Just yesterday night, my brother was watching a video of couples sharing their testimony in a church programme. The video was on Facebook, I was just hearing what they were saying and it caught my attention and I had to go listen to it too.

The man was saying her wife was giving her a tough time in the marriage as a result of how her mother was treated by her dad while she was growing up. Her dad was always maltreating her mom and because of this, she determined that she will never allow any man to do that to her. She concluded in her heart that she won't allow any man to treat her the way he likes or have his way with her and truly after their marriage, she begins to act like the head of the house.

She was always proving that she is right in every situation even when it was obvious to her that she is wrong but she won't admit it at all. All this happened until when the husband started praying for her and God arrested her mind and the rest is history now.

To the point where I am heading to;

Many of us are like this lady, just because we are maltreated or bullied by someone, we will now decide in our hearts to stay wicked and also act like that to our fellow humans.

I want you to understand that, you might not really determine to stay wicked but in the process of having that determination of not letting anyone else to treat you just like the first person did and the in the process, we become just exactly like our offender.

One thing is to stay avoid being maltreated by any other person and another thing is to become like them while trying to avoid repetition. I don't really know how to do justice to this topic but I hope you all understand what I am trying to say.

Some ladies begin to see guys as snakes that should be killed immediately after being raped by someone. That act of you wanting to retaliate back for every guy coming your way shows that you have become your offender which is very bad and wrong. Just like the lady at the beginning did to her husband because of what he saw her dad do to her mother, she was nothing different from her dad after portraying that rude behaviour. She immediately became like her offender after determining in her mind that she won't submit to any man in her life.

I am pleading with everyone that is a victim of maltreatment or bullying or any sort of treatment that is against your comfort, don't determine to hurt anyone as a means of retaliation or don't behave as to avoid it and in the process, you are beginning to be like the person who hurt you.

Never be like your offender.

I think I have tried explaining myself the best way I can with this topic. Thanks for reading, don't forget to thumb it up if you like what you read.

Bye for now 🥰🥰🥰.