked some chocolates, as she says they still haven't taste my chocolates. I got confused as I know that I give them many, just yesterday. So I asked my niece why their mom didn't give them chocolates. According to her, her mom give the chocolates to her teachers and nothing was left for them. And her mom told them to come to our house to ask some more chocolate. I was so annoyed and disappointed to my sister-in-law. Those chocolates are for my niece's and she just give them all to other people. I heard from my mom that my sister-in-law is always like that. Whenever I give something to them, she always shared it to others. Actually that was fine, as i also love to share. But, if you gonna give all and nothing was left for my niece's, then for me it's not okay. Even the shoes that i bought for my niece, she even gave it to someone, i don't know as a present. I was disappointed as the shoes was my present to my niece, as my niece is also my goddaughter, and I haven't seen that my niece wear the shoes. I confronted her, and her reason was the shoes is too small to my niece so she decided to gave it to others. Actually, she can just sell the shoes and she will use the money to bought a new shoes to her daughter, but it didn't happen.

I didn't hold any grudge, i just remember it, because my mother-in-law is disappointed with her own sister with the same scenario. Tonight when she arrived from her work, she shared to me how disappointed she was to her sister, because it didn't accept her favour. My mother-in-law's sister bakes a cake for sale. And last Sunday she asked her sister if she can bake a cake for her grandchild, as it is celebrating her first birthday. She told to her sister that she will pay the cake once she received her salary, but her sister answered her with a lot of alibi. So my mother-in-law just believe in her and trust her as it was her sister. But this afternoon she received a text from her daughter, that her aunt give some cake to it's friends last Sunday for free. I know that her daughter was also disappointed to her aunt, but i think she don't need to report to her mom about what she heard. As it would only bring negative impact to their sisterhood, but it was done and said already. My mother-in-law is now disappointed to her own sister.

Closing thoughts;

For me it was fine to share, it was fine to give happiness to others, but you should learn how to balance everything. Before you impress other people, impress first your own family, as they are the real person who truly cares and appreciate you. But it is also depend upon the situation, as what I have said, there's still some reason behind action that a person do. Family is a family and of course we must share too.

I hope you get what I mean from this blog😅.

Thank you for reading.

December 14,2021 22:18

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https://www.thebalance.com/who-s-considered-immediate-family-4588633