Immaturity

I have written about “Maturity” yesterday, I received compelling feedback from the readers without expectations so I think I have to write the opposite which is the “immaturity”. If we aim to be mature at a certain level it is important to determine some keys of immaturity, so we will have some guides on what to change or make our negative side into a positive one.

As I have said maturity isn't measured by age, we cannot be mature in an instant whenever we wanted to. It takes a lot of time, especially changing the things or the attitude we used to. Experiences and responsibilities can help an individual to develop maturity, we are constantly changing and adapting things around us in our ways. Determining some traits of immaturity we have will help us grow and develop to reach a certain level of maturity.

Signs of Immaturity

Not responsible for your actions

• If you are irresponsible in your actions then you are probably immature. Being coward to face the consequences of your actions means you are not yet responsible, being responsible is maturity.

The need to be the center of attention

• Immature people are always hungry for attention, they are mostly attention seeker. They like to be in the spotlight always, and when somebody got that spot from they will probably hate the other one then find ways to eliminate them. It's like the title is for them and nobody should take it away. This is probably because they lack the attention they need from home, so they are seeking it in other circles.

Do not admit that you're wrong

• To mature people, it's easy for them to admit that they are wrong, it's because they set aside their ego and admit that they are not perfect, that human is inevitable to commit mistakes. But for immature people, it's hard for them to accept or admit that they were wrong because they care too much for their ego, they are self-centered that made them hard to admit their mistakes.

Irresponsible spending habits

• Mature people are not materialistic, they are more practical. Always comes first the needs before wants. While immature people are materialistic, they buy things that aren't necessary just to brag. The worst case is that sometimes they choose to buy their wants than their needs then end up having a debt to buy their needs, they are not practical but just living their illusionary lifestyle.

Not aware of how you affect others.

• Immature people are tackless, they don't think about the words before they spit it out. They don't think about how it can affect others, speaking foul words and insulting their peer is their habit thinking they were a cool kid by doing so. Mature people are always considerate to other people, they will strive hard to maintain their manner not to be rude even in the most irritating situation.

Name Calling others

• Immature people like to curse and talk shits to other people, speaking foul words below the belt. You can see a lot of this scenario on social media fights, name-calling their opponents is one of their strategies to irritate them and win the battle but it was never cool and appealing to mature people yet appealing to immature ones.

Enjoy aggravating others

• This is where bullying resides, bully people are immature who loves to aggravate other people while bullying. They are enjoying seeing somebody suffers from them, they are sick in mind, immaturity at its finest. As I have said mature people are considerate don't like to harm anybody.

Oversharing your life on social Media

• Immature people keep on sharing their stuff on social media even the tiniest details of their daily routines. Worst is they are exposing their problems and personal affairs to it, without thinking they make themselves as laughing stuff in public, because nobody cares. Some people will give a fake console but deep inside they are laughing. Mature people do not do that, they are reserved and like to have privacy in their personal lives.

The urged to be an “Alpha”

• Immature people crave superiority, they like being bowed at. They will do everything at cost just to let naive people bowed at them to aim superiority. If you are mature enough you don't have to aim for superiority but likes the treatment of being equal.

Overreacting on criticism

• No matter what we do society will always have something to criticize us, immature people usually got involved in fights because they don't take criticism well. They are not open-minded to accept critics. Mature people have developed the attitude of sportsmanship in every aspect of their life, they are aware that not everyone has the same opinions. They will respect it and respond to it neutrally not violently as immature people do.

The feeling of being entitled to someone's affection

• Affection should be given freely not being forced, but some narrow-minded people feel like they are entitled to someone's affection. They forced someone to like and love them the way they do, that is not supposed to be forced. Mature people the know-how to let go of the things that are not meant for them, especially when it comes to loving someone they are willing to sacrifice their sake not to force anyone.

Always engage in fights and picking

• Immature people always engage in fights because they lack a deep kind of understanding, instead of finding ways to amend they will go for a fight.

Being a sore loser

• Immature people are having a hard time accepting defeat, instead of taking it as a challenge to do more better next time they will find faults in the winner and spread rumors that they won because they cheated or another way around.

Dismissing others feelings

• Immature people invalidate others' feelings thinking it was just an act or something without considering the real deal. (I have done this way back in a user here, but I was sorry after realizing my mistake. You know who you are, hihi peace out.)

Being too aggressive or passive-aggressiveness

• Immature people are very impulsive in actions, they act without thinking first about what will be the outcome after they act. That made them too aggressive, they don't calm down first just like mature people do. Calm people are not aggressive, they are neutral and have control over themselves.

Disclaimer: This was just based on my experience and observations, you can share your own opinion regarding this.

All of us are immature in some ways from time to time especially when we are still in the progress of developing maturity, but realizing your immature traits then try to make some change is also an indication that we are in progress. We do not mature right away, mostly it happens due to circumstances we are facing.