Simple Gesture To Know If You're Dating A Gentleman

It's always a must that a woman should date a gentleman, gentle enough to handle her even on her dramatic days. I've been with my future husband for eleven years, I dated him when I was 18 years old. Prior in meeting him, I've already encountered different men so I can asses the difference between dating a gentleman and an asshole.

I started flirting when I was 15 years old, I had my first kiss on that age. I flirt so young and early because why not? Haha! Kidding aside, I don't regret flirting at early age as I got to know what characteristics of men should I consider dating seriously and not. I don't encourage minors to date early, just do it when you're up to and you are already aware of what you are doing to avoid harming yourself in the later part.

Simple gestures to know you're dating a gentleman

For inexperienced woman knowing who are gentleman and not when dating is hard, so I'll give you some insights to know if you're dating a gentleman or not based on my experiences and observation.

A guy who don't joke around in first encounter especially on your physical attributes with friends

There are men who are very “presko” or feeling cool kid even on the first encounter, who cracks jokes around with the circles on you or with other people around. Typical gentleman are usually quite and just observing his surrounding's, they don't chat a lot.

I've met several men who acts like being the center of attraction and cracking lousy jokes just to get attention. It's not gentleman's characteristics.

A guy who will cover his woman's head first when it's sunny or when there's a little rain

If you watch Korean or Chinese dramas usually male leads do this stuff, that is why many women are fascinating their dramas because their male leads characteristics are always ideal and gentlemen.

This is just a very simple gestures but is very sweet and romantic, not just that it'll show that a man really cares for his woman as he cares for her health and prioritize her than himself.

Among the men I've been with, I only experience this with my man future husband. Even until now that we're already together for long years, he still do this whenever it's too hot and we didn't bring any umbrella he'll try to cover my head with something he got enough that can cover me from the heat or from the little rain drops.

A guy who will let you walk in the safest lane when you are walking together in a street

My partner always do this, whenever we walk on a street he will always lead me on the safest side of the road so he can protect me when there's any road accident or whatever.

A gentleman will always prioritize his woman's safety, if your man don't bother about this stuff..you should start thinking if he really cares about you and your safety.

A guy who is protective when it comes to your safety

Another thing about gentleman prioritizing his woman safety is that when you are walking together and there are some animals approaching or other men, he'll place her on the safest side enough for him to protect her.

My partner used to do this when we are about to encounter other men ahead, he'll let me walk on the other side. Sometimes when there are dogs in the street he'll also let me walk on the safest side, even if I am not afraid of dogs. He knows that I am not afraid of dogs but he'll still do that, maybe he's thinking what if there are aggressive dogs that will attack at least he can protect me.

A guy who will help you carry heavy stuff

A gentleman will never let his woman carry heavy stuff or let her struggle, well most of the men do this so this isn't new but it's still sweet for boyfriend and girlfriend.

A guy who will never make you feel intimidated, outcast or out of place

There are men who doesn't like their woman to mingle with other people, who doesn't let her talk with her friends or with their circles. Obviously it's not a gentleman's style, a gentleman will never let his woman intimidated, outcast or out of place when they are in the crowd.

He'll always make sure you are at ease with him and is fine along with the crowd. Especially, a gentleman will never shame you in front of other people and does not command his woman like his slave but treat her nice as if she was a gem.

If your boyfriend keeps commanding you to do this and that in front of his friends, family and colleagues instead if letting you joined them.. it's a red flag, he's not gentleman and is not into you. A gentleman will always treat you better with or without other people around.

A guy who will respect and does not insult you

Last but not the least, a guy who will respect and accept you for who you are. A gentleman will never mistreat a woman regardless of her background, how she looks and etc.

There are men who will based their respect on woman's status, or based on how they dress up.

Or if you are just newly dating and he brings you on the dark places to touch you, it's a red flag. Or a man who is very touchy of your body, it's not gentleman's style. It only shows he only after your body and not you.

A guy who does not insult you for your imperfections. There are guys that always sugarcoats but most likely they're the ones who are very insulting when they lose their interest in you.

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