So basically, at first we won't understand how kindness become toxic as we all know, kindness is good. Well unfortunately, sometimes it becomes toxic too, specially if it's already controling the person.

One of the good example for this is our own parents. Our very kind and sweet loving parents, but I'm not talking this in generally because there are also some parents who are kind and sweet but at the same time strict, as they would never tolerate our bad habits. But somehow, there are also some parents who becomes slave by their own kindness and by their so much love to their children's. Because they love us so much and they want us to be happy, they always make sure that we can have everything that we want even if we keep asking for that thing a million times already. And also because they love us so much, they eventually tolerate our bad habits/behaviour. Because of that kind of tolerance, the child becomes spoiled brat as he/she grows. Oh I'm sorry about that brat word😅, but sometimes it's true.

I tell you a very short story.

One time, my partner and I visited his longtime friend in his house. In his house he is with his wife and kids. As a first impression, I can tell that the wife is very kind, the way it approaches us. When we enter their house we meet their three childrens, 9, 7 and 3, which is two boys and one girl. At first the kids are behave, the two kids are doing their school work's while the youngest is also doing some colouring, I was impressed. When my partner and his friend become busy talking, the youngest son suddenly kick his sister and because it hurts to the other one so she did the same thing, until they continue kicking each other and eventually the youngest son cry. Because of that their mom came and scold her daughter by what she did. The daughter try to explain her side but her mom scold her for doing that, she says that she was the oldest so she would never try to fight with her younger brother. While their mom is scolding her daughter, this younger brother keep on teasing his sister because it gets scolded. I thought their mom would also stop her son because for me it's wrong, but even she saw whats her son doing, it looks like for her it doesn't matter because it's still her little baby. I feel bad for the daughter because of how their mom treat them unequally.

I thought the commotion won't happen again, but suddenly the younger son provoke again the patience of his sister. It suddenly stand up from the coach and came to his sister and grab it's hair and he pulled it very hard. At that time I thought their mom would discipline her son, because of what he do, but I was misbelief that it only laugh as her son is also laughing while dragging it's sister's hair. Since it's hurting to the kid it cried so hard, so their father came and get mad to his son because of its behaviour, he took his son and punish him for what he did. I thought the mother wouldn't mind because what their son did is actually bad, but she also gets mad to her husband because for her, their son is just playing.

In my thoughts, I was really disappointed for the wife. I know she only love her children but tolerating it's bad behaviour is very wrong. She even says that it's only a kid so why gets mad? I wanted to shake my head but I can't 😅.

Our children's behaviour is actually our own shadow, every steps and actions they make would also reflects to us parents. The way they behave was the result of how we teaches them. Before the kids learn in school they must first learn inside it's home.

As a mom, I am also worried about my son's behaviour too, specially that his grandma is tolerating every thing that he wants. There are actually times that even though he was already behaving bad, his grandma just found it cute and it's annoying for me 🙄.

Just like last night, I was busy washing the dishes when I hear my son's laughter, he was enjoying playing with his mommyla(grandma). I thought he was just enjoying blowing up some air as he was trying to copy his grandma when she sneeze, but eventually I heard his mommyla saying that her face is already full of saliva, while laughing. I shook my head and came to stop my son, as I don't want him to think that what he is doing is funny.

It is really important to discipline our kids and teach them to have a good manners from us. It is really important to teach them at their early age so they won't grow with bad behaviour.

Anyway I'm not an expert, I know 😂, and my son is still a toddler. But even if my son is just one year old, I already started to discipline him. I love my son very much but I don't allow him to abuse my love and kindness to him.

I wouldn't say that my son is most behave because honestly he was very hyper and he's a little stubborn too. Well, I think it's normal at his age, but I still don't want to tolerate it, as I don't want him to grow stubborn like me 😅.

Message:

Hello my dear read.cash family, how are you? I hope you are all good and safe.

Actually this is my entry for yesterday but I was very tired and I can't help not to fall asleep while typing. When I woke up it's already 4:30 a.m 😅. I miss five articles already, so bad 😅, hopefully next time I can write an article everyday just like before.

This is all for today guy's, thank you for reading ❤️.

January 25,2022 Blog#128 no. 20

Lead image source: Unsplash.com