Trauma: How to understand others' if we don’t feel the same?.

Horror, when we hear about others life or share our own with others why does it feel like we only speak of the good, the fantasy and the reluctant success. Never had we shared to the public once a horror that was chasing us in the middle of the night. The sleeping time where we are about to rest yet some people cannot when we must relax while other people suffer. It's so normal and natural that we all have fear, but others it's too much to care about.

Living in this world, we face so many things, we meet several people, and at that time we realize that we all lived differently, born in a district and having strength and weakness that leads us to question equality. Why are we born weak, others are strong, why do we live poor, others are rich, others and more.

I just finished a book titled ‘Edge of the water’. The story began with one little child that is afraid of the water. When they crossed the ponds and anybody of water her mother always reminded her to close her eyes, never see the clear crystal type that was shining as the sun reflected it. That’s how they made us, clearly, not everyone loved to see the beautiful colour of the ocean, the scene where we witnessed the sun dawn beneath the sea.

Well, it's fiction in a book, but really there are people who are afraid of water.  How can we understand the nightmare they had when they just say they think they will be swallowed by a big fish or they feel like they will be a hurricane inside the water that will vacuum them somewhere or a black hole that will abduct them and nowhere to be found. It's hard to look at but people just make fun of them, because we had different thinking toward the picture, we give them the judgment of being paranoid, we give them an instance of delusion.

I met one person who was afraid of riding a motorcycle. In my elementary days, I really admired this person because he was smart and always took first place in honour. But the weakness of riding cars made him forget his dreams,  after graduating elementary, he chooses not to take High school because he needs to ride service afterwards.

I was curious why he didn't want to ride, what was the feeling inside him that triggered him to stop doing what he didn't like. It's that he thinks that riding cars will just lead him to an accident?. That’s when the engine started he will panic and wanted to jump because he feels like the car will break into pieces or it will explode like a bomb.

See we don’t know because they don’t want to tell us. Because when they speak, people just laugh, people bully them, so what they do is just keep the things inside, hide as much as they can.

Trauma is something that is underestimated until now, just like depression, just in the early years that people don't joke about them, because they understand how it was when more depressed people cut their life.

What do you think happens to people when they see something, their attacks that come in their heads, what you think the feeling of convincing yourself it was a fake and just a product of imagination if the person's brain gives a signal that it feels like real one?.

I also witnessed bullying where the man is known to be afraid of tods, a frog that’s had the disgusting look and spots. We were in the field of our university and someone threw the frog from somewhere, eventually, he ran fast in the field.

He didn't look irritated, just laughed too, but I could sense how he hides the irritations. Just make them laugh so the story ends, just make them make fun of him so they stop. Everyone laughed, and more people came closer to him. They asked if he was really scared of it, and we could see the redness of his facial colour.

I understand them because I also had a mild one, how about you lucky people who haven’t? Of course, you just laughed like any others, make fun of them.

Mine wasn’t that real trouble, I never mentioned mine to anyone. Not to be bullied because I am trying to fight it on my own, trying is really helping me but never gets over and removed yet.

I also mentioned my traumatic event about the dolls who looked like real babies in my 2021 article but never knew that I also suffered from something.

That’s when I get close to that thing my head feels artificially hurt, my head is like bagging itself so I will feel dizzy and just close my eyes to regain my strength and forget. Get out close to something that triggering my head.

It happened as a joke when I was young, yet how can I talk to myself? It's just people making fun of me even now that I am an adult I had that event in my head. How I face it still comes naturally, just adore it, secretly moving with the headache that’s what I did.

How to understand other weaknesses if we don’t feel the same? I don’t know, maybe we understand them when we feel what they're into, or the worst it's too late to understand.

Just like depression, trauma wasn’t a joke. Not funny things that entertain people.

Moreover, this write-up was our topic in the Group chat last night. Just banged my head and made a price for it. Thanks for reading…