Choosing a mentor

We all want to be something or somebody in life, and there is this popular saying, "There is nothing new under the sun" yes, that is true. There is nothing new under the sun, so whatever you want to be, someone has already become that thing, be it a musician, a doctor, a farmer, a mother or father, a writer, an architect, and many more like that.

If you really want to achieve that greater height you have set before yourself, you need someone to guild you, or a systematic step to follow, probably someone that has gotten there before, so you just have to follow that person's steps, if you do that, it means you've to emulate the person and study the individual lifestyle, in doing so, the person is your mentor, either directly or indirectly.

Direct and Indirect mentor

• Direct mentor: This is a person an individual work up to, to learn directly from by requesting mentorship from such an individual. You might want to be a pastor or doctor because you admire them and their lifestyle, the direct mentors can be walked up to ask for mentorship training, these mentors will put you through and help you out when you make mistake. Those under direct mentorship tend to attain their goals fasters than those under indirect mentorship because they can be corrected when they make mistakes and when they need help, the help can be rendered.

• Indirect mentor: A lot of people are not privileged to meet the person they want to emulate or learn from One on one, or face to face, in this way, they learn from their mentors' online pages, books, videos, and many more, they hardly meet these mentors one on one because of the mentor busy schedules, most of these mentors don't even know they have people learning from them. Some people would pick a man like Bill Gates as a mentor because of his successful life, meanwhile, Bill Gates doesn't know them, another thing is that, when they make mistakes, their mentors are not always there to help or correct them. Another thing is that they learn more about their mentors from books and videos which is faster, their mentor can be with them all day.

Good and Bad mentor

It's not a surprise anymore that people have decided to emulate the bad things they see on TV or in the communities, from the age of 7 or lesser, a child should have known the difference between good and bad, but parents still have to put them in the right way.

Some people are just a bad influence on the communities, some are musicians, some are fathers, some are elderly ones, celebrities, and many more. Youth nowadays are just so ready to copy the wrong thing, and they would pick people with terrible lifestyles as a mentor, copy the bad things they do, and say their mentor does it and he is successful, people even pick drug lords and thieves as a mentor.

The same way we have a bad mentor is also the same way we gave a good mentor, you would want to choose mentors like Tony Elumelu, @MarcDeMesel Femi Otedola, for writers, there are many mentors here you can emulate and learn a lot from if I should mention, the list will be so long.

Choosing a mentor

If I'm gonna choose a mentor or emulate anyone as a father, it would be my dad because he had brought me up in the right way, I never suffered while under his roof, I have never seen him hit my mom since I was birth to this wonderful world, the only thing I have to do is to be better then him.

Before you choose a mentor, you have to watch out for those that can be emulated and you would want to be like them or better, see the way they do their things, and emulate good things and not the bad ones. Always be ready to push yourself forward, for when you have a mentor, your goals arrive faster.

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